Strengthening of relationship is the result of our care

All said and done, the basis of every relationship is based on mutual faith and trust. Emotional intimacy is so much more important than sexual chemistry in a love relationship. That doesn't mean sexual compatibility is not important, it's extremely important too, but again, a long term relationship/marriage can only last when there is a deep emotional attachment. Fun fact- the deeper the emotional attachment, the lovelier the sexual chemistry.

However, the relationship is not about love alone and more than love, a relationship is about a loyal commitment to each other. Remember the promise you made to each other, that you'll always be there for them? Carry out that promise and walk with them till the end. We can't ever be in a relationship with a person who cannot support you when you're correct and stand by you, even if the other team is their own family. If your partner supports someone over you even when they're wrong and you're right just because the other person is related by blood to them, don't be with that person. You'll never be happy as you'll always be seen as the outsider.

Of course that one reminds me to tell you, pay close attention to the type of family of your partner. If they're a closely knit joint family, or a nuclear family, what the family relationships are like and if they'll accept a love marriage. These things doesn't matter at first, but in a long term relationship or a marriage, it does matter. No point in breaking a five year relationship over family clash.

Anyways believe that compatibility is nothing but the patience and ability to look at things from your partner's/spouse's perspective. The day the guy can start keeping himself in the girl's shoes and understand her and the day the girl starts seeing the guy's side of story, that would be the day they'll become compatible. Compatibility has nothing to do with hobbies and interests but with maturity.

It is a given that fighting, apologies and forgiveness goes side by side. There can be a big fight, but it should be followed by an apology if you're at wrong. Saying sorry to your partner if you've hurt them won't diminish your self respect, and ego should be forgotten completely if you want a loving relationship.

Any time don't be afraid to ask for a break if you need it. Don't be afraid to ask for a separation if you think it's not working out. By clutching to a relationship where both partners keep on blaming each other and wants the other party to change is bound to doom. In a relationship, change starts with you. First you need to change, and then they'll change themselves.

Main thing to be careful is about communication, acceptance, patience and forgiving nature are the keys to a happy relationship, not silent treatment, criticism, impulsiveness and keeping scores and grudges. As no one is entitled to a rosy relationship and to be treated like a king or queen. It all depends on the efforts two people put in. The genuine the efforts, the deeper the togetherness, the warmer will be the relationship. It's green only when you water and fertilise it.

Most importantly however, let them be in your team. They're not the team against which you need to win. Always remember, if they lose, you lose, if they win, you win. If you want to win by defeating them, that's not your person, that's not your relationship. It is not only about creating relationship, its about maintaining as well. At least maintain with those who are near and dear ones or regularly call them. Don’t remember them only when you feel lonely, or you need them or you have time. At least talk to them for 5 minutes, even if you are busy. We all need most consistent people in life.

The relationships are the most important part of our life. I always used to think, why people get married may be for a companion, a friend for life, financial stability, But it comes with lot of responsibilities. Live and let live is essential part as you should never stop your partner from doing what they wants to do like going out with family, friends specially “bro” friends. Other vise, if we will keep on stopping them, they will become disgruntled and your relationship will become poisonous.

However, it doesn't mean you shouldn't be his priority. He should be able to maintain equality and he should also prioritize you as you are going to spend your entire life together. And also give space and get space. Do what you love. Don't sacrifice significantly. Most of the fights between couples happens due to their relatives and their interference. Don't let it affect you both.

Always make it a point to fight for the present issues not past because if you want to stay with that person, let go, forgive and fight only on present issues. But girls normally like if you have planned then better fulfill it. Otherwise don't make promises. Continuously complaining about the anything irritates the next person and never fight and create scene in front of others. No one means no one. Never talk about your relationship problems with anyone. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit #ks1100articles