Stop expecting, start accepting! Life is much easier now

Start by being you first. Just considering a situation , Like - Sometimes we try to replace people , like - if I can be as good at my studies as him/her, if I can also get into perfect shape like him/her and many lists that varies from people to people. Now what you do here is your expectations , you want to be someone who you can't and definitely those people too can't be someone else they too want to be. Therefore, keep it simple and everything will set back to its place. So all you need to do is to be you, you have a great potential , willpower , positivity , strength existing within you , all you have to do is just to exercise it, start from this very moment.

Don't expect anything, rather accept by accepting the very idea that we need to be thankful for what we have, and then we will end up having more . But concentrating only on what we don't have , we will never ever have enough. Whenever you receive those 'unexpected' calls/messages from your old friends, that time also, your happiness is priceless. When you don’t expect from them, and when suddenly they do something best for you, you feel immense happiness. The same goes with your life and people by whom you are surrounded.

Now the question is, why we feel that happiness whenever your loved ones does unexpected things for you ? Because they make you feel special by giving some special treatment or attention to you. Is it the reason behind your happiness at that time. Let me burst out bubble here. No, it’s not the reason of your long lasting happiness. You don’t feel that heartwarming happiness because people gives you unexpected surprise or shows unexpected treatment towards you but because your own least expectations from them was the reason behind that soothing happiness.

Isn’t it simple ? And whenever you expected something big from your loved ones, you always suffered, you always felt bad for yourself. You always considered yourself inferior in front of others. Indirectly by not expecting from others, you plan surprise for yourself in daily routine of your life. It’s deep, think upon it. How to stop expecting from others? Initially it’s very hard, when we experience ignorance, hurting etc again and again in our life and still keep on loving those people by practising not to expect same love from them in return.

Keep on loving, understanding, helping, listening others even if it is hurting you because you are not getting same from them in return, when you need in your hard time. Initially It will hurt you badly. Slowly you will get used to do these things for others by not expecting same from them. Sometimes you will fail, sometimes you will succeed while going through this process but by practising not to expect from others, finally we attain that situation where we expect nothing/least from anyone. Remember, long- lasting happiness is not in receiving, it’s always in giving. So, give more to others and expect less from them and more from yourself.

Smile more and keep sprinkling that drops of smile on others and yourself too. Peace begins, when expectations ends.Suppose your best friend falls severely ill. You then decide to stay beside him in the hospital cabin throughout the night. Even though you may not expect him to do exactly the same thing for you, still you will expect him to at least call you to inquire about your medical condition, in case if you fall ill. And this is how our expectations increase unknowingly, owing to various circumstances. Now imagine a beggar. A needy, homeless man whom you helped someday.

Do you expect him to return the favour if you ever turn bankrupt towards the end of the month. Your answer will be ‘NO’. You didn’t keep expectations from him. Why? Because you were not emotionally attached to him or his problems. You just helped him out of humanity. However, almost the same gesture sowed seeds of expectations in case the person happen to be your close friend or your significant other. Question: How do I stop expecting so much from others? Answer: Don’t go out of your way to help someone because most of the times, your gratitude won’t be reciprocated. If you can stop yourself from doing favours to someone you are attached, only then you can keep less expectations from people.