Striking Stories on Love and Romance: Spread the Message of Love ― Professor M.S.Rao Ph.D

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"Some day when the pages of my life end, you will be one of its most beautiful chapters and if I get to read it again, I will open it from the page where I first met you." ― Anonymous

What is Love? Love is a natural thing among all human beings and it is expressed across the world through different ways. There are many definitions of love. Various philosophers, intellectuals, authors and poets defined love in different ways. But love is a combination of various elements including feelings and emotions. Love is a matter of the heart rather than the mind. Love doesn’t have any boundaries. It doesn’t see age, caste, creed, color, or community. It is filled with emotions which are often difficult to express. However, one thing is sure and certain that ― love is divine; love is a force to reckon with; love is beyond borders; and love can take people to any extent. Love is limitless. Love is pious. Love is the only thing that keeps the entire mankind moving with energy and enthusiasm like a perennial river. Hence, make love; share your love; and spread the message of love.

Most times, people are scared of expressing their love for fear of rejection or ridicule or losing the relationship forever. At times, people don’t know how to communicate their love with others. If you love someone, approach and convey your feelings of love. Either your lover will accept your proposal or reject you. You will not have any regrets in the end for not expressing your love. It is better to express your love and get rejected rather than to keep your love within your heart throughout your lifetime. Here goes the story of Rahul and Pooja who failed to express their love during their lifetime:

Rahul and Pooja ― A Love Story: Rahul and Pooja were childhood friends; they were of almost the same age. Whenever Rahul saw Pooja, his heart beat faster. He loved Pooja very much but was always feeling shy to communicate with her. He would often wonder how Pooja will reciprocate. He was concerned that Pooja might stop talking to him if she didn’t love him. Pooja invited Rahul on her 16th birthday party. He attended the function and offered bouquets. He made up his mind to express his love to her. However, he was scared of being rejected by her. He was over concerned about Pooja’s rejection. Hence, he didn’t reveal his heart. At the age of 23, Pooja invited Rahul for her marriage engagement. Rahul wanted to communicate his love at that time also, but he failed to communicate. Subsequently Pooja got married to another person.

At the age of 35, Pooja invited Rahul for a function. Rahul attended the function and offered bouquets. He deeply regretted not expressing his love to her. At the age of 60, Pooja invited Rahul for the marriage of her daughter, and Rahul attended the same and offered gifts and bouquets to her daughter. He kept his love toward Pooja within his heart. Finally, Pooja died and Rahul went to the burial ground where a person handed over a letter written by Pooja for Rahul. It was Pooja’s final wish to hand over the letter to Rahul. Rahul burst into tears when he read the letter. Here are the contents of the letter: 

Dear Rahul,

I know that you will come to the burial ground to see me.

I loved you when I was a child but I couldn’t express it. I loved you in my teenage years and I thought you would convey your love when I invited you for my 16th birthday party. It seems you treated me as a friend, not as a lover. I still loved you at the time of my marriage engagement, but you treated me as a friend. I loved you when you came for my daughter’s marriage. I loved you until my last breath but you always treated me as a friend, not as a lover.

Lovingly,

Pooja

Rahul burst into tears after reading Pooja’s letter. He regretted having failed to express his love throughout his life due to the wrong assumption that Pooja thought of him as a friend.

From this story, it is obvious that many people die without expressing their love for others properly due to wrong assumptions, fear of rejection or ridicule, fear of losing the relationship forever and shyness. Women often feel shy to express their love to men. Hence, men must take the initiative to convey their love toward women. Learn to communicate properly and without delay, as God gave us only one life, and we have to do everything in this life only.

Is it Tough to Find the Girl who Loves You? Yes. It is tough to find the girl who loves you. But there are certain body language cues you must learn to find the girl who really loves you. First of all, look into her eyes. Her eyes will sparkle whenever she sees you. Secondly, she smiles at you whenever she looks at you. Thirdly, look at her body posture. If her body posture is facing towards you, there is a possibility that she is definitely interested in you. If you still want to confirm whether she loves you, move gradually into another direction to check whether she also gradually moved into your direction. Precisely, there will be a reciprocal response from her body language as per your body language. Praise her beauty to find out whether her cheeks turn pink. Whenever you compliment her, her cheeks turn pink. If she blushes, it means she loves you. However, you must also consider cultural aspects before jumping to the conclusion that she loves you.

Can a Girl have Many Boyfriends? For most of the girls, having boyfriends is a major ego boost. Due to age pressure and peer pressure, girls appreciate maintaining boyfriends. How far it is justified is a debatable issue. Having one boyfriend for one girl is a great idea! But having too many boyfriends might prove to be counterproductive for girls as boys fight among themselves to invite her attention and she may land in trouble later. In exceptional cases, girls can have many boyfriends where one can become a lover and the rest remain as boyfriends.

Love versus Romance: Romance is setting yourself to express your love. You romance with the one you love. You love your mother, sister, brother, or anybody but romance is what you do with the one you love with an intention to have physical intimacy or sex. Succinctly, you can love anybody but you can romance only with the one you want to have physical intimacy to express your love. Love leads to romance, not the other way round. For romancing, you need to be of a certain age while for loving, age is not a bar as man loves from cradle to grave. Love is eternal while romance is temporary. Romance is a state of arousal and is short-lived while love is perennial. Love can be compared with the gift while romance with wrapping the gift.

Love versus Infatuation: People are often confused between infatuation and love. Here is how you can differentiate between them:

Both infatuation and love fall in the bracket of emotions where one feels for another person intensively. Sexual attraction is the key to infatuation while psychological attraction is the key to love. Infatuation is a revolutionary process while love is an evolutionary process. Infatuation is unreasonable where intentions are unauthentic and unclear. In contrast, love is reasonable where intentions are clear and authentic. Infatuation is selfish and it emphasizes on ends while love is selfless and it emphasizes on means. Infatuation is conditional while love is unconditional. Love comes from the core of the heart while infatuation is superficial. Love grows steadily while infatuation fluctuates rapidly. Infatuation may be tiring and taxing while love is intoxicating and energizing. Infatuation may result in envy while love certainly leads to happiness and peace.

Infatuation fades as time passes by but true love stays on. Infatuation ends when the beauty of the lover ends but love is beyond the beauty of the lover. Infatuation comes from the mind which is highly dynamic while true love comes from the core of your heart which is steady. Infatuation is a temporary kick while love is a permanent kick. At times, infatuation is the result of physical appearance. Infatuation says I can die for you while love says I cannot live without you. Infatuation is all about liking someone when they have strengths. On the other hand, love is about liking someone despite having chinks in their armor.

Love is often associated with someone when you are emotional. Infatuation is often associated with someone when you crave for physical attachment. True love has tons of passion and fire while infatuation doesn’t. True love is eternal while infatuation is a passing cloud. You forget and forgive when you fight with someone because you love the person. In contrast, you hardly forget and forgive when you fight with someone due to infatuation. When someone needs you beyond sex, it is love. When someone doesn’t need you beyond sex, it is infatuation. Precisely, infatuation is up to bed while love is beyond bed. 

Love versus Sex: Love is a feeling and it is tough to define it. In contrast, sex is a physical act that relieves tension. Love is a feeling or emotion which involves attraction while sex is a biological event.

Love is a matter of mind and heart while sex is a matter of body. Sex is a biological necessity. It is often said that making love is a selfless act while having sex is a selfish event. Love is associated with psychological satisfaction while sex is connected with physical satisfaction. In short, love builds tension while sex relieves tension. Remember, real love is not about sex but an irrevocable commitment to another person. 

From ‘Loving―Together’ to ‘Living―Together’

Due to the advancement in technology relationships between people have evolved so rapidly that people have started to love and live together without marriage. This is known as ‘live-in relationship. In fact, ‘live-in relationship’ is an amicable walk-in and walk-out relationship with mutual consent. It is a contractual agreement between the parties who live together and can be terminated by either of the parties without consent of the other party and one party can walk out at will at any time. These live-in-relationships were considered a taboo previously. But they have been gradually accepted in society. Even courts don’t consider them an offence. The concept is not new in India; it prevailed in the past in a different form and name. Presently this relationship is catching up in India gradually as women and men want to test their compatibility and chemistry before marriage. There are both merits and demerits in this kind of relationship.

It is often criticized that such a relationship is a matter of convenience rather than a stepping stone to marriage. It is a fact that the couple who lived together without marriage separated without marrying. Hence, there is no guarantee that live-in relationships will lead to marriages.

“If you promise to hold my hand in the next birth, I will die right now happily to wait for you to hold your hand in the next birth. Soon after my death, if you change your mind to hold my hand in this birth itself, I would rise from pyre right away to hold your hand.” ― Professor M.S.Rao

Note: This article has been adapted from my award-winning book, ‘Striking Stories on Love and Romance: Spread the Message of Love.’ Sarah McArthur wrote foreword. Link to purchase it: https://www.amazon.in/Striking-Stories-love-Romance-Rao/dp/9351105687/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1405925187&sr=8-1&keywords=9789351105688      

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