Stress Relief Tip - Avoid the Victim Mentality

Stress Relief Tip - Avoid the Victim Mentality

This was an important lesson for me in my quest to reduce my stress. The severe family dysfunction I experienced as a child turned me into an angry young adult who liked to blame others for everything: my boss, my parents, family, and friends. Fortunately, I discovered a 12-step program called Adult Children of Alcoholic and Dysfunctional Families (ACoA) which taught me to take responsibility for my own actions and become my own loving parent.(1) I have been an active member of this program since 1990.

I’ve also been inspired by Regina Hartley’s presentation about Scrappers. Scrappers reframe childhood Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as Post Traumatic Success Decision. They are driven by the belief that the only person they can change is themselves. They figure if they can survive their upbringing, the challenges of business are a piece of cake.(2)

Most everyone has a story of a struggle to share. Some people define themselves by it; others act in spite of it. The important thing to remember is that your past will only be your future if you carry it there.

You can take action at any time to change your attitude, especially if you ask yourself this question: “Is there anyone on the planet having it worse than me right now?”

Take your answer to heart, pick yourself back up, and notice your outlook improving and your stress level reducing.

(1) https://adultchildren.org/literature/solution/

(2) https://youtu.be/jiDQDLnEXdA

Please note that there is no guarantee a particular stress relief tool will work for you. Thus you must take complete responsibility for using them and for your own physical and emotional wellbeing. Further, Professor Pete Alexander is not a licensed health professional. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of any stress relief technique. Medical advice must only be obtained from a physician or qualified health practitioner.

Bob Korzeniowski

Wild Card - draw me for a winning hand | Creative Problem Solver in Many Roles | Manual Software QA | Project Management | Business Analysis | Auditing | Accounting |

3 个月

“Is there anyone on the planet having it worse than me right now?” Interesting question. The message is that as long as someone else has it worse, you should be grateful because things could only get worse instead of getting better. I disagree with that message. I do not compare myself to other people. Doing so does not usually lead to good outcomes.

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