Stop procrastinating and make that bloody decision!

I worked with a client this week who was procrastinating around a decision - it was one of those big career decisions to stay or go, one of those really nice ones though - where either way you're a winner!?

This client was in the classic trap of seeing positive in both and was trapped in indecision where his mind was trying to keep him super safe by keeping him where he was now (you know the mind chatter - “they really like me and they're promising me that if I stay good things will come” and perhaps that's better than the new, unknown thing where there's more money and more prospects).

The truth is that the only bad decision is indecision - it's crippling .??

We did a bit of coaching and helped him land on a decision by exploring what he actually wanted (rather than what he thought he ought to want) and addressing the feels and reals in the situation he was facing. When you get clear on what you are feeling and then work out what it's telling you and see what's real then your mind relaxes and a decision comes like a unicorn from the fog.? He slept on it and the decision stuck overnight - good to go!

When we face a big decision our brains can go into overdrive, exploring all the risks, potential outcomes (good and bad) and it ends up creating gridlock in our heads.? The result?? We put the big idea on our ‘too big - too difficult’ pile and move to more mind numbing activities like scrolling through IG reels!??

What we are actually doing in moments of big change is deferring the difficult decision we really want to make because we are afraid.? Afraid of succeeding and actually finally getting what we want in life (and maybe not liking it!) or afraid of putting ourselves out there with a stated, brave intention and then failing, being judged by others.? Fear is a powerful (de)motivator.? The feelings (both mental and physical) of fear are real, so drill into them when they show up and work out which of those fear feelings are ‘fair’ and which are just ‘made up’ - work out what is real and then build some safety around them.?

In this client’s case, the real fear of failure was actually super small and so the key tip I left with him was this: write down all the reasons why he’d decided to make this change.? I asked him to list them out and keep that list somewhere safe because there'll be times in the days and months ahead after he’d made that decision firm where he will hit a bad day, or get wistful for his old life and at those times, to stop himself swan diving straight back into 'I'm so stupid, I made the wrong decision' he gets to pull out that list and? remind himself of all the reasons why he actually made that change.? That way he created safety for himself.

Making the decision is challenge number one but you also get to be totally human and create safety for yourself knowing that if and when you slip into regret in the future you’re covered.????

I help you get the life or career you actually want.? Working with me you'll get clear on what you really want, create safety around any fears blocking your way and we get there faster than you thought possible.? Follow the link in the bio for a totally free session with me when you're ready to make that change you always promised yourself.