Stop Doing It the Hard Way!

Ron is a broad-shouldered, strong individual. You wouldn’t know it by looking at him, but he’s had pain and struggles that would leave an ordinary human collapsed in the corner. Struggles with those he loves, watching his net worth being sucked away, business partner separation. He’s been through a lot.

We’ve been working together for two years now. He and I were on the phone yesterday and the transformation he’s been through is day and night. It’s not that this all happened in a day. It’s not that we haven’t seen him moving towards it. But, contrasting where he has been to where he is now, and looking forward to where he is headed. That’s remarkable!

He just acquired a substantial new client, but that is not what’s important. How he is feeling, that is important. Him telling me about how he is showing up with such a presence and how he is serving from that place—that is powerful. Ron is a great example of someone doing the inner work and the outer. With the inner on high octane, he knows what to do in the outer, and the results shift accordingly.

What would it mean to you?

My client decided to stop doing it the hard way. You see, he realized he can’t control those things around him. Instead, he asked himself, what can I control? Consider the points I’ve outlined below. If you can buy into your own possibilities, what would having these things mean to you? What would they be worth? What would they mean in your experience of life, your family, and your money? Dream big and consider what will happen for you.?

What To Expect

1.?Greater clarity?–?People are fundamentally confused. Why? Because there are a lot of moving parts in your world. You are focused on certain things, like your career. You push important parts you don’t really want to think about, don’t know how to think about, or don’t have time to think about to the back of your mind. All of that is a huge sub-optimization of your life and income.

I’ll teach you to slow it down. You’ll learn to like clearing the rocks out of your own backpack! Learn to use certain tools and practices that will create the space. That is how you will create better outcomes. Imagine operating consistently from the?uncluttered mind!

2.?Inner peace?–?For the vast majority of people, if you want to talk about real inner peace, then I’d say they don’t have all that much. People tell me they are going on vacation to recharge. Or going home to recharge. Or getting away from home to recharge. Responses like this tell me there is a whole other way of walking through life you don’t know about. This inner peace is the thing clients want most. They come to understand the good stuff arises from there.

As one business-owner client told me, when I slow down, I get more clarity. I make better decisions and engage others more effectively. It’s the opposite of what I call “monkey brain.” Many high achievers tell me their brains are running all the time. That’s just a bad idea, but it takes learning something new to stop it. If you and I work together, we’ll be getting rid of all of the noise. We’ll do that through deliberate focus, using new tools and practices.

3.?Stress and exhaustion?–?Do you ever feel wound up or under the gun? Have more on your plate than you can do? Perhaps you’re always up against critical consequences. Are you used up by the end of the day? Do you feel stressed even when you’re at home? Maybe you have unwanted thoughts floating around when you’d like to be winding down for bed.

Stress and fatigue are a direct result of your thoughts. Think about it. You are not hauling hay or pushing a wheelbarrow all day. Yet, you are worn out by day’s end. That is all from your thoughts. You’d like to not wear yourself down each day, but you can’t solve a problem from inside the problem. I can help you change your conversation around stress very quickly. You can expect that work to greatly reduce your stress and increase your energy.

4.?Trajectory of your marriage?– It’s not so much where you are now, as it is where you are headed. You have probably been really focused on your business and career. Meanwhile, a lot of things are happening. Kids are growing up. You and your spouse are getting older. The thrill of the new wore off a long, long time ago. Individual human beings start down their own rabbit holes, and those can run very deep. Ask yourself, is my marriage getting better or is it sliding downwards? There is no sideways. It may be already in a place you don’t want. That’s okay. It doesn’t really matter because the past no longer exists. The only time there is, is right now.

My work will help you be your best you on all fronts. Clients ask, what do I do? First, you work on you. What I am suggesting is probably not what you think I am talking about. Your mind goes to what you need to do differently. I will help you how to be differently. My wish for you, whether we’ve met or not, is that you find tremendous love and peace from wherever you are. That may be a tall order and you can’t get there in the next five minutes. But if I can help you go that direction—with some work on the inner—you will see things begin to shift in the outer. You have the ability to create what you want with minimal pain and angst.?

5.?Money matters?– I like money and believe it is fundamentally good. However, having your identity caught up in it, that’s a bad idea. Not evolving your money story—that will hold you back. Everyone I work with, whether they are a working professional or a business owner with hundreds of millions of dollars, wants to succeed at a higher level. It’s not that they are doing everything wrong or don’t know what they are doing. They are successful. It’s just that they can’t see what they can’t see.

There is a reason that, when I work with someone, their business and income tend to jump to a higher level. I began with a story about that. If you are making $400,000, why not make $500,000 and do it with less stress? Helping you find less stress is much of what is going to help you get to the $500,000 way more quickly. After working together, my clients start to talk about themselves as “the old me” and “the new me.” If the old me could do X, the new me can do multiples of that.

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I’ve packed in a ton of value, including the group work and a good amount of individual work, for a fraction of the investment of an individual coaching engagement. My intention is for this work to be truly successful for everyone who joins in.

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