Starting Your Next Chapter With Ease

We made it! Happy 2025! I’m always surprised by the continual folly of humans to ignore the seasons provided by Earth (nature) and override them with our own ideas of when things should start with vigor and new accelerated growth. While some crops can thrive in winter, that requires planning and far more effort than the typical growing season. Yet here we humans go again, feeling the pressure to rush into the new year as though it is a race, rather than a quite lengthy marathon. We all know the story of the Tortoise and the Hare, yet we still easily fall for the sprint into January under the hype of “new year, new you!”?

I invite you to Ease into your new year. Lay to rest the idea that it needs to feel like a mad dash to self-improvement or a checklist of ambitions waiting to be ticked off. Instead, imagine stepping into the year as if you were walking sleepily out of your house at dawn— quiet, slightly unsure of what you'll find, but open to what you may encounter in the early shadows of the day.

This year, instead of resolutions, I invite you to think of questions. Not questions that demand answers, but ones that elicit curiosity. What makes your heart quicken its pace in a good way? What would happen if you let yourself wander more and plan less? What does joy look like in this new light of January? Let these questions begin to open you to answers unfolding in their own time, rather than dogmatic instructions which already assume a specific outcome.

The start of the year (our human-made schedule) has barely begun, and there’s no urgency to fill in all of the blanks. Let winter’s slower rhythm guide you: sip warm drinks without rushing to the next task, and intentionally slow yourself with a few long breaths throughout the day. Statistically, 80% of the people who make life-changing resolutions quit by the second Friday of the new year. (It is called Quitting Day!).

Some of our cultural language around the new year needs refining. 2025 doesn’t need to be “seized” or “owned.”? I like the word “savored”. It is an opportunity that can be treated like a fertile seed cupped in your palm. Trust that the seed knows how to grow. And so do you.

Easing into the new year is deeper than avoiding the frenzy of resolutions; it’s about understanding how your brain thrives when you approach change with curiosity instead of pressure. Your brain is a dynamic, adaptive system. It responds to how you treat it—especially in moments of transition.

Think about your prefrontal cortex, your center of reason and intention. It thrives on clarity and focus but can falter under the weight of overwhelm. When you bombard yourself with lofty goals and rigid expectations, you’re asking too much, too soon. Your sympathetic nervous center, the Warrior, takes over. Your Warrior, while adept at its skill of protecting you, tends to overreact to perceived threats. Stress becomes the default, and your new year begins in a cycle of fight, flight, or freeze. Not the start any of us are going for!

But you have another option: attunement. What if, instead of demanding transformation, you allowed yourself to simply observe? In doing so, you activate your brain’s curiosity circuits, engaging the dopamine pathways that reward exploration and novelty. You can ask yourself questions like: “What if I linger here for a moment? What if I don’t have all the answers yet?” Your Guru thrives in this space—where effort is balanced by ease, where each step forward feels supported rather than forced. If you choose a pace from the start where your ambition outpaces reality, you will likely have a very hard time sustaining great change. They may not be as grand a gesture as powerful resolutions, but I promise that small, mindful steps turn into miles over time.

This is about sustainability. Your brain’s neural pathways need repetition to rewire. Small, intentional actions—drinking water mindfully, writing a single sentence about how you feel, stepping outside to notice the color of the sky—create tiny paths of progress without triggering your Warrior’s alarm bells.

Don’t get caught in a cycle of “all or nothing” thinking. When you choose to grow steadily, your brain avoids overwhelm because this approach allows you to stay consistent. Each small step has the power to create sustainable changes, and your confidence will grow with each little win. Instead of quitting, break your goals into manageable pieces. Think smaller.

The potential pitfalls of overpromising and underdelivering are many, where ambition outpaces what’s realistic. I think of all of the years that I took on more than I should (or wanted to) and how much harder my fall from grace would feel every time I couldn’t meet my own unrealistic expectations. A mindful, sustainable approach proves time after time that true progress comes from small, intentional steps.?

Take a measured approach. Reflect on what truly matters to you and pick just one or two priorities—small, meaningful steps that feel achievable within the rhythms of your life. They can be as simple as committing to a ten-minute walk each morning and drinking one extra glass of water daily. These changes may seem incredibly minor, but they’re intentional and can be built upon. Your brain, free from the stress of unrealistic expectations, will reward your progress with small hits of dopamine, causing you to do more, and then you’re off and running creating a cycle of increasing wins.

When you treat the new year as an unfolding story rather than a rigid checklist, you give your brain the gift of integration. You allow your nervous system to settle, creating a foundation where growth feels safe, and even appealing. This is how you ease into the year: not with the weight of transformation, but with the quiet assurance that change comes most naturally when your brain is calm, curious, and ready.

What I suggest for you is that you begin to write the story of this year. The power of writing your own story lies in reclaiming the authorship of your life. It’s the act of stepping into the role of narrator, choosing how to frame your experiences, and deciding what meaning they hold. In doing so, you transform from a passive participant swept along by circumstance into an active creator, shaping your narrative with intention and purpose.

Writing your story is more than a vision board woo-woo-y exercise; it’s a practice grounded in neuroscience. When you articulate your experiences—whether on paper or in your mind—you engage your Guru, who begins to create opportunities. The simple act of organizing your thoughts into a coherent story helps calm your Warrior. It allows you to observe your life differently, and to see patterns where there was once only noise.

In writing your own story, you gain the ability to reframe the past. Of course you can’t change what happened, but you can decide what it means. That time you felt like a failure? Maybe it was the beginning of resilience. The heartbreak that left you shattered? Perhaps it was the catalyst for a profound self-discovery. By reinterpreting your experiences, you can rewrite old narratives that no longer serve you, replacing them with ones that empower and uplift you.

The act of writing your story also shapes your future. When you craft a narrative, you’re not just chronicling what has been—you’re envisioning what could be. You set the stage for the person you want to become and the life you want to lead. Every word, every choice in how you tell your story, plants seeds in your subconscious. Those seeds grow into beliefs, which shape your actions and, ultimately, your reality.

So ease into your new year. Think of how you want to feel this year, and who you want to be. But you don’t need to be churning 50 pages of the book you’ve always wanted to write or run a marathon by February or never eat a delicious dessert again. This is chapter 1, and most stories take a while before the action heats up. Take intentional time to write the story of the year, even just an outline with you as the main character. Then begin to take small intentional steps to make it happen. It’s not because slow and steady wins the race, it’s because slow and steady is the best pace.

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