Spending Time Alone is Just What You Need
Spending time alone!?Let’s start with a simple question.
How happy can you be?
Because that’s the goal in life isn’t it?
Everything you do, everything I do, is ultimately for us to feel happy.
But what if you’re going about it all wrong?
?What if you’re totally missing the very thing that allows you to experience everything you desire in this lifetime?
First and foremost, Because I am an introvert. Introverts are defined by the very trait of being on their own as much as they can, or as long as they want.
I like my own company. I don’t meet many people with my kind of intellect.
I hate small talks.
Social interactions suck the energy out of me and Being alone helps me recharge myself.
I can (over)think clearly when I am alone on all the important and unimportant matters.
I don’t like getting judged. Everybody you see/meet/come across is judging you at all times. I cannot stand that feeling for long.
This might be a new idea for you but the richness of life doesn’t come from sticking with the old and familiar.
And spending time alone might be what you need, but... you could be like the millions of people on this planet who hate even the thought.
?The fear of being by ourselves, without our friends or family or partners to keep us distracted or feeling safe can be terrifying.
But spending time alone isn’t about being lonely.
1000 times better. Then you will have your company and the time to recognize?the best version of you.
What is missing?
What is your best part?
You worth more than you think!
What are you doing? and where you will reach after finishing this?
You have nothing to regret because?you know that you will get better and then you will work for best.
You have this a whole bunch of time investing on you. “The Best Invest Ever”
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Thank?you ... When my?wife passed?away, few years ago now,?I soon found how fearful I was about taking on life without a shoulder to lean on, or a hand held out when I stumbled and fell. It’s natural. And I felt truly alone.
Alone time, on the other hand, is about rejuvenation, about giving your body and your?mind space and nourishment and it turns out it be amazingly rewarding.
So, what do you stand to gain?
Space
Space is needed for those ‘eureka’ or ‘aha’ moments.?Have you noticed that you only get them when you stop being so busy??When you give yourself the gift of spending time by yourself?
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They’re important because:
A moment’s aha is worth a lifetime of experience.
Your alone time creates a doorway for miracles to walk through and it’s something to be nurtured and cherished.
Energy increase
You’ve dealt with so much and done the best that you could. Sometimes life is amazing and sometimes it’s awful.
Spending time alone is an opportunity to notice who and what your energy increases and decreases around.
The most challenging thing in life isn’t being aware of those who don’t understand you, it’s recognizing where you don’t understand yourself.
Your awareness of your energy increasing or decreasing is a huge?universal hint that it’s time to shut some things and some people out.
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Access to the magic
The magic that makes things better is in you; hidden behind all the noise and distractions of daily living.
Underneath the ongoing text or email messages, the incessant ringing of the phone or people needing your attention lies your inner magic.
?It’s in your thinking, in your creativity, in your peacefulness.
?Within it lies the key to your more wonderful future.?I challenge you to take the necessary alone time and re-connect with your inner magic.
True listening
Within you is a voice that doesn’t use words.
Your body responds to food and drink, but your heart?and soul need nourishment?and when you truly lose yourself in the act of deep listening you will eventually find you no longer allow the reality of your current life to interfere with what your inner self tells you is possible.
As you become more skilled at listening you’ll find it easier to stop letting the opinions and noise from others drown out the real you. This is one of the paths to deep inner peace, well-being and success.
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The quickest cure to overwhelm
It would be ridiculous if your body was to do its own thing without your consent: without your decision to move it and yet we allow our minds to do their own thing... sometimes seething with thoughts of anger, worrying about something that may never happen or even running through a laundry list of resentments.
No-one else can choose the thoughts you think, no-one else occupies a space in your head unless you allow it.
Don’t allow it.
?You desire happiness – who doesn’t?
So, make sure your body and your mind take instructions from you naturally and you’ll?create happiness for yourself.
Start now, so you’ll never have to live a?life you didn’t want.
A fully-fledged ?life
The true value of life is its beauty, its intensity, its vitality, and a basic requirement for being connected to a fully-fledged life is feeling peaceful and knowing joy.
But far too often we don’t have the time.?So busy are we with the expectations of others, or their opinions of who we are and what we’ve done that we simply aren’t able to take the steps we need to take to fulfill our destinies.
You deserve to be happy. Turn off the outside voices that distract you from your heartfelt desires and turn on your inner voice, the one that leads you to living life to the full and enjoying every moment.
Managing Director at DAYALIZE
3 年Being happy all by yourself is by no means something to be ashamed of. But what exactly does it mean to be happy alone? It all boils down to coming to peace with your flaws, your circumstances, and your significance in the world. It means believing and understanding that your presence is all that matters, no matter how happy others may seem. Did you know that according to recent research, people who like spending time alone are less likely to feel tense, moody, and worried? This only adds evidence to the notion that spending time with yourself isn't a bad thing whatsoever. In fact, it can actually be quite beneficial. Spending time with yourself is a huge step in the right direction when it comes to being happy alone. Here are a few examples of how you can start today. What Makes You Feel Alive? Spend some time considering what makes you happy. What was the last thing that made you smile? When was the last time you felt a sense of "awe?” Try making a list of these things. Make it a goal to come up with at least ten different things that make you feel happy. They can be as simple as sipping a mug of tea or planting flowers, whatever brings you a genuine sense of joy. Learn Something New Next, make a list of ten things that you've always wanted to do. Having time alone allows you to concentrate all of your energy on what you want to focus on, without having to worry about anyone else. This also opens up a wealth of opportunities for creative development. Picking up new hobbies allows you to learn more about yourself, teaches you patience, and allows you to express yourself in new ways. Don't be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone. If you're not ready to pick up a new hobby, make a point to go somewhere new each week. This could be a coffee shop down the street or in a distant town—whatever you prefer. You might find that exploring new places alone is very rewarding, especially since you don't have to follow anyone's schedule but your own.
Managing Director at DAYALIZE
3 年Boost to your happiness ... Sometimes I think truly happy people are often born that way.?But I’ve also noticed that happy people allow themselves to be happy and unhappy people keep on doing the same things that upset them every time. It’s far too easy to have your mind so full of what’s happening around you in this moment, that there’s no room for the things that really matter to you. When you take a step back and free yourself from the dictates of life you give yourself an opportunity to think about the pleasant things in your life... because you choose too. Then someday you’ll be able to say “I lived joyfully, with moments of self-discovery and?turned work into play.?I learned to live MY life.” An awesome?reality checks When you sit down and think about where you started you can then begin to appreciate what you’ve accomplished. Most?of us will never become satisfied with our life, even when we accomplish our goals, because we soon forget every success we’ve had. Taking the time to be aware, truly aware, that the negative image you’ve created in your mind about who you are isn’t the reality is a boon to your future success and happiness. Searchlight of contemplation What we plan in the soil of contemplation, we shall reap in the harvest of action. Having the ?time to contemplate ?opens up a whole new world. Your perspective on life grows stronger as you use contemplation like a searchlight to discover more of what is meaningful to you. Contemplation can be as little as 5 minutes or up to 10. ?Discipline your mind to focus on anything that inspires you and you’ll discover a deep understanding of what’s working in your life and what isn’t, so that you can make the changes to discover more of life’s wonders in this lifetime. Final Thoughts Your mind is like the water. When it is agitated it becomes difficult to see, but when you let it settle, the answer becomes clear. This is a vital life lesson for us all!?Spending time alone gives you this chance.