It started with a silver wig…

Sometimes we can only see how far we've come when we look in the rear view mirror!

4 years ago this week, I dyed my hair to hide the grey for the last time. You may be here because you follow this journey already, because you know me personally or we've connected through one of my businesses. I posted some new pics of the journey on?social media?earlier this week - but every journey has bumps in the road and life lessons, so here are a few of mine… (& it's about SO much more than hair!!).

This was more than a hair colour shift - changes happened mentally, physically & emotionally too.

After that last dye during lockdown, I realised how much time, effort and money I'd spent over the years. Fighting against my grey hair left me feeling 'less than'. I was constantly planning ahead for holidays, events etc to make sure the telltale white patch didn't show.

I had a plethora of root sprays, emergency home dye kits & angst. I know it's bonkers. It's also true!

I realised one of the main reasons my hair mattered so much to me is because I wanted people to look up at my face as I had such a poor relationship with my body.

Even my Mum said 'Nice face, shame about the legs… focus on your face, it's your best bit'… That's not today's story but I've had some serious lightbulb moments lately so stay tuned…

Note: Midweek MoJo is NOT “3 Top Tips for making everything A-OK in all areas”. This is real life … so it's a constant cha-cha back & forth!?

Ready for some pics from the depths of my photo albums??

The decision to explore what it would feel like to REALLY embrace being me - silver hair, curves and all - was the catalyst for a new sense of freedom and self-acceptance.

I kind of expected:

• To have wiry, salt & pepper hair
• To save time at the salon
• To save money on dye
• To look older and a bit 'witchy'
• To probably dye it again a few weeks later

What surprised me with joy:

• OMG there's a LOT of silver in there
• When I started a new account on Instagram, up popped the #silversisters !!!
• Finding community and real life fun & friends in some little squares on a grid
• LOVING my healthy silver hair
• Hair that's softer, shinier, stronger and longer!
• Not caring whether I look older or not
• Redefining what it feels like to show up authentically as ME

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I decided to 'blend' my roots into the ends after a few months - I kind of wish I'd stuck with the grow out now BUT it worked for me… you do you! (& if that means sticking with the dye, there's no judgment here!).?

CLICK to see the actual Big Blend process!

So what impact?can't?you see in the 'Before & After' photos?

• MENTALLY?- less stress. More confidence in being me. Beginning another journey to explore how and I why I think differently in many ways … and finding peace in the chaos of life (most days!!)
• EMOTIONALLY?- realising (ironically because there HAVE been a gazillion selfies ????♀?) that my worth and value is not linked to how I look. I am enough just as I am.
• PHYSICALLY?- it feels like I've taken off a mask I've worn for years. Accepting my hair as it is - and seeing how it changes and evolves - has helped me appreciate ALL of me and feel more comfortable in my skin than ever before

PS.??Over the coming weeks, your Midweek MoJo will go deeper into the Mental, Physical & Emotional impact of changes in Midlife. If you could choose one: Mind, Body or Heart, where would you want to start? Drop a comment ?? or DM me if you'd prefer.