STOP LYING YOURSELF !

How many times it happens that your partner expects your presence and you forgot being busy at office?

When was the last time you spend quality time with your parents? And or talked about your childhood activities and Laughed at?

When did you last talked to your children about anything other than their study, results or coaching? Or Sat together and made a fun day plan together?

When did you felt the urge of gathering around friends and buddies and have good time without any worries like we used to do in college or university days?

We often forget that we are working to lead a good life not the other way around!

The time we reach to the Mid-Level(Age or Career) generally is the time we start thinking about options, think on different dimension and mostly our next steps actually shapes our career path and personal life as well.

 It is the time we think that we have given too much time to full fill someone else dream and grief on not giving enough effort to fulfill our own dream.

It is the time we think am I in the right path? because this is probable the last time to change it or else it will be too late to change.

It is the time we start comparing ourselves with others, our friends, our colleagues, our neighbors and mostly we end up feeling frustrated because we are surrounded by some exceptionally successful people.

It is the time we start looking at securing family future, investment plans all about financial security but generally we forget to consider the psychological requirements of our self, our family and kids.

 I have considered the general aspects, some of the above-mentioned scenario will be common to you and some may not.

 Generally, we LIE to OUR SELF and convince our self that we are alright, we bring in some minor changes and carry over.

 The difference hereon will be; at this Mid Level some people will spend quality time analyzing self situation and will plan for a whole new journey ahead….

 One of my friends at his mid left his job and decides to give his dream a shot!

He decided on a time bound approach he will work on then he will judge the probability of success and will decide on the next course of action.

 One of my Senior friends sat with his daughter and asked her to design their family trip plan and after the family trip he sat again and asked what have they learned from this trip?

This approach builds trust, dependability, understanding between parents and children, knowledge sharing etc.

 One of my friends spends around an hour with his parents along with his little kid after he come back from office and they talk about memories, plans, plans for the kid etc.

I know a person who at his MID decides to work on his patience at office, he was not happy with his senior, he started praying, he stopped giving bad reaction to his senior, he stopped taking back to his senior, he started sharing smiles with his senior and after a while he observed that his boss has put his name in the to be promoted list!

 A person decided to change his action at office. He started spending less time in office gossip, he reduced spending time at canteen, he stopped participating in any discussion which is not related to office, he stopped taking about people at their back, no political discussion. He started greeting others, sharing salaam, sharing smiles. Now he completes his tasks on time, he leaves office on time. With the success he is now working on his action around home.

One of my senior friends was suffering for overweight issues, now I see him following strict diet chart, he exercises, takes long walks, sometimes takes family or friends as walking partners which serves two aspects of exercise and relationship maintaining.

 STOP LYING to YOURSELF, you want the situation to change? Then change your action first!

Take time, analyze your action and the situation and plan to change your actions as you can see that your present actions are not enough to bring in the results you are looking for.

Work on your patience, share greetings with others, share smiles to other, build in abilities of saying Thank you, Sorry to other, stop talking about others at their absence, respect others.