Some Days Suck

Some days suck. They just do. 

Some days, I want to shut down the Zoom Camera. 

In the Before Times, I definitely used the bathroom stall as a fort to shield my emotion.

We’ve all been there. 

Our chest tightens. 

Or we start to sweat. 

Or we feel a heavy sensation in our stomach.  

And the feeling would be a distraction. 

It impacted my thinking and my ability to get my work done. 

Try writing strategy when you are feeling doubtful about a previous conversation. 

What just happened? I was just fine, and now I am in SuckVille.

This was fascinating and infuriating. 

I got curious. 

Avoiding the suck is like trying to hold a beach ball underwater. 

It’s almost impossible to keep it there. 

The sucky feeling needs to be felt.  

So how do you do this? 

I teach my clients to notice where you feel the suck in your body. 

When we do not feel the emotion, we are walking around as a shell of ourselves afraid of what might happen. We run on fear, lack, and dry up our self-confidence.

Identifying where I feel the feeling in my body helps me allow the feeling.

Giving it a name

-- fear, doubt, anger--

helps to process it too.

The vibration passes.

There isn't anything to fear. 

Feelings or emotions aren't good or bad. They are just vibrations in our bodies due to our thoughts. Simply put, the thought causes a chemical reaction, and we experience a feeling or vibration in our body. 

When we know we can experience

any feeling and get through we

increase our self-confidence.

When we resist feelings, we tend to want to numb out—too much screen time, food, or drink. 

It is so much easier for me to feel the feeling and get curious about what thought is causing the feeling.

I learned how to investigate the chatter in my head. Then I either coach myself or get coached in order to process it. 

Most of us weren't taught how to feel our feelings, so we end up fearing them and this dramatically impacts our self-confidence. And our productivity. 

When I began to realize the worst thing I can feel is a vibration, it’s now rather funny to be so afraid of it. 

It's OK to have it suck. It's OK to be a mess. It’s OK to feel discomfort. It’s all temporary. 

Discomfort has helped me evolve. There’s no way I’d have the career I do if I didn’t lean into the discomfort.

We build self-confidence by realizing that

we can experience any feeling and

get through the other side.

Now I can process the feeling and move forward, knowing that next time it happens, I know how to deal with it.  

Life opens up. Healing happens. Careers advance. It's all possible.

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