Speak less than you know-Shakespeare

?Benjamin Franklin was a princely, diplomatic gentleman with those lush steely locks? The smoothest social badass of his time? Does it ring any bells? Ben Franklin unlocked the secret to getting other people to like you. Most of us have been conditioned to think that the way to get someone to like us is by doing nice little favors for them, thereby demonstrating that we are a thoughtful and dependable person. Old Benji thought differently.

Franklin once had a very powerful political rival who was hellbent on making his life miserable. Franklin knew that it would be beneficial to have this man on his side, but instead of groveling for his approval, he took a counter-intuitive approach. He knew his rival was in possession of a very rare and valuable book, and simply asked him to borrow it. After a few days, he returned it with a thank you note and, surprisingly, his rival became his friend.

What Franklin tapped into is a well-known psychological principle known as cognitive dissonance. Basically, cognitive dissonance is the tension that results from having two contradictory beliefs in our mind at the same time. This stress is uncomfortable, so we automatically alter one of our beliefs to conform with the other to resolve this conflict.

In the case of Franklin, his rival held the belief: “I do not like Benjamin Franklin.” Upon doing him the favor, however, he was forced to come to terms with another belief: “It’s a pain in the ass to do favors for other people, so I only do favors for people I like.” These two beliefs are in conflict, and since he cannot un-loan the book, he was forced to soften and eventually reverse his ill-will towards Franklin. The secret of the Benjamin Franklin effect is this: If you want people to like you, ask them to do favours for you.

Smart people respect solitude. One who respects solitude interacts very less with people. One who interacts very less with people spends most of his/her time in silence or talking to himself/herself. In doing so, such continuity is maintained. Now, if a smart person will interact with the crowd, he/she will speak less. This is because he/she has become wise enough in solitude and knows that unnecessary talks would only waste time and will not yield something meaningful. It is better to speak when there is something meaningful. All credit goes to solitude. Solitude teaches a person to speak less and meaningful. Those who do not practice solitude never know it. This differentiates smart people from mediocre people. Solitude is a great teacher. Be her student.

Karma is a law. It hardly matters whether we believe in karma or not. It's just like saying- Do you believe in gravity? Try to throw your mobile up in the sky. Will your mobile fly into the sky or will it come back into your hands? This is the law of gravity. There is no proof. We infer the law because when we throw something up, it comes down. Science inferred that there must be a force called gravity. How do we believe in karma? The seed you plant decides the fruit on the tree.

Because, “A good speaker is always a good listener too.” Speak only what is necessary. Unnecessary speaking makes the listener bore & it will make them feel that you are boasting. So, always try to listen & it will also consume your energy & that consumed energy, you can bring to your work. & one thing also, if you are doing well, then you need not have to say much about yourself because the other person will automatically come to know that. Now quoting my own made lines, “The more you listen, the more you’ll gain.”

If you plant apples, you can't get mangoes or oranges. Therefore, there is a law, the law of the boomerang — what you do will come back to you. What you give is what you get. We infer that this law exists by seeing that everything that is happening around us is happening not because of the will of God or because of luck. It is an organized law that operates, that governs the universe and it is called the law of karma, the law of action and reaction.

Knowledge tells you what to speak. Skill teaches you how to speak. Attitude guides you on how much to speak. And wisdom tells you whether to speak at all and be silent. Best style of behavior is to be assertive, express yourself frankly ,speak what must be, use circumspection and prudence to be silent, delete, and hold back what you think is in the best interest. I would like to know what are your goals behind this decision of yours in order to write a better answer.

I am a cool person since childhood, and what I mean by a cool person that nothing effects me, nothing can get under my skin, no one has the power to upset me, but I talk a lot, I try to socialize as much as I can and I like to interact to people in order to get to know the more the better. How do I achieve this, I don't have any expectation from anyone, I don't trust anyone and I embrace change. The most important thing that I do is I respect everyone's view and not fight to change their view and I don't care what their views are about me. Cheers!