Some people in our life are like heartbeats, silently supporting us

Remember that wisdom and knowledge are two quite different things. There can be combinations also like an extrovert may be selfish, egoistic and with low knowledge or vice versa but it is said that wise people are silent and opens up their mouth only when required but it's converse is not true and there can be various reasons for silence. Introversion is just one reason out of many for knowing silence of people and rest nine can be found in extroverts and other personality types.

Consider those people who like to keep silence despite having sufficient knowledge, by introversion -either he may be introvert or shy or he may have respect and he may be quiet out of respect of his elders, more expert people or gurus etc. Or even fear because he may have fear or threat of somebody there who might misunderstand his statements. Avoiding unnecessary argument so that he may prefer to keep silence on controversial issues to maintain relationships. Some provide paid services like those people like consultants, psychiatrists, lawyers doctors normally don’t give free advice. Their word costs money.

Some show disinterest/ no need to talk because they are not interested in discussion with every other person. they may be extrovert but opens up with similar mindset people. They may feel that there is no need to speak everywhere. Some of course keep quiet due to selfishness knowing that he may not be interested in helping others except for his family & known ones. Some have ego and such people carve for attention and wait until somebody asks for his expert advice. They will open up for attention & respect and not for guiding/helping somebody. The most dangerous lot are Selfish and egoists.

There are some silent types because of less or no knowledge of the subject or they have low knowledge or insufficient information so that the person may not have complete knowledge about that topic. Or he may also have low confidence and he may have doubt that he won’t be heard properly. He also might have some communication issue and he may not be able to find the right words or draft it properly to communicate well.

The world is very diverse with lot of things to do and become passionate about. Sometimes interests, experiences, thoughts, beliefs don't match with others. It's not that they are opposites, it's that they might not be about the same topic. Some people speak at different wavelengths. Some people want to share their observation, some people want to share their theories on life, some want to talk about their passion, some want to talk about sports, movies. Both of the people talking have to be willing to listen to the other.

Some people have low energy levels and when I'm really tired, and stressed out and go out and meet friends, I will be too drained to talk. Even if I want to, even if I feel a desperate need to, if I did not keep myself stress free throughout the day (or over the week), I will be silent. I won't be able to participate. It's your body's natural way of recovering from the stress you have accumulated. Motivations that might cause not talking, but can be considered negative to your personality and self. There are some valid reasons like anxiety and stress or fear of saying things which are stupid or those things which create awkwardness and need to say the right thing or the correct thing.

Some times people have wrong feeling to show that they are always correct and want to always show off knowing everything just in order to impress. Because you put the pressure on your self to impress another person, you feel anxiety and sometimes other people genuinely misunderstand what we meant to say. That can be dissuading to explain. Reasons to not explain could be laziness or lack of interest to explain.

It is better to make all the conversation useful if you measure conversations by how useful they are to get you what you want, it seems rational to let go of conversation styles that are useless. If you don't like certain conversation styles of course this can be due to cultural shock or peer pressure or family pressure too. Stay blessed ! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywriringspirit #ks900articles #proudtobeindian