The Story: How Ellen Got a 30% Raise with Her AI Sidekick

Ellen was a mid-level marketing manager at a fast-growing tech company. She was great at her job, but every time she thought about asking for a raise, her stomach churned. The thought of sitting across from her boss, justifying her worth, and potentially facing rejection made her freeze.

One day, Ellen discovered a secret weapon: her AI sidekick, ChatGPT. Instead of relying solely on her words, she used emotional intelligence (EQ) and ChatGPT to prepare for the conversation. The result? She walked out of the meeting with a 30% raise—without saying a single word during the negotiation itself.

Here’s how she did it, and how you can too.

Step 1: Master Your Emotions

Before the negotiation, Ellen used ChatGPT to identify her emotional triggers. She prompted ChatGPT with: “I want to explore why I feel anxious about asking for a raise. Ask me one question at a time to help me uncover the root cause. Repeat my answers back to me before asking another questions so I can see my thoughts clearly.”

ChatGPT asked her questions like:

• “What’s the worst that could happen if you ask for a raise?”
• “Can you recall a past experience where you felt rejected or ignored?”

By reflecting on her answers, Ellen realized her fear of rejection stemmed from a childhood memory of being ignored. ChatGPT helped her process this trigger, and she walked into the meeting with confidence.

Actionable Tip:

• Use ChatGPT to understand your emotions. Try prompts like: “Help me explore why I feel [emotion] in [situation]. Ask me one question at a time and repeat my answers back to me.”

Step 2: Let Data Speak for You

Ellen didn’t rely on her words to prove her worth. Instead, she used ChatGPT to help her gather and organize data on her performance. She prompted ChatGPT with: “Help me create a list of metrics to track my professional achievements, such as revenue generated, team productivity improvements, and client satisfaction scores. Ask me one question at a time to clarify my goals and repeat my answers back to me.”

ChatGPT asked her questions like:

• “What’s the most significant project you’ve led this year?”
• “How has your work directly impacted the company’s revenue or client satisfaction?”

She then compiled this data into a one-page visual report using tools like Canva or Google Slides.

Actionable Tip:

• Use ChatGPT to brainstorm and track your achievements. Try prompts like: “Help me create a professional summary of my achievements for a raise negotiation. Ask me one question at a time and repeat my answers back to me.”

Step 3: Master Non-Verbal Cues

During the meeting, Ellen focused on non-verbal communication:

• Posture: She sat upright, projecting confidence.
• Eye Contact: She maintained steady eye contact to show she was serious.
• Facial Expressions: She smiled subtly to appear approachable but firm.

She used ChatGPT to practice her body language by prompting: “Give me tips on how to project confidence through body language during a negotiation. Ask me one question at a time to help me reflect on my current habits and repeat my answers back to me.”

ChatGPT asked her questions like:

• “How do you typically sit during high-stakes conversations?”
• “What do you think your facial expressions convey during a negotiation?”

Actionable Tip:

• Record yourself practicing your negotiation using your phone.
• Use ChatGPT to refine your body language with prompts like: “Help me improve my posture and eye contact for a negotiation. Ask me one question at a time and repeat my answers back to me.”

Step 4: Harness the Power of Silence

When Ellen presented her data, she stayed silent after stating her case. This created psychological pressure on her boss to respond. The silence felt uncomfortable, but it worked—her boss offered the 30% raise without Ellen having to argue or plead.

Actionable Tip:

• Practice the power of silence in low-stakes conversations (e.g., with friends or family).
• Use ChatGPT to simulate negotiation scenarios by prompting: “Act as my negotiation partner. I’ll present my case, and you respond with a pause to help me practice staying calm. Ask me one question at a time to help me prepare and repeat my answers back to me.”

Step 5: End with Gratitude

After the meeting, Ellen sent a thank-you email to her boss, reiterating her commitment to the company’s success. This reinforced her professionalism and left a positive impression.

Actionable Tip:

• Use ChatGPT to craft a polished, gratitude-filled email. Try prompts like: “Help me write a professional thank-you email after a successful negotiation. Ask me one question at a time to clarify my tone and key points, and repeat my answers back to me.”

How ChatGPT Can Help You Replicate Ellen’s Success

1. Emotional Preparation: Use ChatGPT to identify and manage your emotional triggers.
2. Data Collection: Leverage ChatGPT to track and showcase your achievements.
3. Non-Verbal Practice: Use ChatGPT to refine your body language and silence skills.

Your Call to Action

Reflect: What’s one belief about yourself that might be holding you back from asking for the raise you deserve? What’s your brain trying to protect you from by creating fear or hesitation?

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