Stress, the Bubble, and the Power of Connection

In the demanding corporate arena, my career has been a rollercoaster of highs and lows. Those lows, often referred to as "hitting the wall," were characterised by an overwhelming inability to connect with others. Feelings of inadequacy, of not deserving love or success, seeped in and drove a wedge between me and those around me. Ironically, it was precisely when I needed connection most that I pushed it away.

This most recent cycle was no different. Overwhelm and negative self-talk crept in. My wife, recognising my downward spiral, gently encouraged me to try a simple 10-minute workout. I resisted. When stress takes over, we build a survival bubble around ourselves, isolating us from the very things we need most.

Science supports this observation. Research shows that chronic stress triggers the release of cortisol, a hormone that, while helpful in short bursts, can wreak havoc on our minds and bodies when elevated over time. This hormonal surge can lead to anxiety, depression, and a diminished ability to connect with others.

Breaking the Bubble: The Antidote to Stress

But here's the paradox: to escape the stress bubble, we need to reach out, not retreat. The antidote lies in three powerful tools:

1. Measured Exercise: Physical activity is a proven stress reliever. It reduces cortisol levels, boosts endorphins (our natural mood elevators), and enhances our sense of well-being. Even a short 10-minute workout can make a difference. It doesn't have to be intense – a brisk walk, a few yoga stretches, or a quick dance can all work wonders.
2. Meaningful Connection: Reaching out to loved ones, friends, or even a therapist can provide crucial support during stressful times. Social connection triggers the release of oxytocin, often called the "love hormone," which counters the effects of cortisol and promotes feelings of trust, safety, and belonging.
3. Mindful Breathing: The simple act of focusing on your breath can be surprisingly powerful. Research suggests that deep, mindful breathing not only reduces stress but can also stimulate the release of oxytocin, further strengthening the connection between mind and body, and enhancing our ability to connect with others.

It's important to note that this isn't about "soldiering on" or pretending everything is fine. It's about acknowledging the struggle and actively seeking out the tools that can help us heal and reconnect.

Recognising the Bubble

The first step is recognising that we're trapped in the stress bubble. Here are some signs to watch for:

• Increased irritability or anger
• Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
• Changes in sleep patterns or appetite
• Physical symptoms like headaches or stomach aches

If you notice these signs, it's time to take action. Reach out to someone you trust, schedule that workout, practise mindful breathing, and take the first step towards breaking free. You are not alone. Stress is a universal human experience, and seeking help through connection is a sign of strength, not weakness.