The Subtle Art of...

Recently I have read an interesting book, "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" by Mark Manson. The book has been praised for its honesty and unconventional advice. Author argues that happiness comes not from trying to be positive all the time, but from accepting negative emotions and focusing on what is truly important.

It was an interesting read, and there are plenty things you could get from the book, but I would like to only share couple of my key takeaways:

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Life is suffering.?

Well, it sounds harsh and pessimistic, but it is actually NOT. We all experience pain, failure, and disappointment. People often try to avoid or numb these negative emotions, believing that they will make us unhappy. However, author argues that this is a futile endeavor. Trying to suppress or ignore our suffering only makes it worse.

Don’t be “surprised” that why this job or task is so horrible, or the relationship is so tough… since they are just part of life, and life is suffering… (Not to go all Buddha on you…).

The message is not about giving up or resigning ourselves to a life of misery. Instead, it's about accepting our suffering and using it to become stronger and more resilient. By facing our pain head-on, we can learn to live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. So, what can we do?...

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Not everything matters.?

If the life is ALL suffering, so how can we not to worry? There are a lot of things in life that we don't need to worry about. Well, as the book title suggested, there is a subtle art in it , of course.

The simple answer is to “choose”. You could choose the pain or suffering that you want to go through with. Like the pain you’re going through when you running a 10k, so that one day you could finish a Marathon or having a healthier body; The headaches and frustrations that you have when you’re trying to master a new skill. So, by willingly choosing the ones which could help you to grow, physically or mentally, you can actually enjoy the journeys to your destinations.

Then what about the other sufferings? therefore, the concept of “f*ck budget” was introduced by the author, it’s suggesting that we each have a finite amount of energy and emotional capacity to expend on caring about various aspects of our lives, or put more bluntly, to give a f*ck about something. The author encourages us to carefully consider what deserves our attention and what doesn't, recognizing that not everything demands our full emotional investment.

The book encourages us to let go of excessive attachments to external validation, approval, and status. Mr. Manson says that these pursuits often lead to feelings of frustration and disappointment, as we strive to meet unrealistic expectations that ultimately leave us unfulfilled.

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It's okay to be wrong.?

Everyone makes mistakes. The important thing is to learn from them and move on. Mr. Manson challenges the common notion that failure is something to be avoided at all costs. Instead, he encourages us to embrace failure as an inevitable part of the learning process and a valuable source of growth. By learning from our mistakes, we can become more resilient and adaptable in our careers.

And more importantly, Don't take yourself too seriously.?Life is too short to be serious all the time. Learn to laugh at yourself and enjoy the ride!

Doesn’t matter you are a housewife/husband or a C-suite executive, this book is worth some time of yours, happy reading...

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