SPEAK IN SUCH A WAY SO PEOPLE LISTEN

SPEAK IN SUCH A WAY SO PEOPLE  LISTEN 

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LISTEN IN SUCH AWAY SO PEOPLE SPEAK

Many people who struggle with getting respect feel like they have no voice and nobody listens to them.

·     Are people ignoring you, interrupting you, or talking over you?

·     Are people not paying attention when you speak?

·     Are your opinions overlooked or your feelings brushed aside?

A good speaker and excellent listener is always welcomed

Making yourself heard will help you develop more of a presence. That presence will earn you respect from the people close to you, both family, friends, and work colleagues along with the participants attending your sessions and training programs.

Use people’s name when you’re talking to them.

Keep in mind a person’s name is the sweetest thing to that person.

Avoid overly complex language Complex language or jargon's may mislead the audience so that you are not understood.

If you are using words that people do not understand OR they have to struggle to know the meaning of your sentences then they will try to pay attention to your message.

Talk about things that interest the other person. (A common mistake is to talk about your own interests ONLY.)

People like like minded people to gain their interest in your conversation it is extremely important to talk about their INTEREST as well.

 Ask more questions about the other person – this will keep their focus on you.

The more you engage someone the more they will pay attention.You may use their names in your examples or ask question directly pointing at them that will grab their attention through-out.

Use hand gestures to make your message stronger and clearer.

No one in the world can tie their hands and speak in normal way to any audience. HAND movements & hand GESTURES play very vital role in your message delivery. They also create an impact of your body language to the person you are talking to OR delivering a session to.

Keep more eye contact (make sure you give everyone in the group about equal eye contact to keep everyone’s interest.)

Confidence of the speaker comes from the eye contact to the person he is speaking to it doesn’t mean you can GAZE them. If the person is not looking into your eyes then probability is that HE/SHE is losing interest in topic you are talking about.

Exercise your voice and articulation to get a strong voice that everyone hears.

When your voice should be loud and when should be low has a great impact on the complete discussion you are doing.

Minimize complaining and negativity (make people feel good listening to you.)

 The moment you start complaining you will distract your listener .If you are willing to complain postpone it for separate time OR do it in private. Complaining in public will create hatred for you. The rule is APPRECIATE in public and Criticize in private. 

 Avoid bragging. (People will see through it and think less of you for it.)

People will never like those who speak proudly. Particularly if they are only talking about themselves while they have not accomplished with flying colors.

 Use effectual pauses. (Silence has a big impact on speech). 

 Pauses are always the essence of complete speech .Wrong pauses can ruin the whole message and also change the meaning as well.

 Vary your tempo and tone when speaking. This makes you more interesting to listen to. (Practice at home by recording yourself speaking.)

Audience constantly follow good voice and tone of the speaker it is the responsibility of speaker not to let the listener disconnect.

Ask people for feedback about how you can improve your speech.

 Feedback can change anyone's life. From okay to outstanding speeches. As the final verdict should be of the person (Listener) who is going to learn from your speech/ Session OR Training.

At the end of the day your first impression is the lasting impression. you are always creating and an impact with you your words to audience that is always eager to listen to you. Make sure use the Right words At Right time.

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Thank you so much for reading the complete article. I am Subhan Sharif Corporate Trainer & Motivational Speaker .Organizations engage me to train their employees and Universities invite me to speak to young corporate graduates.You wish to ask anything please feel free to comment here. YOU can connect with on LinkedIn or at [email protected] JUST email me.