STOP CHASING PEOPLE IN LIFE

Remember, whenever we wanted to find a particular book, we could never find it and every other book that was not required came in hand. No matter how much we searched, that one book was never traceable. Someday, when we don’t want to search for this book, we will find it resting just in front of us in our book-shelf.

Same is with the people. When you chase certain people, you will never be able to get them. Stop chasing them and one day you will find them chasing you, if you were worth it.

This is a need-based world. If I need you, I will find you. And if you need me, I have a number of excuses to tell you how I am busy and how much occupied I am. I may even become rude in replying you just to keep you away. I will not pick your calls, not reply your messages and even block you. But the day, I would need you, I will unblock you, ask about your health, ask for pardon since I could not respond to you earlier, share some old good memories and then come to the point of my selfish interest. I am an opportunist.

There are many people who enjoy making you chase them just to satisfy their ego and fabricated self-esteem. They are busy without business. Keeping 3-4 phones and speaking loudly about their position and power satisfies their esteem. Most of such people are busy without business. They don’t want to remain in the company of intelligent people, they get exposed. They need sycophants to be around them, so that they look important and feel wanted.

Don’t get me wrong. When I speak about such people, I don't speak about those very rare people, who are genuinely busy to respond to you or reach out to you. I am also not talking about people who you are chasing unnecessary. I am only talking about the people, who are in great majority, and who enjoy people chasing them as this satisfies their ego and they feel important. These people are the ones who actually are self-proclaimed celebrities.

My theory about chasing people is simple. Life is a circle. When you chase someone, he increases his speed. When you run fast, he runs even faster. You are making all efforts to catch him and he is making all efforts to increase distance. Reduce your speed and you would see the person you were chasing will slowdown and eventually stop. The circle is such that, if he keeps maintaining distance from you, one day this very person would be standing behind you and he would be chasing you,

When people need you, they would look for you and chase you, and when you need them, they would look the other way around. Understand this as early as you can. This is the truth of life.

It is said, after repeated knocking at the door of success, if it does not open, look for another door. Perhaps this is not the right door for you. Don't waste time on the door that is not meant to be opened.

We do have our icons who we want to meet and want their good wishes and guidance. It is also true that like us, many more are chasing such people. And it is also true that they do not have time to know who all want to meet them. But these are genuine people, who are truly overly occupied. Respect them and their privacy and don’t bother them without justified reasons.

Being in corporate, many people would want to meet the top business tycoons. They are no less than a celebrity. Their image of being a celebrity is very different from being a Bollywood celebrity. If you want to meet them, you have to cross many layers of questioning. Why you want to meet? Purpose and outcome? What if I make you meet someone else? And finally, you get a reply that, he is travelling. These queries are all genuine.

Suddenly you meet one of such people at the airport, and you are fortunate to even shake hand and say hello and in return get a pleasant smile. If the god was especially on your side, you may perhaps get a selfie as well. No protocols and no questioning.

If people are ‘success’, chase them. But first ascertain that whether this success can be achieved? I want to hold the sky in my hand, but can I? And if someone says he can, perhaps I am not in right frame of mind.

Do not run after illusions. They may look real from distance but as you get closer, the shallowness is evident.