Staying real

Staying real

Do you have a notification addiction?

Do you feel a surge of dopamine or adrenalin every time your electronic devices beep?

Or maybe you have a compulsion to keep looking at your phone and don't question why you are doing it?

Mobile devices have become our go-to places, for more than the services Google provides that's for sure. They can stimulate lots of different feelings in us that we need in order to feel alive. We can gain connection, feel desired, satiated, excited, sad, angry. In fact, we can experience our full range of emotions, but if we are living through our phones and laptops, shouldn't we ask ourselves how much fulfilment we are experiencing?

Are we as happy as we want to be?

Are we as successful as we want to be?

Are we experiencing as much peace as we want?

Are we feeling as loved as we could?

Are we loving as much as we could?

Are our social skills well developed?

Are we living a courageous life?

There is no denying that the instant connection we can gain on the www can offer us so many things, but surely we shouldn't be swapping reality for in-person moments?

If you find yourself not where you want to be in your life, ask yourself ‘What do I feel in control of?’ and also ‘What do I feel is controlling me?’

When we are not creating our own experiences in life, the events outside of us begin to control us. We become addicted to stimulus, instead of addicted to creation. We stop trusting our own judgement, preferring the beliefs of the masses.

We do the same, we feel the same and we become the same.

Being the same may make you feel safe, that you belong, but it's not the kind of belonging that celebrates and encourages your talents, your passions and your purpose. And all these things are the real reasons we are alive and make us feel alive. They may not come as frequently as a beep, but they are far more rewarding and tend to stay with us for the long haul.