Special access: Behind the scenes of what I REALLY do (hint: it's not just coaching)

So, what exactly do I do?

I work in the intersection of therapy, coaching, and neuroscience.

Sounds fancy, right?

But really, I'm just obsessed with how our brains are wired from ages 0-3 and how that impacts us as stressed-out adults trying to do ALL THE THINGS.

I used to be a strategy consultant, running on stress and last-minute adrenaline rushes.

Sound familiar? I thought it was my superpower.

Spoiler alert: it wasn't.

For the longest time, I thought it was exclusively attributable to my Indian upbringing with its focus on performance and survival anxiety.

But here's the kicker - and it was such a relief to learn this - you don't need to have experienced trauma, abuse, or bad parenting to have this pattern.

It can literally start in-utero!

No blame, no shame needed.

Phew, right?

Then I did what any reasonable person would do - I quit my job and became a birth doula.

(I can hear you laughing, but stick with me here!)

Turns out, I was still recreating the same cortisol addiction cycles, just in a different setting.

Boardrooms or birthrooms, my body couldn't tell the difference.

It was all "high-stakes" to my poor, stressed-out brain.

But here's the thing: that "high" from stress? It's VERY costly. (even if addictive !)

We're talking sleep issues, cortisol belly (hello, muffin top!), messed-up metabolism, and anxiety through the roof.

And don't get me started on how overusing the HPA axis (that's your stress response system) is basically playing Russian roulette with pre-diabetes.

With my Indian genes, I definitely didn't need any more "ON" switches for that!

That's when I fell down the rabbit hole of early neuroscience. And let me tell you, it was mind-blowing!

You know that cycle of:

1. Taking on way too much (enthusiastically, of course)

2. Feeling overwhelmed

3. Procrastinating

4. Last-minute panic

5. Stress-fueled all-nighter

6. Crash and repeat

Yeah, turns out that's not great for us. Who knew? (neuroscientists knew.)

Now, here's where I get a little fired up.

I tried everything - executive coaching, time management hacks, talk therapy.

And you know what they all said? "Do more!" Can you believe it?

More planning, more schedules, more willpower.

It was like throwing gasoline on a fire!

All it did was trigger more stress, more cortisol, more of the exact cycle I was trying to break.

But nothing worked.

Why?

Because they weren't addressing the root cause: my stress-addicted brain.

I thought the only way to be productive was when I was stressed to the max.

Turned out, it's not.

And it's super costly on the body.

Trust me, your adrenals are begging you to stop.

But here's where it gets really real: this stress addiction?

It was messing with my ability to connect with my kids.

You know that warm, fuzzy feeling you get when you hug your little ones or partner?

That's oxytocin - the "love hormone" - doing its magic.

It's what helps us bond, feel connected, and just melt into those precious cuddly moments.

When we're stressed out, our bodies pump out cortisol instead of oxytocin.

It's like your body's saying, "No time for cuddling, we're in survival mode!"

So all that juicy, oxytocin-filled bonding we're supposed to have?

Yeah, stress was stealing that from me.

I was there physically, but emotionally? Not so much.

And it's not just about feeling good (though that's important too!).

Oxytocin is crucial for our kids' development.

As well as our mental health.

It helps us feel safe, secure, and loved, which sets the stage for healthy emotional development.

So by learning to dial down my stress, I wasn't just helping myself - I was also showing up for my loved ones.

The first time I was productive without stress, it felt amazing.

And easy.

But it also made me sad.

Like, ugly-cry sad.

I couldn't help but think: "What if I had known this earlier? How much present could I have been for my loved ones?"

That's why I'm so passionate about this work now.

I've spent a decade figuring this stuff out so you don't have to.

I've distilled all that neuroscience goodness into practical, female-friendly strategies that can create big shifts in just 6-10 weeks.

Mom, not-a-mom or maybe-future-mom - it doesn't matter.

This work is custom built for the female, fast-paced brain.

Want to experience it for yourself?

I'm doing some hotseat coaching sessions where you can dip your toes in.

No pressure, no obligation.

Just come and see if it resonates.

Because here's the thing: you deserve to be productive/ambitious AND experience juicy relational safety.

You deserve to break free from that stress cycle.

Ready to give it a try?

Let's rewire those beautiful brains together!

Hugs,

Sangheetha

P.S. Even if you're not ready to dive in, come check it out. You might be surprised at what you learn about yourself. And who knows? It might just change your life. It sure changed mine.

https://www.dhirubhai.net/events/newemotionalhomeworkshop-forind7234615812945297410/