Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach

To have good extension and flexibility in attitudes, you must have not only flexibility, but control, strength, and balance. To do this you can of course, hold your splits for a few minutes consecutively each day. Kicks up against a wall or levers are always good as well. When you kick, try to hold your leg in a pence, but eventually let go of your leg to see how far it will go without it. As you come up, bend your leg into the attitude position while holding on to something. Eventually, eliminate the hand and the balance. Please let me know if this description is at all confusing, but I think that in general you need to focus on one point and then bend your leg to the back, so stretch out before you try attitudes.

One way, and of course not the only way, is to philosophize flexible attitudes and modify our approach to how we live such as below: Tao Te Ching - Lao Tzu - chapter 76

A man is born gentle and flexible.

At his death he is hard and stiff.

Green plants are tender and filled with sap.

At their death they are withered and dry.

Therefore the stiff and unbending is the disciple of death.

The gentle and yielding is the disciple of life.

Thus an army without flexibility never wins a battle.

A tree that is unbending is easily broken.

The hard and strong will fall.

The soft and flexible will overcome.

We all have an attitude and it is not something you’re born with — and that’s a good thing. Why? Because you can adjust your attitude so it works for you instead of against you. The first place to start is by looking at the attitude you have towards yourself. When you adjust that attitude, it can transform you from being a person with a “victim” mindset (where you believe everyone is against you and nothing will ever work out for you like it does for other people) to becoming a person who feels confident in your critical thinking skills to decide for yourself what you’ll do with your life, how you will think, and what you will choose to do to improve the overall quality of your life.

Your attitude — especially towards yourself — can influence the way you see the world and yourself as part of the world. Impact what you believe you can and cannot do, what you’re “destined to do” in terms of your role in the family, workplace, and your community. Turn into a powerful tool you can use to help you accomplish personal goals, overcome obstacles, and even communicate better with others. Here are a few strategies for changing your attitude for the better. And it all starts with your mindset. Develop a growth mindset.

This is a concept that Carol Dweck describes in detail in her book "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success". She explains how we adopt a certain mindset about our abilities very early in life due to the messages we receive from our parents, teachers, and our community. These messages shape the attitude we develop towards ourselves: what we should be doing, what our strengths and weaknesses are, etc. There are two opposing mindsets that can be either empowering or detrimental to your work and life: a fixed mindset (believing that your affinities and talents are set in stone) and a growth mindset (believing that you can grow and cultivate your skills by working on them continuously). You can take concrete steps to develop a growth mindset by taking small steps every day.

Instead of saying, “I can’t do this!” ask, “Why not try?” Changing the way you talk to yourself is a subtle mind trick that can have long-term results. Instead of indulging in negative self-talk or procrastination, you get proactive about something by just giving yourself the option to do it. First, you need to deal with procrastination itself. Start by looking at the source: is there anything hiding behind your procrastination? For example, maybe you feel fear that you will not be able to do something successfully. Then, try the “Why not?” approach so that you leave some space open for possibilities. This doesn’t mean you’ll automatically be successful at doing something, but you should signal to your brain that it’s OK to try to do it.

Always be more positive about past mistakes. Making mistakes is a normal part of life. It’s not as important how many mistakes you make in a lifetime, or how severe you believe they are. It’s how you approach those mistakes that matters in the long run. Why is this important? Because it’s our attitude towards the mistakes we made that can help us heal faster, understand and learn better, and gain more life wisdom with the experience we accumulate. To start, try a different strategy of viewing your past by forgiving yourself for mistakes that you made. What’s done is done. What can you do today? Reflect on the mistakes you made, learn from them, but don't hold on to them or ruminate for long stretches of time. When you let them go, you will give yourself more freedom to manage your future more successfully.

Stay curious and keep learning. You remember how curious you were about the world as a child? Then the years flew by and you got overwhelmed with becoming an adult with responsibilities and endless schedules. But being curious can be an advantage to you at every stage of your life, not just in childhood! How do you stay curious? Don’t limit your learning experience — just because it’s not taught in school doesn’t mean you shouldn’t spend time learning about it. Pick up books on a topic that is interesting to you. Take an online class in the evening, or watch videos on YouTube to develop a skill that feels empowering to you. Learn something new every day, whether it’s how to code, which foods will keep you healthy, or which books can teach you about setting short and long-term goals.

Be more open-minded about the future. When you find yourself in a situation where you’re not certain how to proceed, start by asking a small question: What if? For example, what if you conquer the fear of speaking in front of a large audience, and that helps you understand yourself and your skills better? When you head out on that personal journey, your life can go forward to places you cannot even imagine today. Instead of seeing life as a series of challenging events that make you feel like a victim, you start seeing more doors that are open to new opportunities you can try out. That is how life becomes an adventure — you explore who you are, what you’re able to do with your skills, and how much you can grow as a human being. With the right attitude, you can look at the future from a better point of view.

Of course you can have realizations about your life whenever you expand your awareness.-Life keeps changing, and doesn’t stop. -These simple realities are true for Christians, Muslims, Jains, Sikhs, atheists, engineers, cigar rollers, taxi drivers, judges. When you think-act in ways consistent with all these obvious, yet often ignored realities, you optimize your life. How can one do that.? There is a distilled form of these statements. It is Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. The method of infusing these certainties into your life, and keeping them there, is taught all over the world by the Soka Gakkai International. There is no fee. Cheers!