Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind … You are who you hang around with……part 261

If there ever was a recipe for success, then it all boils down to one theorem, a golden rule that can help you climb every mountain: surround yourself with positive, hard-working and challenging people and you will always have a road to success.

Wallow in self-pity or surround yourself with people lacking confidence and you are sure to become just another blank figure staring aimlessly into the back of the picture.

Ask yourself this question: what is a friend?

Are all the people I know actually my friends or not?

Now we are getting near our real inquiry: should I leave my unsuccessful friends behind?

First of all, people that are not supportive when you need them the most are definitely not your friends. A good friend will hoist you up every time you feel that the ground beneath your feet is sinking, not put an extra shovel of dirt over the pit you fell into.

Also, a good friend is someone who understands you and gives you time to deal with certain issues. A true friend does not get mad when you can’t drop the thing you were doing just to hang out.

Tired of feeling dragged down by the people that surround you? Perhaps all you need are a couple of reasons to convince you that leaving old acquaintances behind and starting afresh is for the best.

Let’s make an analogy: if a tree is to grow and to blossom eventually, all that it needs is a good soil and sturdy roots. Friends can be a little like the ground: if the ground is right than the tree will grow. Subsequently, should that ground be arid and sterile than the tree will never grow and will wither away much faster.

Having the right people near you can make all the difference. Supportive, inquisitive people who would often challenge your beliefs can encourage you to become better, and ultimately, more successful.

On the other hand, friends who question you every decision and have no desire to improve themselves, will always drag you down, making you feel worthless.

Studies have proven that our personalities are primarily determined by the nature of our relationship to other people.

Why should you take this step with an open-heart?

Because you don’t need someone around constantly whispering in your ear: “Give up! There’s no point in all of this.” Success can be, at times, a lonely endeavor, but should you gain the trust of someone who respects your position and all that you have to do to achieve your goal, then that person alone can truly be called a friend.

The worst opponent an individual must face, sooner or later, is himself. Bad companions can only bring out the worst emotions that stir inside us. Self-pity, lack of confidence, low self-esteem, the constant need to complain how life is unfair – all these are symptoms that we are surrounded by toxic companions .

How can an individual even dream of touching the sky, when the only thing he can see is an empty, dark room filled with old memories and a dying lightbulb? To reach the sky means to sprout wings and to fly, but how can anyone achieve such feat when their wings are clipped?

The duality of human nature and influence of bad company are perfectly portrayed by “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde”, two personas that are nothing alike but who share a powerful bond.

Man is not truly one, but truly two.

If we are to climb the ladder and to ascend to new heights, we need to tap into our positive resources and let go of all those who intend to drag us down.

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Thank you …Remember that embarrassing picture your friends made you take at the last party? You might commit this memory to the past, but your future partners will not look upon it with kindness. Unsuccessful people spend most of their time being envious on individuals who want to better themselves.

Such a company will only attract a negative response from those you are looking forward to collaborating with. Think about what will happen if your future employer would see that picture or read all the comments in which your acquaintances made fun of you?

We believe not. Once upon a time, not so long ago, there was a man who managed to rise from pauper to prince just by taking a look around to see who his friends really were.

The man got tired of living day after day on scraps and decided to do everything he could to earn a name and a reputation. Then a wise old man came and taught the boy all about the golden rule of success, a lesson which he abided by.

Want to add word or two?

Being self-aware doesn’t necessarily mean that you are selfish. Unsuccessful friends who only call you when they need you are selfish. People who understand the negative implications of such relationships are self-aware.

Some would mistake your self-awareness for selfishness … always thinking about yourself, forever ignoring the people around you. This is nothing but a textbook definition of envy or the kind of response you will get from your friends who would rather remain unsuccessful and miserable than see you grow.

Never forget: self-awareness is a sacred duty, one that rises above everything else. It would be selfish to think that you are no use to anyone and to waste your talents and energy following around people who don’t know what they want to do with their lives.

Your comment…?

Maybe you're working on being more positive after years of chronic negativity. Perhaps you're a new vegetarian because it more closely resonates with your beliefs. Maybe you spend your Friday nights now at GYM instead of the bar.

At the same time, conversations with loved ones feel awkward. Topics you cared about now seem redundant. It seems impossible to find a deep and satisfying connection anymore. You feel unnourished and unheard because unfortunately, you are.

Many of our old friends are simply old friends because we went to school with them or grew up around them. These friendships were born out of convenience, not necessarily by choice.

Many friends and even family are no longer an energetic match for you. And guess what? That's a great thing! But it may not feel so great at first.