Are THEY stopping you?

If you think that people judge you for anything you do and it gives you a negative feeling...

If you quit in between because of someone else’s adverse comment or opinion...

If you face criticism from others, while pursuing your dreams and it makes you feel vulnerable...

This article is for YOU!!!

I understand you. I can relate to this situation. I have been there as well.

I used to think about other’s reaction and behavior rather than my own which lead me nowhere in life…

And you would agree that, as human being, we always consider other’s advice more than ours...

Others can be our friends, relatives, teachers, neighbours, colleagues, boss, etc etc. or even parents…

Have you ever thought why we are listening to them?

Give it a thought before you read further...

Let me tell you why we listen to others...

• We don’t believe in our-self
• We need validation from other people
• We care more about others than our-self
• We fear that what society will say if it doesn’t work

And many more...

When we listen to those people, we overthink about our own decisions and overthinking leads to frustration, anxiety, hopelessness, feeling of loneliness…

There was an article in Forbes which talked about dangers of overthinking and how to overcome it…

Let’s talk about your old happy days….

Remember when you were a kid, you used to do all kind of mischievous things... right?

Do you recall anytime from your childhood, when you thought about others before doing something?

Did you really even care to get a validation from others?

I believe NO.

Because as a kid we don’t care about others. Rather we do whatever we want to do irrespective of giving a damn about others...

But as we grow, we become more conscious about our doings...

We think more about others than for ourselves...

We depend upon them to give us their support...

We think more about results rather than process...

If you could relate to this, my question to you is this....

IS IT REALLY NECESSARY TO TAKE SUPPORT FROM OTHERS AND THINK ABOUT THEM???

Joyce Meyer said beautifully..

Many people feel so pressured by the expectations of others that it causes them to be frustrated, miserable and confused about what they should do.

But Shubham, I need some support and guidance to move ahead...

I get it! But do you think people who are around you can support you and really understand you?

If your answer is yes, why you could not achieve what you wanted to achieve?

Ok, here’s an exercise for you which will tell you about your circle of people…

Go to someone you think, they care for you. Ask them any question which you always had, or simply discuss your business or any crazy idea which you believe to achieve.

Eg. Tell them “I want to earn INR 10 crores (100 million) per annum in next 5 years”.

Observe their expression and ask them what do they think about this?

I need not to say anything because you will realise whether those people can help you really?

I would love to know your response in comment section below.

Here is what I have observed in maximum cases…

Most of the them will LAUGH at you. They will criticize you in public. They will show you why cant you earn so much money? They will tell you about all the failures they have faced or they have seen.

See, our closed one’s care more about our emotions rather than our results which keeps us away from our goals…

Robert Kiyosaki said that, “Learn to use your emotions to think, not think with your emotions”

Even our parents may not be aware about what we exactly want because those things did not exist at their time…

We should escape taking advice from others specially from those people, who have never done what you aspire to do…

I believe in one simple principle…

“Ask those who have already achieved what you want to achieve”

That’s why mentors are there to guide you towards the life you desire desired…

Every millionaire, or even billionaire have mentors who helps them to reach where they are right now…

Some people again think about money which will be required to be paid to mentors, but they don’t see what they will get from their experience and knowledge, which is not available anywhere except from them…

I would put this in a different perspective:

Your mentors can show you the way, but you must commit in all aspects.

Commit to your future and you will never look back.

I hope you will not look back to people who can’t help you to grow.

Your friend,

Shubham Mittal