A Strategic Approach To Holiday Stress Reduction
Around this time every year, I post something about how to reduce holiday stress through a little upfront planning.
The stresses that accompany big holiday gatherings are myriad.
And even if COVID were a distant memory (which it is decidedly not), flu season is upon us, making safe gatherings even more complicated.
So, yes, you’re about to face yet another year of listening to your curmudgeonly uncle drone on (and on) while running around the house trying to ensure that everyone gets enough appetizers in their bellies before the wine really starts flowing.
And at the same time, you’re trying to make sure your cousin’s new baby doesn’t end up with RSV when all you were trying to do is make sure everyone has a great time.
But, even though the holiday season is always bound to be just a little bit stressful, you have a little more agency than you think.
The better you plan, the more relaxed you’ll be, no matter the situation.
To that end, here are a few things you can do this year to set yourself up for success, and ensure that your in-person celebrations are a time to actually celebrate.
Define What Safe Travel Looks Like To You Now
Do you really want to be the one that brings COVID (or the flu, or RSV, or even a bad head cold) to the party?
Yes, I know that the mandates around safety measures are mostly gone now, but I, for one, have changed how I think about crowds and transit for the long haul.
For me, this means a couple of things:
I wear a mask while boarding and deplaning because that’s when the air is NOT circulating, but I tend not to wear it during the flight.
If someone starts hacking up a lunch in my vicinity, I’ll break out my mask.
You might have very different guidelines for yourself than I do, but now’s the time to think about what those guidelines might be.
Make a big-picture game plan
Get out a spreadsheet and plan the meal.
Choose your recipes, and write down the ingredient lists.
Check your fridge and cabinets to see what you’ve already got. Then…
Get your groceries delivered
Over the past few years, many of us have embraced delivery in a way we never would have before. I’d never used Instacart pre-pandemic because I didn’t want to pay that up-charge.
3 years later?
Well, let’s just say I haven’t been to Costco in a LONG time.
But I’m staring at the world’s largest jar of pickles in my fridge nonetheless.
So, once you’ve got a comprehensive list, make that order.
And then make yourself a cocktail while you wait for your groceries in the comfort of your own home.
(And make sure to give a big fat tip if you can. That delivery person deserves to be well compensated for their labor.)
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Make a timeline
Working backward from mealtime, figure out when you need to start cooking or preparing each of your dishes.
Prepare a timeline, post it somewhere visible, and refer to it often so that you’re not scrambling.
Take it a step further and put reminders in your phone, or your Alexa/Google Home (i.e. “put the roast in the oven at 11 am”).
Do what you can in advance
Spend a few hours in the days ahead of your gathering prepping and chopping all of your veg and measuring out all of your dry goods for breads and pie crusts.
Get an extensive mis-en-place going.
This will significantly reduce the time you spend in the kitchen the day of your celebration and make the whole operation run more smoothly.
Got family staying with you?
Make the beds and set out the towels up to a week in advance.
Your guests will be so surprised at how relaxed you look when they arrive.
Agree on a “safe word” and a “let’s get out of here” script
If you’ll be the guest, agree on a “safe word” or phrase with your partner, kids, or +1 so that you have a secret signal with each other when it’s time to get out of there!
You don’t want to hurt any feelings, but you know you’ve got your upper limit on how much time you can spend with others before you’re just DONE.
And if the time you need to leave is far earlier than it might be considered customary to leave, then plan a short script in advance. Here are a few you can try:
“It’s been so lovely to see everyone, but we’re just exhausted. Time for us to call it a night!”
Make a list of things to be grateful for…in advance
You know the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder”?
Well, clichés are clichés for a reason.
Because they contain a grain of truth.
Even if you’re so happy to be able to celebrate together without excess fear, that doesn’t mean your relatives won’t grate on your nerves when you’re all together in the same physical space.
So right now, start making a list of what you are grateful for.
Then return to this list whenever you need a mood boost.
(In fact, some studies show that stress hormones are up to 23% lower in people who cultivate gratitude.)
When you plan, you’re better able to enjoy yourself and be present in the moment.
Holidays are no different.
A little work on the front end goes a long way toward your own happiness and the happiness of others.