Success Starts With Self-Love. Happy Heart Day to YOU.
Andrea L. Enright
? Life’s Boxes, But Still Feel Blah? || I Help Women Do Hard Things & Come HOME to SELF || 25 Yr Brand Messaging Guru, Speaker, Podcaster, B Movie Actress || You CAN Go Your Own Way--Fleetwood Mac Was Right
I've noticed that many of my successful clients ( Peter Harper Marcia Donziger , Luisa Franco, CAFP Bruce Kabat , Julia Bourlakov CFP? and Your Financial Organizer , Carol Parrish, RICP? ,) are good at putting themselves first. NOT in a selfish way........... in a healthy way.
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If you've ever built a house.....
or created a weekly schedule....
or sketched a drawing.....
or decorated a room....
.....you've designed something based on YOUR preferences.?
But as part of a family or a team, there comes a point where we can sometimes LOSE our own preferences because we're SO DARN accustomed to catering to others.?
EXAMPLE: (I realize, sometimes, that figuring out what I want for dinner is SO muddied by anticipating what my husband and daughter want.)
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When I got married back in 2005, my husband and I were very intentional about this long term commitment and the shape we wanted it to take.?
Most marriages we saw resembled the letter "A".?
***Two lines, each representing a human, ending with each other and leaning on each other, with a short line connecting them in the middle.****?
So if ONE fell, the other did too.?
(There's a Dixie Chicks song called If I Fall You're Going Down With Me, but it would not load here, sigh)
But we decided that we preferred our marriage be a letter "H".?
***Two straight lines, each on an endless individual path, and always connected (and often compromising) in the middle.?Together, but individual******
We felt like standing ON OUR OWN little pieces of earth was important.
We tried.
But it was WAY HARD. Culture screams:
People pleasing is the WAY!
Don't cause conflict!
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Pretend you're happy!
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So....we've done a shit-ton of personal growth and meditated and fought and remained patient and got very honest....and we're trying to get back on the H track.?
YUP.......It's about self-love
I love ME first.?
Ask yourself:
--What do I want?
--What are my preferences?
--Who am I?
--Who am I not?
****And as you might guess, self-love and boundaries in your personal life flows like a big fat strawberry smoothie toward your professional life.*****
--Are you claiming yourself?
--Do you love yourself more than others?
--Are you holding your ground?
--Do you cater to your clients or your partner or your vendors too much?
--Are you taking projects you don't want?
If this gave you pause for thought, please oh pretty please tell me why......because I love finding revolutionary sisters and brothers, yo.
I'm in the business of transformation. I help people BECOME.
If you're interested in going deeper than most business banter on LinkedIn, phone moi.
It all starts with loving one's self, such an important truth. Often hard to do, though.
Small business owner in the trades l Coach for those needing second chances in life l Compassion + Faith
2 年I learned a lot of this from you, Andrea L. Enright! Helps me every day. ?? ??
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2 年There's not enough communication about these things when one gets married or committed to a partner, let alone after the fact. I love the metaphor of an A vs. an H relationship. I love how you show so much about who you are and who will relate with best with your posts.
Fun "Anti-CRM" for Solo Consultants Who Hate "Selling" but Love Serving Clients. Put the "relationship" back in CRM: conversations, referrals, follow-up, lead magnets, proposals. Host of the Sales for Nerds Podcast ????
2 年Also hard to compromise in a way that increases happiness if you don't know what your partner really wants.
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2 年Andrea L. Enright YES!!! This resonates with me totally. How can be do ANYTHING for others unless we take care of ourselves first. It goes back to the oxygen masks on the airplane; you first, then the baby.