Be strong to walk away from the best

How can walking away do us good? Walking away can do us good by: prioritizing our well-being and living more authentically. By saying no to others’ disrespect, untrustworthiness, lack of integrity, etc., we say yes to respecting ourselves and living in alignment with our values and truth. Or putting us in a place where we can be happier. Nothing is more important than inner peace. Also improving our health. By removing toxic people from our lives, we'll be healthier--mentally and physically. Of course making room for better people and experiences in our lives. When one door closes, another one opens empowering us. Life is all about choices. When you make the choice to walk away from someone or something, you're being proactive and choosing to improve the quality of your life.

Most importantly, walking away is an act of self-love. Always love yourself enough to do it when you feel you need to. Walk away from any thought that undermines your peace of mind, walk away from people who treat you as an option, walk away from things that poison your soul , the healthier your life will be, walk away from people who expect loyalty from you but can’t give you honesty, walk away from people who gossip, are bitchy & bring no worth to the relationship, walk away from judgemental people, they don’t know the struggle you’re facing & what you’ve been through, walk away from the practice of pleasing people who choose to never see your worth, walk away from people who deliberately pin you down, walk away from bad habits. They compound way faster than good ones, walk away from arguments that lead you to anger & nowhere,

When I dread instead of look forward to seeing you. When I feel perpetually exhausted. When nothing seems to get resolved without high-octane drama. When the reasons for the relationship are internal. It’s not that I love you, it’s that I’m lonely. When what you think I mean is not at all what I said, and this happens systematically. Or when you say that’s not what you said, and I know that you did, and this happens systematically. When you mistreat me: raise your voice, gaslight me, play games, twist words. When we want different things. When despite our efforts, we are fundamentally incompatible. When there is an absence of trust.

When anything in our dynamic is hurting either your life or mine. In particular when what I want is for your life to be better - which is what I always want. When my life is not interesting to you – or yours to me. When I don’t like who I am when I am with you. When the only time we truly connect is when we have sex. And that’s great but I want connection everywhere. Everywhere. When the most you can give me is less than what I need. After you’ve clearly stated that you cannot love me. I understand the following reasons of men for not marrying.

We're just too busy -- Too busy working to keep a roof over our heads. Too busy going to school and trying to better ourselves. Too busy just trying to survive. We like our hobbies — Hunting, working on the hot rod, music, gaming, whatever. In trying to take our minds off of the daily grind, we've found something to be passionate about. Lack of quality women — This may come as a surprise, but men have standards, too. We need a partner that is attractive, reliable, and actually knows something about the home arts. Tatted-up, promiscuous women with too many bad choices, bad debt, and bad habits behind them are, in fact, unappealing. We can't afford to waste our time on losers. No man wants to be a woman's twentieth, fortieth, or sixtieth choice of sex partner. We don't want a booze hound. We don't want to be daddy to someone else's kids. We don't want a feminist. What we need is a woman that conducts herself with class, femininity, and trustworthiness.

We can't afford it -- Thanks to feminism, women have moved from the home to the workplace. While this isn't a completely horrible thing, it does create a glut of workers and men now have to compete with women for jobs. Wages remain low or stagnate and we can't be the providers that we were conditioned to be. Heavy student loan debt is also a problem. No man wants to be a poor provider for his future family, so we delay or not consider marriage at all. The horror stories -- Abusive or cheating wives destroying the lives of decent men just because they can, can lie about it because most everyone will take a woman's side over a man's side, and ultimately make the situation the man's fault. The Duluth model of domestic law enforcement is oppressive towards men.

No-fault divorce (now obsolete because of better technology and medicine) has made marriage into a financial planning tool for women. When the marriage is over and finally ends up in the gynocentric divorce and family court system, the laws and the rulings are typically stacked against men. Men are realizing that marriage is a legally and financially risky proposition. No sane man wants to pay alimony to a cheating spouse or support children that aren't even his for eighteen years, but yet this happens with a depressing frequency. No thank you.

It's too late — Feminism has conditioned women to prioritize career over family. The social contract between men and women is largely gone now. Women are throwing away their best, fertile years chasing a college education they never needed, building a career they don't intend to keep, or just partying it up and “finding themselves” by experiencing as many sexual partners as they can. By about thirty, when that biological clock ticking becomes too loud to ignore, the desperation to actually serve your life's purpose starts to set in. The men that used to be plentiful have moved on to a more youthful model and most of the few that are available are now (because standards have to come down in proportion to fertility) have already been married and divorce-raped or don't want to raise children well into their senior and retirement years.

We're tired of the games — Too many mind games, too much of not being honest, too much getting hearts trampled on by capricious, superficial, and aloof women. “Strong" and “independent” women using men for free gifts and free food. Women that like to complain about jerks and narcissists, but only date those types of guys and feminists that demand chivalry from men. Make up your minds please. We've given up — For close to sixty years, we men have been told that we're infantile, immature, worthless, brutes, rapists, pedophiles, clods, and fools.

A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. The future is female. Boys are stupid. Girl power. We get it. A boy's education isn't a priority anymore. Boy's games are violent and therefore banned on playgrounds. Boy's behavior is energetic, so we medicate them to be as docile in the classroom as girls. This goes on all the way through elementary school and into high school. If we don't drop out, we might make it to college. When a boy struggles, nobody cares. If a girl struggles, it's the end of the world. In college, women are prioritized, yet are the oppressed all at the same time. Men are expected to toe the feminist line or be considered villains of the patriarchy.

So men are not going to college anymore. Trade school is more affordable and gives us a decent paying job to support ourselves. Society doesn't want us and men's spaces are attacked and destroyed, so we just stick to ourselves now. In the meantime, women, whose mental programming tells them to “marry up”, have a dwindling pool of men to marry up with (down with patriarchy, remember?). Being a husband and father used to carry prestige. Now, married men are only seen as an income source or potential rapists and pedophiles. Why bother?

The saying was behind every good man there was a better woman (or something like that). It's women that inspired men to to do great and be great. But that was then. We've taken the hint, you don't want us around. If you don't like it, you only have yourselves, mothers, and grandmothers to blame. You wanted us to leave you alone? Done. We don't approach you anymore. You want The Patriarchy gone? You got it. Enjoy your turn at being in charge. Remember that your time is precious. Make the first move, don't waste time, and choose your men carefully. This has been a “regular guy's” opinion. Cheers!