Stop Wondering If You’re on the Right Track and Do This Instead

I used to be the queen of running around in circles, constantly looking for any sure sign that I was on the right track. I was perpetually frustrated and would stay in bad situations waiting for a sure "sign" that would signal if I was on the wrong path. Looking back, there were numerous signs in my external and internal environments. My life would be on fire, and I would have my head in the sand like, "Hey, Universe, just tell me it's wrong, and I'll go."

In 2018, my house almost burned down, only to find black mold, leaving me wishing it had burned down. I fixed those issues, then I was still allergic to the house and yet I still wondered if I should stay or go.

Instead of consulting our own inner intelligence, we often outsource our decision-making so that we don't have to blame ourselves when things go awry. We could save ourselves a shit ton of heartache and suffering by sitting still and tuning into ourselves, whether through meditation or mindfulness.

We all have an inner intelligence, mind, body, and spirit. So what the hell is spirit? Caroline Myss states that "spirit is the part of us that seeks meaning and purpose." It doesn't have to be any more complicated than that. Just add whatever context makes sense to you.

The Right Track

I was recently scrolling on another social media platform. I came across a clip of Oprah asking Caroline a question that many people, like me, ask themselves: How do you know you're on the right track when it comes to our meaning and our purpose??

What dream belongs to you??

What person belongs to you??

What job is for you?

And Caroline said something profound in response to this...

You'll know you're on the right track when:

"You're not put in a position where you feel like you have to negotiate your sense of integrity, which is an act of betrayal. You don't feel like you have to compromise who you are."

Sheesh.?

I'll say it again, you will know you're on the right track when an opportunity arises, and you no longer feel the need to betray yourself. Meaning, you know your value and worth, and you make choices in service of that.

Integrity

What does it feel and look like when you betray yourself??

For me, it often starts with feeling frustrated at another person, and that lasts until I can spot how I am choosing to give my power away. Did I say yes when I should have said no? Am I doing what others want so I can avoid uncomfortable conversations? Am I tolerating energy and behavior that is unacceptable??

From intimate relationships to familial relationships to past clients, countless times I have betrayed and packed myself away, ignoring my intuition. I did this for a long time because I didn't trust myself. I felt like everyone knew more than me, but I now realize we all just know what we know. No one has the answers, so I'm not going to allow my life to be dictated by other wayward explorers. I'd rather chart my own course.?

For the first time in my life, after 33 years on this planet, I can confidently say I will not under any circumstances stay in spaces or allow people to exist in my space who regularly and blatantly question my value and worth. Like Nina Simone said,?

"You've got to learn to leave the table when love is no longer being served."

And don't get it twisted; compromise and growth are very different from self-betrayal. Compromise and growth are made willingly, whereas self-betrayal happens because you feel like you must. It's almost always rooted in fear of losing something you have, whether a relationship, a job, or a material possession. We cling tightly to what we have, even if it sucks and even if it drains us because it's what's familiar. We love the familiar, and sometimes we suffer because we cling to it so tightly.?

But when we let go of the things that aren't for us, we make space for things more beautiful than we could imagine. You're not gonna know what it is beforehand, either. So you have to trust that what is for you will be for you - as long as you show up, do all you can, and release attachment to the outcome.

You are worth protecting. You deserve to be in spaces where you are valued. You deserve people who clearly see your worth. So don't accept anything less than that.?

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