Stop Fighting Your Feelings Dave! Fall into them instead!

I visited my Go-To “Fall into MY Feelings ??Safe Space” on a couple of occasions lately.

I am so grateful for the invitation from my friend to try it out. And, Yes! It was a Female friend. For some reason, my male friends don’t like to share ideas or invitations when it comes to the feeling my feelings front ??

What you don’t see in the picture is the big screen TV ?? in front of the couch.

Binge watching Netflix here I come!

And what better way to binge watch Netflix, while laying down on a couch, wrapped in your daughter’s blanket (it even smelt like her ??) than by eating a big bowl of KD, a bowl of popcorn ?? and a pint of ice cream. One might argue, a very unhealthy meal, but in this case, it was just what the doctor ????? ordered, on my mental health front

What prompted me to accept my friend’s invitation to pretty much take an afternoon and evening off and just watch TV and eat a lot of crap?

That morning.

To start my morning.

A Monday morning at that.

I received a text.

From a woman that I had gone on a first date with.

We were supposed to go on a second date.

I really liked her.

I was really looking forward to our next date.

I had even bought her a nice gift.

Then I read the text.

It was very loving and caring.

But turns out.

She had met someone else.

She did not feel comfortable dating two men.

So she had to pick and choose.

She picked him.

Now usually, at this point.

I would immediately try and suppress my feelings.

I would double down on my work.

Register for another dating site.

Find anything else to do, in order to keep my feelings at bay

And usually,

that approach does not serve me well.

What happens is the feeling that I am trying to suppress keeps getting stronger, and ends up lasting longer.

I felt sad ?? that morning.

I felt frustrated.

I felt disCOURAGEd

I felt down (I could tell, my eyes kept looking at the ground)

I did not feel my usual level of passion.

I did not feel much energy at all.

So, that is when I took my Friend up on her invitation.

And I set up my Go-To “Falling into My Feelings Safe Space.

I did not have a lot of energy so the box of KD came in handy.

Pop corn. A bit more that a minute to make.

The pint of ice cream ?? took even less.

I just had to open the top, grab a spoon and dig in.

So, how did I feel the next day when I woke up?

I was still feeling a little bit sad.

My energy was still not back where it usually is.

But guess what?

The next day,

It was back!

My passion for my Life was back.

And back in spades.

Those feelings had moved on.

And so had I.

But those feelings will back.

So I will want to have my daughter Emily’s blanket handy.

And a box ?? or two of KD close at hand ??

Well! That’s my story

Cheers!

Dave

Life Coach & Life Storyteller