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A. Success Formula

1. Formula 1

My first argument features a rather sophisticated look formula, but actually very simple, for the probability of success, P(s), (small "s") which intricately links several variables to illustrate their combined effect on the likelihood of achieving success. Let’s delve into each component to construct a more accurate narrative.

P(s), representing the probability of success, is the result of an intricate function involving several key factors:

• The integral sign ∫ suggests that success is an accumulation of efforts over the domain x, which can represent time, effort, or other resources. This implies that success is not a singular event but a cumulative process that unfolds over time.
• dx represents a small increment within this domain, emphasizing that progress toward success is often achieved in incremental steps.
• S stands for the ability to speak, which might symbolize storytelling skills. This component acknowledges the power of oral communication and narrative in conveying ideas and engaging audiences, which is vital in many paths to success.
• W symbolizes the ability to write, indicating literacy or the capacity to express oneself through written word. Writing proficiency allows for the articulation of complex ideas and extends one’s influence beyond immediate verbal interactions.
• q(K,π,τ) represents the quality of communication, writing, or ideas, which is a function of knowledge (K), practice (π), and talent (τ). Each plays a crucial role:K: Knowledge, suggesting the depth of understanding and information one has acquired. It forms the substantive basis of what one communicates.π: Practice, implying the amount of training and experience one has engaged in. Practice refines and sharpens skills, enhancing the quality of output.τ: Talent, or the natural aptitude one possesses. Talent can give an initial advantage but requires nurturing through practice and learning to be fully realized.

The constraints, denoted by α>β>γ and ωK > ωπ > ωτ, establish a hierarchy and relationships between these variables:

• α>β>γ likely compares the relative importance or impact of speaking (α), writing (β), and the quality (γ) of ideas or communication.
• ωK > ωπ > ωτ specifies that knowledge (ωK) when combined with the weight ω, has a greater impact on success than practice (ωπ) and talent (ωτ).

This formula, therefore, captures a holistic view of success, considering the interplay between communication skills (speaking and writing), the quality of ideas (influenced by knowledge, practice, and talent), and the weight of each in contributing to the ultimate goal of success. It acknowledges that while talent is valuable, the enhancement of knowledge and the refinement of skills through practice are more significant contributors to the quality of one’s ideas and, consequently, to the probability of success.

Let's explore these scenarios to demonstrate how the interplay between knowledge, practice, talent, and the abilities of storytelling and writing can affect the likelihood of success according to the formula and its constraints:

1. The Untapped Potential: Imagine a young prodigy with innate talent (τ) for music but little practice (ωπ) and even less formal knowledge (ωK) of musical theory. This individual may have innovative musical ideas but lacks the ability to fully express or develop them due to limited experience (α>β>γ). Even with natural talent, the quality (q) of their compositions may not reach their full potential without the enhancement of knowledge and practice. As time progresses (∫), if they do not invest effort into developing their skills and acquiring knowledge, they may remain on the fringes of the musical world, unable to effectively communicate their raw talent.
2. The Diligent Craftsman: Consider a person with no initial talent (τ=0) in writing, but who dedicates years to practicing (ωπ) and studying the craft (ωK). Over time, their quality of writing (q) improves significantly. They also learn to captivate audiences through engaging storytelling (α). This individual exemplifies how consistent effort and the acquisition of knowledge can compensate for a lack of natural ability, ultimately increasing their probability of success in the literary field.
3. The Hidden Genius: A third individual may possess a high quality of ideas (q) due to exceptional talent, practice, and knowledge. However, if they lack the ability to engage through storytelling (α), they might struggle to gain recognition. Despite their profound insights or innovations, without the ability to capture an audience's attention and communicate effectively, their ideas may not achieve the impact they deserve.
4. The Charismatic Orator: Lastly, picture someone with excellent storytelling abilities (α) who can hold the attention of a room but whose ideas lack substance (q is low due to limited knowledge (ωK) and practice (ωπ)). While they may initially captivate audiences, over time, the lack of depth in their content may become apparent, and their influence could wane. This scenario illustrates that while storytelling is a powerful tool, it must be coupled with quality content to sustain success.

These scenarios highlight the importance of balancing and developing all aspects of the success formula. Talent alone is not enough; it must be nurtured with knowledge and practice. Similarly, the ability to communicate through storytelling or writing can amplify one's success but only if there is valuable content to share. The formula suggests that a harmonious development of all these elements, sustained over time and with effort, maximizes the probability of success.

To add more nuance into my writing, let's consider "The Death of Expertise" by Tom Nichols which explores the diminishing respect for expertise in modern American society. The book argues that a culture of narcissism and the rise of the Internet have led to a dismissal of experts and established knowledge. Nichols asserts that this trend is not only unprecedented but also dangerous, as it hinders informed public discourse and democratic processes. The book isn't about the absence of expert abilities, but rather the public's growing resistance to expert advice, fueled by a misguided belief that personal opinion is as valid as expert knowledge. The title isn't clickbait; it accurately reflects the book's examination of the decline in the public's regard for expertise and the consequences of this attitude. The author doesn't suggest that being an expert is unnecessary; instead, he emphasizes the importance of expertise and the challenges posed by its declining value in society. To which examples the book is inclined into? (1 and 3)

2. Fomula 2

The second equation expands on the multifaceted nature of success, incorporating elements of dissatisfaction, strategic planning, execution, and the role of what many might call 'luck' or divine intervention.

At the heart of this model is the premise that a fundamental dissatisfaction with the status quo (Δ) acts as a catalyst for change. It's the discomfort with the present that propels individuals to strategize (M) and develop a robust framework to address their discontent. This strategy isn't static; it's an adaptable model designed to overcome obstacles and optimize outcomes.

The execution of this strategy (E) is not a mere implementation but an exemplary performance by an individual who embodies anti-fragility. Anti-fragility goes beyond resilience, as it describes a person who doesn't just withstand adversity but thrives because of it. The quality of execution is thus influenced by the individual's ability to leverage challenges as growth opportunities, improving with each setback rather than merely recovering to a baseline.

Humility plays a central role in this equation, grounding the individual in a state of openness to outcomes beyond their control. This humility allows for the recognition of 'luck' or 'God's intervention' (ξ), acknowledging that despite one's best efforts, there are factors at play that can neither be predicted nor controlled. In this model, such humility doesn't negate effort but complements it, creating space for serendipitous events that can significantly impact the journey to success.

The function of luck (ξ(θ, ρ, κ)) is defined as the interplay between opportunity (θ), preparation (ρ), and action (κ). For luck to be actualized, all three elements must be present and nonzero. Opportunity without preparation or action is squandered potential, preparation without opportunity or action is stagnant readiness, and action without preparation or opportunity is directionless energy. When these elements align, and the individual is prepared and poised to act upon arising opportunities, what is often termed as 'luck' manifests.

In summary, this equation suggests that success is a product of both controlled and uncontrollable variables. It champions the idea that while one can strategize and execute to the highest standards, there is an element of the unpredictable that often intercedes. Recognizing and embracing this duality—striving for excellence while remaining humble and receptive to fortune or providence—forms a holistic approach to defining and pursuing success.

3. Luck

Before providing examples, I want to explore on the topic of “luck”.

Choosing whether to use a plus or a minus sign before the luck component in the success equation depends on the perspective on how 'luck' — or factors outside one's immediate control — interacts with the rest of the elements contributing to success.

• Plus Sign (+): If we view luck as a positive influence that can enhance the efforts and strategies (Δ.M.E) one employs, then a plus sign would be appropriate. This implies that when opportunities arise, and we are prepared and ready to act, luck can play a beneficial role in success. It suggests that luck, combined with strategy and execution, can lead to outcomes greater than the sum of their parts.
• Minus Sign (-): Alternatively, relying on luck can sometimes detract from the merit of strategic planning and execution — perhaps by encouraging complacency or overconfidence — then a minus sign could reflect that stance. It would indicate that luck could potentially undermine or offset the value of one's deliberate efforts to achieve success.

Maintaining the minus sign in this success equation emphasizes a nuanced understanding of success — it suggests that external factors often perceived as 'luck' can subtract from the merit of one’s own strategic efforts and execution. This viewpoint encourages individuals to focus on factors within their control, such as their dissatisfaction driving them to strategize and execute effectively, rather than relying on serendipity or external interventions.

By keeping the minus, the equation acknowledges the value and importance of personal agency and the potential for 'luck' to lead to complacency. It's a reminder that while we cannot control every aspect of our lives, the core of success often lies in how we respond to and act upon the challenges and opportunities that come our way.

Examples:

Scenario 1: The Comfortable Rich Individual

A person who is already wealthy and lives in a comfort zone might not feel the dissatisfaction (Δ) that often drives the hunger for success. Without this fundamental dissatisfaction, the impetus to create a robust strategy (M) or the drive for consistent, excellent execution (E) may be lacking. According to the formula, their probability of success in new ventures might be limited if they remain complacent.

If we interpret the minus sign before the luck factor (ξ) as suggesting that luck or divine intervention might detract from success, it could imply that this individual might rely too much on existing fortunes. This reliance could diminish the need for active engagement with opportunity (θ), preparation (ρ), and action (κ), leading to a lower function of luck or perceived divine intervention in their path to success.

Scenario 2: Lack of Strategic Framework Due to Limited Training

Imagine an individual brimming with the drive to improve their circumstances. They have the dissatisfaction (Δ) necessary to spark change, but they lack the training or exposure to develop a solid strategy (M). Without this framework, they find it challenging to organize their efforts effectively. They may take actions (κ) and seek opportunities (θ), but their moves are less coordinated, reducing the effectiveness of their endeavors. The equation suggests that without a robust strategy, even a strong sense of urgency and desire for improvement might not translate into a high probability of success. Their actions, while earnest, may not compound effectively over time (∫), leading to outcomes that fall short of their potential.

Scenario 3: Over-Mentoring without Internalization

In another situation, an individual may have access to abundant advice and mentorship. They recognize their need for change and are open to guidance, yet they find themselves inundated with a plethora of conflicting suggestions. While mentorship is invaluable, the key to benefiting from it lies in internalizing and synthesizing the advice into a coherent personal strategy (M). However, if this person gets lost in the sea of advice without critically evaluating and internalizing the insights to form their own framework, they may find themselves executing (E) without direction. The equation denotes that without their own strategic model, the execution, no matter how well-intended, could be disjointed and less impactful. They might be 'busy' being mentored but not progressing towards success because the advice isn't coalescing into a solid, actionable plan.[1]

Scenario 4: All conditions apply.

The individual is not complacent but is instead motivated to step out of their comfort zone. They possess the acumen to absorb and adapt a strategic model (M), and are equipped with a mentor who provides the necessary support for the execution of this strategy (E). The mentorship here is invaluable; it doesn't merely comfort but challenges and pushes the individual towards growth.

The disturbance they experience is not a setback but a motivator, driving them to engage fully with their strategic plan. With the mentor’s guidance, they navigate through challenges, converting disturbance into determination. Their smart application of the model, coupled with the mentor’s insight, enhances their actions (κ), aligns them with opportunities (θ), and ensures readiness to seize them (ρ).[2]

In this narrative, the minus sign before the luck factor (ξ) in the equation might represent potential setbacks or unforeseen events. Yet, with a strong strategic framework, these are not merely overcome; they become integral to the story of success, transforming disturbances into strengths. This person’s journey exemplifies that leaving the comfort zone, with the right strategy and guidance, can significantly amplify the probability of success (P(s)).

4. Unintended Factor or Higher Order Feedback

People must rely on and make the most of their whatever available resources, their intelligent capacity, their networks. Provided they have exhausted all, unfortunately there is a small factor, no matter how small that is, can make all the effort meaningless. That is what I call “higher order feedback”, or “unintended effect”.

In the grand narrative of success, the Yod — representing the divine name, sacred and often unspoken — stands as a metaphor for the "higher order feedback," the ineffable and enigmatic force that can influence the outcome of our endeavors. This mystical element, akin to the Yod of the tetragrammaton, serves as a powerful reminder of the divine or cosmic influences that may guide the arcs of our lives.

As we navigate the journey towards success, we do so under the watchful eye of this higher order, a force as unpredictable as it is potent. It can act as the sudden shift in market dynamics, a chance encounter that sparks a breakthrough, or the small decision that sets off a cascade of consequences. This Yod-like influence, though often a subtle presence in the equation, is significant enough to act as a multiplier of the probability of success, or if absent, to reduce all efforts to naught.

In this narrative, the Yod underscores our role not merely as agents of our destiny but also as participants in a larger design, a cosmic order where human efforts and divine will intersect. It is a humbling acknowledgment that the path we walk is one that is co-authored — by our actions, the winds of chance, and the silent whispers of the divine.

In this narrative, we acknowledge that our journey is enlivened by the winds of fate and serendipity. These forces can propel us to new heights, like a business that thrives due to a shift in market dynamics or lead us to serendipitous breakthroughs through chance encounters. Even our smallest decisions may have a ripple effect, pivoting our path in directions we never anticipated.

This "higher order feedback" serves as a reminder that the success formula is far from simple. It's a complex algorithm where the X factor—those unpredictable elements of reality—plays a crucial role. Our story, therefore, includes not only the strategies and actions we diligently plan but also the opportunities and coincidences that we encounter.

Within this delicate interplay of skill, preparation, and the unforeseen, lies the true pursuit of success. It's a dance where the choreography of our deliberate efforts meets the spontaneous steps dictated by forces beyond our ken. Our grand narrative thus encompasses both the journey we actively chart and the unexpected gusts that redirect us, often leading us to destinations we could never have reached through effort alone.

B. How Do You Define Success?

This saga of success invites us to embrace the full spectrum of our experiences, recognizing that while we may steer our ship with intent, the currents of "higher order feedback" are partners in our voyage, sometimes challenging, sometimes rewarding, but always integral to the odyssey of life.

With that in mind, how do you define success? How do you measure a success? I will never propose a success is merely a function of accumulated wealth. Being a whole human is inversely proportional of having abundant of unnecessary wants and wishes, never ending and unfinished search of gold and money and fame.

1. Leo Tolstoy's Approach

Leo Tolstoy's metaphor of a man as a fraction offers a profound perspective on self-perception and humility, which can be applied to the concept of success. In his metaphor, our intrinsic worth is the unchanging numerator, a constant value that does not fluctuate with our successes or failures. It represents the core of our being, our innate humanity that remains regardless of external achievements.

The denominator, however, is how we perceive ourselves, and it is here that humility comes into play. As Tolstoy suggests, the larger the denominator — that is, the less significant we view our role in the grand scheme of things — the smaller the fraction of our self-importance becomes. This is not to be mistaken for self-deprecation; rather, it is an understanding that we are part of a much larger world, a recognition that invites a more selfless approach to life.

Building on this metaphor, success can be seen not as an accumulation of wealth or fame but as becoming a "whole human." Being whole is inversely proportional to harboring an abundance of unnecessary wants and wishes. It suggests that the endless pursuit of material possessions, gold, money, and fame can actually detract from our wholeness, echoing the mathematical principle that as one value increases, the other decreases — "berbanding terbalik." Just as in Tolstoy's fraction, where increasing the denominator decreases the value of the fraction, so too does the increase in unnecessary desires diminish our sense of completeness and satisfaction.

Thus, true success might be defined less by what we acquire and more by what we shed — the excess of wants that clutter our journey. It's measured not by the wealth we gather but by the depth of character we cultivate and the genuine human connections we foster. In the quest to be whole, success is found in the balance of fulfilling our potential while maintaining the humility to see beyond ourselves and serve the greater good.

The act of giving can be a powerful reflection of how we perceive ourselves and our place in the world, directly affecting the denominator in Tolstoy's metaphor.

In the pursuit of success, giving can be an immediate and tangible expression of an expanded self-perception. When we give — whether it's through creating jobs, offering education, providing shelter, sharing knowledge, or improving health — we acknowledge our connection to others and recognize our capacity to impact lives beyond our own. This act of giving is a demonstration of our care for those in precarious situations and our commitment to the well-being of our community.

Incorporating giving into the denominator of Tolstoy's fraction amplifies its value, thereby reducing the fraction that represents our self-importance. This aligns with the notion that by increasing our investment in the welfare of others, we decrease the focus on ourselves. It’s a manifestation of humility that resonates with the very core of being a "whole human." The more we contribute to the welfare of others, the more we understand our role as part of a larger collective.

In Arabic, the concept closely related to charitable giving and self-sacrifice is "Sadaqah" (????). Sadaqah is an Islamic term that means voluntary charity or giving out of compassion, love, friendship, religious duty, or generosity. The concept of charitable giving and self-sacrifice is reflected in various passages, one of which is from the Book of Proverbs: "Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will reward them for what they have done." (Proverbs 19:17, New International Version). In Buddhism, the concept of giving is known as "Dana," which translates to generosity or giving freely. Dana is considered one of the fundamental virtues and practices in Buddhism, as it cultivates selflessness, compassion, and detachment from material possessions. The act of giving in Buddhism is not limited to material gifts but also includes giving of one's time, skills, knowledge, and compassion. In Hinduism, Dana is not only about giving material possessions but also includes giving food, shelter, knowledge, and spiritual guidance. It is believed that by practicing Dana with a pure heart and without expectation of reward, individuals purify their minds, cultivate virtues such as compassion and generosity, and ultimately progress on the path towards spiritual liberation (moksha). Laozi's teachings suggest that one should act without striving or forcing outcomes, instead allowing events to unfold naturally. In this context, giving can be seen as an act of spontaneous compassion and generosity that arises from one's alignment with the Tao. Rather than being motivated by a sense of obligation or expectation of reward, giving in Taoism arises effortlessly and spontaneously from a state of inner harmony and selflessness. Confucianism, on the other hand, does emphasize the importance of benevolence (ren, 仁) and the practice of ethical behavior in interpersonal relationships. While Confucius himself didn't specifically focus on charitable giving as a religious or spiritual practice, his teachings stress the importance of compassion, filial piety, and social responsibility. In Judaism, Tzedakah is not only seen as a charitable act but also as a means of rectifying social injustices and promoting the values of compassion, empathy, and justice within society. The practice of Tzedakah is considered essential for fostering a sense of communal responsibility and for fulfilling the Jewish imperative to repair the world (Tikkun Olam).

Thus, success, when measured through this lens, becomes a function not just of personal achievement but of the generosity we extend to those around us. It's a success that's not accounted for by the wealth we accumulate, but by the richness we bring to the lives of others. In this way, giving becomes a fundamental metric of success, reflecting a life lived with purpose and compassion, where self-worth is intertwined with the support and upliftment of our fellow beings.

2. The True Nature of Power and Humility

The philosophies of C.S. Lewis and Oskar Schindler provide compelling arguments for the positive nature of seeing oneself with humility.

Lewis’s perspective on humility presents it as a redirection of focus from the self to others. This approach posits that true greatness is found in serving and considering the needs of others, rather than fixating on one's own achievements or status. This isn't about devaluing oneself, but rather about valuing others and recognizing our interconnectedness. Such humility can lead to a life of service, where success is not measured in personal accolades but in contributions to the welfare of the community.

Schindler’s understanding of power offers a vivid example of humility in action. His choice to save lives when he could have turned away demonstrates a profound exercise of power characterized by restraint and compassion. This narrative suggests that power used ethically and for the good of others, even at great personal risk or cost, is the truest form of success. It's a success that endures in the lives saved and the moral standards set, echoing across generations.

When integrating these insights with the concept of giving, as an aspect of how we perceive ourselves, we can see that success and power lie not in what we accumulate for ourselves, but in what we contribute to others. This might manifest as acts of charity, mentorship, leadership, or innovation that serves the greater good. By prioritizing giving and service over personal gain, we embody the kind of humility espoused by Lewis and Schindler, and in doing so, we find a more meaningful and enduring form of success.

Supposedly you are successful, using those frameworks, what then? Can you reach “success” even with “giving” but violating ethics, conscience, moral values along the way? You can. A lot of evil people reach to the top that way. Actually, the more I think about the more I realize why “value” is not in the equation. Only when you ask this question “What more progression and how you will end and be remembered after?” “Will you finish strong?”

3. Being Trustworthy

Drawing from the frameworks outlined in the slide, success in the role of a trusted advisor hinges on a delicate balance of credibility, reliability, intimacy, and a minimized self-orientation, all while adhering to an integral pursuit of truth. Success that is achieved without ethics, conscience, and moral values may indeed be possible — history is not short of examples where individuals have reached heights of power and influence through questionable means. However, such 'success' is inherently flawed and potentially transient.

The framework for a trusted advisor, as proposed, is rooted deeply in ethical engagement. It's a formula where credibility is established through honesty, reliability through consistent actions, and intimacy through genuine connections that surpass mere transactional interactions. Self-orientation is diminished, placing the client's needs and glory above one's own, embodying a service-oriented mindset. This formula is multiplied by an ongoing commitment to truth (dTruth), represented by the integral from zero to infinity. The integral implies a continuous and never-ending dedication to one's raison d'être, or reason for being, which should ideally align with one's deepest values.

Reflecting upon the three established equations previously discussed, where the explicit term "value" is not mentioned, the absence does not imply that values are inconsequential. Instead, it underscores a profound principle: the essence of true success, particularly in the context of a trusted advisor, is deeply interwoven with one's conduct and intrinsic values, even if they are not quantified in the mathematical representation.

The equations we explored — encompassing the integration of skills, effort, and the role of "higher order feedback" such as the Yod — implicitly rely on underlying values. These values are the guiding principles behind the actions and decisions that these formulas represent. They are the moral compass that directs the application of talent (τ), the acquisition of knowledge (K), and the dedication to practice (π) in a manner that is both ethical and beneficial to others.

In the grander scheme, as we consider success through these models, the unspoken yet pivotal role of values is ever-present. They are the foundation upon which credibility, reliability, and intimacy are built — key elements in the trusted advisor formula. They shape the "raison d'être" that propels one's pursuit of truth and the commitment to ethical principles over a lifetime.

The narrative around the absence of the explicit term "value" in the equations is not an oversight but a subtle acknowledgment that values are intrinsic and omnipresent, influencing every variable and outcome within the formulas. They are the silent yet powerful force that, while not always visible in the equation's syntax, are critical to defining the character and legacy of a trusted advisor. This revision serves to align with the understanding that values, though not always named, are integral to the journey and the final measure of true success.

The integral of truth suggests that staying true to one's values is not a one-time act but a lifelong commitment, echoing Professor Clayton Christensen's sentiment that consistency in values is crucial. It is easier to maintain integrity 100% of the time than to do so selectively. As Christensen himself said, "it's easier to stay true to your values 100% of the time than it is to stay true 98% of the time. The moment you compromise, you're tempted to do it again." This principle highlights the importance of unwavering adherence to one's moral and ethical standards, as even the slightest deviation can lead to a slippery slope of further compromises.

When contemplating the end of one's career or life, the questions of "What more progression?" and "How will you be remembered?" become pivotal. They invoke a reflection beyond immediate success to the legacy one leaves. "Will you finish strong?" asks whether the path to success was paved with integrity and whether the influence exerted will endure positively in the memories of those impacted by one's actions.

The narrative around the slide suggests that true success as a trusted advisor is not just about achieving goals but about the way those goals are attained. It's about building a legacy of trust through unwavering adherence to truth and values, and ultimately, about the strength and integrity of one's finish — how one's actions resonate in the tapestry of human relationships and history long after individual milestones are achieved.

4. Do not worship growth mindset!

You are created beautifully by the Creator. Whether you are introvert or extrovert, whether you are prone to have growth mindset or prone to have fixed mindset. The value we uphold differs us from other creatures who normally so close to succumb easily to brain stem impulse.

I divide people into 4 cells in 2x2 matrix called value based mindset framework (Tambun and Irawan, 2024).

1.???????????? Growth Mindset with Upheld Ethics and Morale: Individuals in this quadrant are characterized by their belief in personal development and growth, underpinned by a strong adherence to ethical and moral values. This blend leads to a dynamic yet principled approach to challenges and learning, embodying adaptability without compromising ethical integrity.

2.???????????? Fixed Mindset with Upheld Ethics and Morale: Here, we find individuals who possess a rigid perception of their abilities, yet this is balanced by a steadfast commitment to ethics and morals. Despite their reluctance to embrace change, their strong values guide their actions, ensuring consistent and principled decision-making.

3.???????????? Growth Mindset Succumbing to Brain Stem Impulse: Occupants of this quadrant believe in their ability to grow but often find their actions driven by primal instincts. This intersection can lead to behaviors that prioritize immediate, instinctual responses over ethical considerations, posing challenges in maintaining moral integrity in the face of adaptability and change.

4.???????????? Fixed Mindset Succumbing to Brain Stem Impulse: This quadrant represents a concerning combination where individuals exhibit resistance to growth and change, with their actions predominantly driven by basic survival impulses. Lacking both the drive for personal development and moral restraint, this mix can lead to potentially harmful behaviors, marked by stagnation and impulsivity.

This framework offers a comprehensive lens through which we can examine human behavior. It highlights the complex interplay between our mindset orientations — whether inclined towards growth or fixity — and our ethical or primal inclinations. The model suggests that neither mindset alone suffices in predicting behavior; rather, it's the combination with our ethical compass or instinctual drives that paints a more complete picture. While growth and fixed mindsets provide valuable insights into our approach to challenges and learning, integrating these concepts with our ethical values or primal instincts reveals a richer, more nuanced understanding of human behavior. This 2x2 Value Based Mindset framework encourages us to look beyond traditional categorizations and consider the multifaceted nature of our actions and decisions, offering a deeper comprehension of the human psyche.

Values, raison d'être, and purpose in life may be distinct from the concepts of growth and fixed mindsets, as they stem from a deeper, more conscious choice, as deep as brain stem. While mindsets influence how we approach challenges and learning, values and purpose provide the ethical framework and motivation that guide our actions and decisions.

Is it perhaps true that having a growth mindset without underlying values can lead to a sense of aimlessness and misery. The drive for improvement and adaptability, unanchored by a moral compass, can lead to unethical choices and a lack of fulfillment.

Or is it conversely, possessing a fixed mindset devoid of values can be even more detrimental. Such a combination results in rigidity and resistance to change, without the guiding principles necessary to navigate life ethically and meaningfully. In both cases, the absence of values can lead to a life that lacks direction and moral grounding, underscoring the importance of integrating values with any mindset.

5. The Key to Lifelong Happiness

My final statement is “how do you see yourself in the end”. What the science says about people who end strong? (read: happy).

The Key to Lifelong Happiness: What truly makes for a happy, healthy life? (Not power, not money, not fame, not degree, not hero)*)

Here are the keys:

?? SOCIAL CONNECTIONS are Good for Us: Deep connections with family, friends, and community lead to greater happiness, health, and longevity. It's the quality of these relationships that matters most.

?? QUALITY OF CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS MATTER: It's the depth and warmth of relationships that significantly impact mental and emotional health. Stable, supportive relationships are key.

?? PHYSICAL HEALTH Linked to Relationship Health: A strong correlation exists between the health of our relationships and our physical well-being, especially in later years.

Initiated in 1938 by Dr. Clark Heath, the Harvard Study of Adult Development (Valliant, 2012) began with two groups: 268 Harvard sophomores and 456 young men from Boston's less privileged neighborhoods. Over the decades, researchers have meticulously tracked the lives of these men, exploring the intricacies of their physical and emotional health. Most of the original participants have passed away, but the study continues with their offspring, maintaining its rich legacy of research. The Harvard Study of Adult Development not only reveals the key elements of a happy life but also serves as a guide for generations to come.

Currently directed by Dr. Robert Waldinger (Waldinger, 2021), a psychiatrist and professor at Harvard Medical School, the study continues to offer invaluable insights into what makes a life fulfilling. Prof. Waldinger's recent work ((Waldinger and Schulz, 2023) emphasizes the critical role of relationships in our health and happiness. Reflecting on these findings, it's clear how our relationships fundamentally shape our journey through life.

D. Life is a journey yes?

This is I think the 4th series of write-up about success, which I am not fan of talking about it. I am more proud of my failures, because I learn more from them. Success for a naturally prone to one is like a magnet, hence failures are more interesting to learn from after overcoming and in hindsight. Please refer to https://lnkd.in/gP4Z_ZgqIn the whole measure of universe, we are a paradox: nothing but something in His eye (a masculine personification and an anthrofication of G_d as if he had eye and senses). I wrote about this in https://lnkd.in/g2NPhuxfWhat relieved me in 2019 are the learnings that human are irrational, teams / other people are necessary to be around, and there is this "unintended effect" or "higher order feedback" in our life. https://lnkd.in/g4c8jk3V

"Ecclesiastes (Kohelet) 1:2: Vanity of vanities, says Kohelet; vanity of vanities, all is vanity." This reflects the theme of the book, which is a philosophical reflection on the meaning of life and the best way to live, often emphasizing the fleeting nature of worldly pursuits. What is not vanity ? what is not considered vanity in Ecclesiastes is found in the final verses of the book, Ecclesiastes 12:13-14, where the Preacher (Kohelet) concludes his philosophical exploration:

"The end of the matter; all has been heard. Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil." Thus, according to Ecclesiastes, fearing God and keeping His commandments is not vanity. This reflects the book's ultimate message that finding purpose and meaning in life comes from recognizing and living in accordance with divine principles, which transcends the temporary and often unsatisfying nature of worldly pursuits.

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[1] Both scenarios highlight the importance of strategic planning and execution in the journey toward success. They illustrate that while a sense of urgency and access to mentorship are significant, they must be coupled with a capacity to absorb, refine, and apply the guidance to one's unique context. It’s not merely the presence of resources or advice that dictates success; it’s how one utilizes these inputs to craft and follow a strategic path forward.

[2] In this narrative, the minus sign before the luck factor (ξ) in the equation might represent potential setbacks or unforeseen events. Yet, with a strong strategic framework, these are not merely overcome; they become integral to the story of success, transforming disturbances into strengths. This person’s journey exemplifies that leaving the comfort zone, with the right strategy and guidance, can significantly amplify the probability of success (P(s)).

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