Stop Running Away: Why Confronting Your Problems is the Key to Personal Growth and Success
Pradeep Rao
Director and Chief Architect @ Kyndryl || Peer Community Ambassador @ Gartner || Certified Independent Director - Indian Institute of Corporate Affairs (IICA)
As human beings, we all face problems and challenges in our lives. However, what sets us apart is how we deal with those problems. Running away from our problems may seem like the easier option, but it only makes things worse in the long run. In this article, I will explain why avoiding problems is not a wise strategy and what steps we can take to face our problems head-on.
Here are a few reasons why we should stop avoidance behavior and start facing our problems head-on.
1. Problems eventually catch up to us
No matter how hard we try to avoid them, problems have a way of catching up to us eventually. Whether it's a difficult conversation with a colleague that we've been putting off, or a personal issue that we would rather not deal with, avoiding these situations only delays the inevitable. In fact, running away from our problems can actually make things worse in the long run, as we may end up making impulsive decisions or acting out of fear, rather than taking a thoughtful and proactive approach to problem-solving.
2. Running away doesn't teach us to grow or better ourselves
When we avoid our problems, we miss out on an opportunity to learn and grow from our experiences. Facing our problems head-on, even when it's uncomfortable or difficult, teaches us perseverance, resilience, and strength. It allows us to develop the skills and qualities that we need to be successful in both our personal and professional lives, such as problem-solving, communication, and emotional intelligence.
3. Facing our problems teaches us perseverance, resilience, and strength
At the end of the day, the only way to truly overcome our problems is to face them head-on. When we confront our problems, we learn how to persevere through difficult situations, build resilience, and tap into our inner strength. We develop a sense of self-confidence and self-efficacy that can help us navigate future challenges with greater ease and grace.
Now let's talk about the steps we can take to stop running away from our problems.
Step 1: Reflect on your thoughts and feelings.
When we face a problem, our immediate reaction is to focus on what's happening around us. However, it's essential to reflect on our thoughts and feelings. To break free from this cycle of avoidance, we must take active steps to confront our problems. The first step is to reflect on our thoughts and feelings, not focusing on what's happening around us. By doing so, we can identify the root cause of our avoidance behavior and determine whether the problem is worth the effort we put into avoiding it.
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Step 2: No more blame games.
It's easy to blame others or circumstances for our problems. However, this only prolongs the problem and doesn't solve it. So, we must stop playing the blame game and take responsibility for our problems. Once we stop dwelling on our mistakes and take action towards finding a solution, we can make progress towards overcoming our challenges.
Step 3: No more self-pity.
We must resist the urge to indulge in self-pity. Self-pity is a common reaction when we face a problem. Rather than wallowing in our shortcomings, we must acknowledge them and focus on finding solutions that will improve our situation. By focusing on solutions, we can move past our problems and grow from the experience.
Step 4: Look for clues.
Just like all thrive, problems leave clues behind as well. By looking for those clues, we can identify where we went wrong and what tangled the problem further. We must be tenacious and meticulous in our efforts to identify the root cause of the issue, enabling us to implement measures that will prevent recurrence. Is there a pattern? Finding that loophole and fixing it can help us avoid future problems.
Step 5: Don't let fear govern you.
Fear can be paralyzing, and it's easy to give up when we're scared. We must not allow fear to govern our decisions. However, it's essential to think about ourselves and our dreams. Is the problem bigger than our dreams and desires? We must consider our dreams and aspirations and ask ourselves whether our problems are greater than our ambitions. By keeping our dreams and desires in mind, we can find the courage to face our problems head-on. If we can muster the courage to face our problems head-on, we shall emerge victorious.
Final Thoughts
Running away from our problems is not a wise strategy. Instead, we should face our problems with an open mind. By reflecting on our thoughts and feelings, taking responsibility, avoiding self-pity, looking for clues, and not letting fear govern us, we can overcome any challenge. Let's stop running away from our problems and start facing them today. Only then can we grow and achieve our goals.
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9 个月I heard this lesson before. It's used in entertainment like games and movies, and I agree that people should not be hiding from their selfish thoughts or what they fear.
Vice President, Reliance Industries Limited
10 个月Was wondering what to do in this scenario
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1 年Thanks for sharing your perspective!
IT Strategy Consultant @ Kyndryl | Enterprise Architect | Expert in Cloud Architecture & Disaster Recovery | 3X Google Cloud | 2X AWS | 1X Azure Certified
1 年Well said
Director and Chief Architect @ Kyndryl || Peer Community Ambassador @ Gartner || Certified Independent Director - Indian Institute of Corporate Affairs (IICA)
1 年Thank for all the nice feedback I have received!!!