Sometimes a little perspective is needed
Cormac Halpin
Talent Acquisition Manager | Global Recruitment Leader | Driving Critical Power & Energy Solutions Empowering Data Center Solutions | Delivering Best-in-Class Hiring Solutions
I wanted to share a thought that struck me last night on my commute home, the time of day where you are a captive in your car in a line of inching traffic and flashing brake lights, that allows you the space to sit back and reflect on the day and tackle any problems you may have. The thought or idea or concept (I'm struggling to define it and don't want to use epiphany!)that I had is that you need perspective in life.
Those of you that know me away from LinkedIn and work, know that I am typically quite a private person and tend not to "share". I very rarely share my feelings or emotions, even with those closest to me and while I know many will say that is not healthy and the general truisms of "a problem shared is a problem halved" all apply ... still that is just me.
My daughter, an amazing four year old that makes me happy every time I just think about her, is having a very difficult time at the moment. She is having behavioural issues and is struggling with her emotions to the point where the creche, her home away from home, have asked her to be removed as they can no longer care for her. This broke my heart, I can cope with rejection and disappointment, but how do I explain to my daughter that she has to move to a new creche and leave her friends, the safety of a familiar and friendly surrounding, to join a new creche and start a new chapter? A day spent calling forty or more creches local to my office and being told time after time that there was no spaces available had me at an all time low. I sat in my car and cried.
While driving home I took a call that made me change the way I was thinking. A friend of our family, a young family themselves with a recent addition only two weeks old, were in a situation far worse than mine. The husband had gone in to work as usual but started not making sense and became very confused, he collapsed and had a seizure, was taken to hospital and had further seizures. When he awoke he did not recognise or know his children or his family. The doctors and consultants are still running tests to try and diagnose what is happening. His wife, due to having a two week old daughter at home, can not even visit him to support him or be with him.
Perspective, or the way we view our situation in relation to the world around us is so incredibly important. I was feeling so low, feeling like there was no light at the end of the tunnel, no hope. Hearing that news made me reevaluate where I stood. It gave me perspective. It made me realise that yes my life is difficult at the moment, that it may well get more difficult over the coming weeks. But I get to drive home tonight, I get to pick up my little girl and give her a hug, I get to be there to help her through these changes and help her navigate this rocky time.
Perspective lets you find the good in any situation. If you are struggling and feel that you are at the bottom of the pile, take 5 minutes just to look around and put some perspective on your thoughts.
Thank You
I know that some people may read this and take nothing from it and others may give out about it being non-business related. I felt I had to share it so thank you for taking the time to read it.
Human Resources
7 个月With my own baseball team (no embellishment) 3 children over the past 30 days of the 9 were in the hospital and not at the same time either, but all at different times and for different reasons. Now mind you, this is not the first time the unexpected has tossed in a handgrenade that tilted the axis of emotional balance. I can recall our first kick in the gut. While driving to the hospital after the police knock on our door informing us. Your child was flown by helicopter to the hospital (this has happened 3 times) that is 2 hours away. I can say, you fell numb and you want to go 100 miles per hour thinking the worst. Your wife is next to you in tears and no words are being spoken. You just don’t want to verbalize what are the worst thoughs jumping around in your head to each other. What I have learned is to remain positive, do not focus on the what if, and take one fact at a time. What is the plan and support each other. My personal optic; No such thing as a bad day, some are just better than others. Cormac, it is difficult to prepare for the unexpected, but your emotional balance provides the best outcome for your family and well done!!
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2 年Cormac, thanks for sharing!
Senior Recruitment Consultant at RecruitmentPlus
5 年So true, if only we can remember to take a step back!!!? Hope your little princess gets into a super creche
Recruitment Office Manager at ISM Recruitment
6 年Cormac, Perspective is every thing in life and in business.. hope everything works out for all of you.
Content reviewer at Accenture
6 年Thank you for sharing this. 5 mins thoughts change a lot of thinking!