Stop letting people take me for granted

STOP being there for that person.

STOP supporting that person.

STOP giving that person your attention.

STOP giving that person your trust and your love.

JUST STOP: NOW! Withdraw. Go away. Do NOT react until that person shows CLEAR signs of proper respect and appreciation.

It's likely that you are a helpful person by nature, and sometimes you allow people to take advantage of you, because you're nice and you want to please others.

Stop this pattern.

It’s killing your self-respect.

You can be kind and nice and have boundaries. Learn to value your own schedule and plans as much as you value others.

Yes, you might risk losing that "someone". Especially if that "someone" is too dumb to realize what s/he had. Perhaps that person will be a bit slow in realizing what's going on.

When that person asks "What's wrong?"

?YOU tell that person: “I’m tired of you taking me for granted. I do NOT feel appreciated. This does NOT motivate to continue staying around you."

But, believe me, if that person is NOT too dumb then insight will come and then that person will have learned its lessons by showing remorse and regret. That "someone" should also apologize for behaving like this and there should also be the promise that it won't happen again.

Ideally that is what should happen. If it does NOT happen, then you know that this person does NOT deserve to populate your universe. Then it's time to look forward and leave that person's universe for good...

People take you granted when you are always available for them. They know that no matter how they behave you will be always sticking around.

People say you don’t know what you got until it’s gone…truth is, you knew what you had, and you just thought you’d never lose it.

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Thank you?...?If you are always there for your friends through thick and thin, no matter what, then this shows that you are a good person who cares and loves his/her friends. This thing should make you proud of yourself that you hold the true essence of FRIENDSHIP.

Remember,

Too much is too bad…..

Being too good to anyone and always being there for them is definitely a good thing, but this too is an extreme act.

Someone may suggest you to change the company, but this is not the first thing to do. If you really love your friends and don’t want to be taken granted, then the only thing you can do is make them realize your worth, your value.

Let me give an example.

Children always take their parents granted. Unless there comes a situation when their parents are not available for them, they don’t realize how important they are to you. Especially when you move out of your house you understand how easy it was to depend on them for every possible thing!!

Here you take your parents for granted, but you are not a bad person, nor are your friends. This is just a human tendency.

To make them realize your worth, you need to have a little bit of Attitude. (In a positive way).

Do you want to add a word or two?....

Everyone needs to learn to respect themselves and stop letting others take advantage of you. ?Just the other day I noticed that I was about to let someone take advantage of me.

It may not have been on purpose, but the gal at the checkout overcharged me for an item. I felt this strong sense of unfairness and asked her nicely to change the price. She apologized and fixed the mistake.

This may sound like a simple example, but the truth is, each time you stand up for what's fair, you respect yourself. When you stop allowing others to take advantage of you and respect yourself, your self-esteem improves.

When others take advantage of you, it can do one of three things: one, tick you off, leading to aggressive outbursts or internal anger at yourself (and them).

Feelings of hopeless and reinforcing the false belief that you don't deserve respect.

Guide you to act assertively and stand up for yourself.

Clearly, the third will help you develop strong self-esteem and more self-respect, but it can feel uncomfortable at first.

Your comments ….

It's likely that you are a helpful person by nature, and sometimes you allow people to take advantage of you, because you're nice and you want to please others.

Stop this pattern.

It’s killing your self-respect. You can be kind and nice and have boundaries. Learn to value your own schedule and plans as much as you value others.

Think of a time that you were treated unfairly.

What did that feel like?

Perhaps it was your colleague dumping a project on you at the last minute, the waiter bringing you the wrong food, or your mother calling and keeping you on the phone for an hour. Think about how this situation made you feel physically and emotionally.

Did you want to fix it but just didn't know what to say or were you afraid to say something in order to get what you deserved?

Think about the feelings and thoughts that come up when you recognize someone is taking advantage of your time or kindness. This feeling is important, it will push you to use the skills you just learnt.

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