Stop Tapping the Hot-Plate

It is often said that pain is inevitable in life. But why do we have to go through it? What is the purpose of pain? And why do we continually go back and touch the hot plate?

We all experience pain at some point in our lives, whether physically or emotionally. It can come to us in many forms, such as physical pain, emotional pain, or mental pain. Each type of pain has its own purpose, but all of them have a common theme: to teach us something.

Physical pain can serve as a warning sign that something is wrong and needs to be taken care of. It can also serve as a reminder to take better care of ourselves and our bodies. It helps us to stay in tune with our bodies so that we can respond quickly to any potential danger.

Emotional pain can be a reminder of past events that we need to process and heal from. It can also be a sign that we are holding onto something that is no longer serving us in our current lives. The pain of emotional trauma can help us to gain insight into our own behaviour and to take steps to heal and move forward.

Mental pain can be a sign of stress and overwhelm, telling us that we need to take a break and check in with ourselves. It can also be an indication that we are bottling up our emotions and need to find a safe space to express them. Mental pain can be a reminder to take time for self-care, so that we can keep our mental health in check.

No matter what form it takes, the purpose of pain is to teach us something. It can be a warning sign, a reminder, or a sign that we need to take care of ourselves. It can be uncomfortable, but it can also be a necessary part of growth and healing. So, as you read this article, I urge you to reflect on the purpose of pain and how it can be used to our advantage.

Self Sabotage - Stop Tapping the Hot Plate

Are you tired of self-sabotaging yourself? It’s time to stop and start to learn from your pain. You know that the hot plate is hot and will burn you, so why do we still keep going back and tapping it?

Self-sabotage is a behaviour pattern in which we do things that hurt our own progress, limit our potential, and keep us stuck in a state of misery and suffering. It’s a form of self-destructive behaviour that can manifest itself in many different ways, such as procrastinating, overthinking, people pleasing, avoiding risks, and more.

When we act in ways that cause us to fail or lose control, it can be incredibly damaging to our self-esteem and confidence. Ultimately, this cycle of self-sabotage can keep us from achieving the success we want in life.

The key to overcoming self-sabotage is to start learning from your pain.

When we experience pain, it can be easy to blame ourselves and even take it out on ourselves. But when we take the time to learn from our pain, it can help us to become stronger and more resilient in the future.

One way to start learning from your pain is to practice self-compassion. Self-compassion is the practice of treating yourself with kindness and understanding when things don’t go as planned. It’s about recognising that we all make mistakes and it’s okay to not be perfect.

Another way to learn from your pain is to practice mindful meditation. Mindful meditation is a practice of bringing awareness to our thoughts, feelings, and sensations without judging them. By doing this, we can become aware of our patterns of behaviour and begin to make changes to better ourselves.

Finally, it’s important to practice self-care. Self-care is the practice of taking time to nurture and care for yourself. It can be anything from taking a break to getting enough sleep to listening to your favourite music. By taking the time to care for yourself, you can better manage your emotions and feelings, making it easier to make positive changes in your life.

Stop self-sabotaging, stop tapping the hot-plate, and start to learn from your pain. Take the time to practice self-compassion, mindful meditation, and self-care. By doing this, you can break free from the cycle of self-sabotage and start to take control of your life. Focus on your potential, being the best version of you. Be comfortable that things will go wrong, you'll fail, make mistakes, just recognise them as opportunities for growth.

About the Author

Steve Gaskell the 'Challenge Coach' is a High-Performance Business Coach who unlocks the high-performance potential in those he coaches. The author of 'Business Shouldn't be this Tough' is also a keynote speaker with a focus on high-performance outcomes through coaching and also creating extreme ownership within the boardroom. A former Army Officer Steve understands the challenge and interFEARence faced by business owners, CEOs, directors and executives in leadership and confronts them head-on to focus on unleashing true potential.

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