Staying calm in the STORM

New Season!!!!!!! New Opportunities!!!

We have been given another opportunity to take in air into our lungs and smell the flowers and opportunities in the world. It has been a very difficult 7 months of my career and today I woke up and felt the pain dissipating away because I chose differently.

Let me not take you into this rabbit hole LOL!!!

Staying calm in this challenging time is a supernatural talent. Staying calm in the storm is a notion that one needs to really live by.

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Here are tips to take into consideration when going through tough times, I personally did – try them:

1. Be optimistic

The way things are in life is not how they should be. What matters is how you handle things. - Vada Satir

The thing about cliches is that they're usually true, even though I'm aware this may seem trite. Although it plays a relatively little but crucial role in getting through the challenging moments, remaining optimistic. When you maintain your positive attitude, you give yourself the best chance to not only get through those difficult moments but also improve as a person. When things go bad in your life, you have two options. You may maintain your optimism by reminding yourself that there is in fact light at the end of the tunnel.

2. Creativity can go a long way

There are instances when there is little you can do to alter the circumstance. However, there are other instances in which you can take initiative to improve the circumstance.

The answer won't be obvious because if it were, you probably wouldn't have found yourself in that predicament in the first place. However, if you can stand back and consider the wider picture, you could find something that can be useful.

The history of Wrigley's gum is a fantastic illustration of coming up with novel solutions during a challenging time. In the 1890s, the company's founder, William Wrigley Jr., sold soap and baking powder and always gave away free gum to every customer. using his

3. Takeaway from the Hard Times

“Facing difficulties is inevitable, learning from them is optional” – John Maxwell

I enjoy dissecting every aspect of a bad scenario to determine what went wrong and what I could have done to avoid it. I always learn something useful in the end, and I eventually have a very clear idea of what I need to do to ensure that I never find myself in the same scenario again. Or, if I do find myself in a comparable circumstance, I will know what to do to lessen its difficulties.

Knowing there is little to no risk of it happening again makes it simpler to get through a trying period.

4. Change It Up

After you identify the key takeaways from your difficult time, you just need to make a change. If it’s a change you can implement immediately, do it. You don’t want to be in the middle of a difficult situation longer than necessary. If it’s something that you can’t implement right now, take note of it so you can use it when the situation calls for it.

But it’s pointless to learn from the difficult times if what you learned doesn’t directly affect your actions.

I’ve really come to embrace the difficulties and struggles that life hands me because I know there’s a silver lining in each one of them. You’re a lot more resilient than you give yourself credit for.5. Know What You’re Grateful for Gratitude means showing appreciation for all the good in your life, instead of focusing on the negative. Get clear about what it is that you’re grateful for.

Write everything in your life you can think of that you’re grateful for having or experiencing. An even more powerful exercise is to think of the one person you’re most grateful for and write a note explaining why you’re so grateful for having that person. Then give him or her a call and read that note to them. The difficult time you’re going through will start to seem less significant when it’s compared to everything that’s going right in your life.

5. Focus on What You Can Control, Not What You Can’t

Some situations are beyond your control and no matter what you do, you can’t change a thing. You’re setting yourself up for frustration when you focus your time and energy on things you can’t control. You’re also making the situation seem even more bleak than it actually is because you’re focusing on the negatives.

You should instead focus on the things that are within your control because that’s the only way you can make a change that’s actually going to help you. Make a list of everything you can control about the situation and divert all of your focus towards those things. Anything that’s not on the list, doesn’t get any attention.

6. Realize You’ve Come a Long Way

Sometimes we get so focused on the road ahead, that we never look back to see what we’ve already travelled. Give yourself credit for everything you’ve already done.

You’ll give yourself a confidence boost when you realize that you’ve already made so much progress and the light at the end of the tunnel will get brighter.

7. Build Up Your Community

Having the right people around you are one of the most important things you can do for yourself when the times get tough. You want to surround yourself with people who are loving, caring, honest, and available.

You need them to be loving because a little love always makes the bad days seem a little brighter. You need them to be caring because it helps to have someone who cares about your well-being as much as you do. But you also need them to be honest. You need someone who can look you in the eye tell you truth. Their honesty may be that one piece of information you need to get through the tough time. And you need them to be available. When you pick up the phone looking for some compassion or honesty, it helps to have someone who’s going to answer.

?Community is also important because it helps to have someone who understands what it is that you’re going through and can relate to your situation. If you can find a community who has been through what you’re going through, you can find out how they made it and then apply that to your own life.

8. Be Kind to Yourself

You need to care for yourself to survive tough times. Take a walk through the park, lift some weights, read an amazing book. It doesn’t matter what you do, just do something that gets your mind and body engaged at a higher level than wallowing in self-pity.

9. Forgive

If someone else is at fault for the bad situation you find yourself in, the natural response is to harbour anger or resentment towards that person.

But what if instead, you forgave that person. You accepted what happened, but you no longer held it against them. You would feel better, because now instead of focusing on the negative feelings you have toward that person, you can focus on moving forward. You can’t really get through a difficult time when your every thought is about how upset you are with the person who got you into that mess. It just makes things more difficult. Or maybe the difficult time you’re going through is a direct result of something that you did. I’ve been there before, and I know I continually beat myself up about it. I couldn’t forgive myself. I almost felt obligated to be hard on myself. The problem with that is, it only makes things worse. You get caught in this revolving door of self-hatred and feeling worse, and there’s a swirl of anger and frustration and self-doubt. It’s ultimately a recipe for disaster.

10.Journaling as a habit

• Start writing down your every emotions, Why keep a journal?
• Our thoughts and feelings are recorded in journals. Despite the fact that most journaling is a daily activity, there are virtually no guidelines. Keeping a journal is a way to document daily life. discovering our triggers for happiness and/or upset.
• As vital as making meaningful ties with family or friends is making meaningful connections with oneself.

Advantages to journaling

James Pennebaker, a psychologist and researcher at the University of Texas at Austin, claims that keeping a journal regularly improves immune function. Additionally, keeping a journal might help you better manage your emotions and enhance your brain and memory health if you suffer from stress, despair, or anxiety.

The benefits of keeping a journal include :

1. controlling anxiety
2. lowering tension
3. Managing depression
4. Your issues and fears might be prioritised by journaling.

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