Stop putting your hand up when your plate is full
Cate Collins
Ignite the Powerhouse in you. Leadership, Engagement, Resilience, Mental Health & Leadership Speaker, Trainer, Customized Retreat Facilitator, Author, Coach & Nature Nut & Serial Flosser.
"I have this hamster running on a wheel Cate just as I am trying to go to sleep. All the tasks I still need to do thrown in with the what if's are twirling around in my head. I need to get some sleep. I don't understand why my mind is so busy," shared my client. Too often we may not see the forest for the trees. As my client unpacked all the meetings, commitments, tasks, etc. that she had on her plate, I playfully said I was exhausted. ?? Her habit was taking on more and more resulting in her feeling depleted mentally, physically and emotionally. Can you relate?
#Powerhouse #Leaders are often action oriented and thrive with having things completed. An amazing strength however a shortcoming (not a fan of the word weakness) if out of moderation.
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My clients have found it very helpful and effective when they use my strategy of mind mapping their week on Monday. This allows them to get honest with themselves with what they are truly capable of doing given their or their #team 's current circumstances. It can be a #habit offering to jump in to do things however if it is a detriment to your health and wellbeing I invite you to rethink your decision to say Yes. Here are some strategies that will help.
- Pause, take a breathe, and ask yourself, "who is responsible for this task?"
- Am I helping or harming them by jumping in to help?
- What is my biggest fear of saying nothing or saying No? E.g. fear of rejection, they won't think I am a team player, they won't like me or I don't want to let them down. Once you know the limiting belief you can then change it resulting in a different outcome.
- Standing in your #power may not come easily at first however with practice the guilt will be miles behind you, if at all.
- There is no record of anyone on their death bed who says, I wish I had said yes to saying Yes more at work or in my family life. However, they often say they wish they gave themselves more permission to be happy. Choose wisely. You are so worth it.
- Invest in yourself as a leader. Hire a coach or get a mentor that will help you navigate your role. Someone who will be your champion and be that safe harbour to share what's really going on for you.
- Remember, you are a powerhouse. Treat yourself as one.
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5 个月The title of this newsletter is perfect! I'm trying to take that approach now. Hard to do at first, but when there is more time to breath the benefit becomes so obvious!
Presentation Skills & Leadership Communication Expert ? Author ? Executive Speech Coach ? Keynote & Conference Speaker ? Chocolate Hoarder
5 个月It's the "I don't want to let them down" concept that often puts me over the edge of giving too much. I never actually considered that as a limiting belief. Thank you Cate Collins!
Helping Business leaders and Educators build Championship Teams. | Keynote Speaker, Workshops and Coaching | Author
5 个月Great insights Cate. That's why you need to be clear about your personal mission and be intentional of what you say yes and no too. Keep up your wonderful work!