"Stop Betraying Yourself"... BECAUSE it hurts and you deserve more in life!
Hulya Erdal
??Nourishing your soul, Nurturing your spirit - Taking you on a Culinary Journey of Self-Discovery | LinkedIn Top Voice??| Chef ????| Coach ??| BBC Radio Personality ??| ??Ambassador - The Burnt Chef Project??
You ever get that sinking feeling when you've agreed to do something but don't really want to?
Maybe you've experienced regret?
You might be feeling frustrated?
A painful dose of resentment?
This is BETRAYAL..
Everytime you go against:
You betray your soul, your heart and yourself. Over and over again.
Let's not confuse this with compromise...
So when we accept compromise, it's a mutual agreement.
We meet somewhere in the middle of a discussion or decision.
Both parties come to an agreement that keeps all involved satisfied.
BUT...
If you are simply relenting and giving in... then you have betrayed yourself.
All is not lost...
Let's unpack this betrayal and get you back on the right path of your dreams.
? Regret? ??
? Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break! Treat yourself with understanding and forgiveness when faced with setbacks or failures. Try this affirmation, daily, "I accept myself for who I am."
? Frustration? ??
? Surround yourself with supportive people: Seek out those who believe in you and your dreams. Supportive friends, mentors, or a community of like-minded individuals can provide encouragement and help you stay motivated.
Bonus: Get a coach or mentor to hold you accountable to your dreams and desires.
? Resentment? ??
? Challenge limiting beliefs: Identify and challenge any negative or limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Make 2 columns of the pros and cons of this resentment. Allow yourself to feel it for a moment. Write down the good and bad about carrying this inside of you. Then make a choice to let go of the resentment. Choosing to live a better, more fulfiling life.
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? Over-compromising? ??
? "Know thy self" : Cultivate self-awareness by regularly reflecting on your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Understand your strengths, challenges, and values, and align your actions with your authentic self. This will help you make choices that fit with your values that lead to your purpose and your dreams.
Bonus: Journal everyday. Write your thoughts and feelings. Get them out of your head. Allow yourself the time for this reflection. It is a miraculous release.
Final thoughts...
There are many ways you can betray yourself.
Procrastination. Lack of self-belief. Fear of failure. Negative self-talk. Ignoring your intution.
BUT...
It's NEVER too late to make a change.
DON'T punish yourself. Do this instead....??
? Clearly define your dreams and break them down into smaller, actionable steps.
? Develop a concrete plan to follow and hold yourself accountable for taking consistent action.
? Working in bitesized chunks will give you less overwhelm and more space.
? Celebrate your wins AND your failures as that is how you create growth.
Be your full, empowered, authentic, beautiful self!
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1 年?? Get clear on your values, what do you desire out of your beautiful life? What are the reasons WHY you wish to do the things you do? Appreciate all you have NOW. When you know your values and your WHYS (or drivers/motivators), then you are more empowered to accept the roles and projects in alignment with your goals and say a loud and proud NO to the ones that won't serve your highest self and growth.