The Social Villain & your Family!

During the last few months, I had an opportunity to go through some of the cases my counselor friend had been working on in the previous years. While there were plenty of individual cases of both men and women needing attention and help; I was somewhat astonished of the family related cases which had direct links with social media platforms at play which had crashed very beautiful families due to social friendships gone in the wrong direction.

Most of these wouldn't even come out to help the next set of victims those who would unknowingly or unintentionally destroy their years of relationships, marriage and bonds while some few cases involved even innocent children. Awareness wouldn't made due to privacy thus it is somewhat hard to protect the rest of the world giving the related knowledge. My good friend allowed me to help the world of course without discussing names to protect the privacy of her clients.

Per my friend, also per my knowledge and obviously! There aren't perfect relationships. Relationships are meant to have ups, down's and trouble. The whole idea is not trying to live as one but to understand the differences of the other and living together while understanding and sacrificing for all what's is not blending well.

At the same time, most of us are working, in a usual context both the partners are busy working earning a living and may have kids responsibilities too which can create good enough worries for someone who cannot focus on the happy vibes rather to be sunken in sorrow. Remember the Pareto rule, 20% worries and 80% happiness but you must be hanging on the wrong end.

There you go out on social and post things which can show the world your anger, your worry and cry. Most people react and go while a close friend may inquire, and another set of villains are watching your status without you knowing.

Once they are proven on an individual who shows their misery on social, out of nowhere they will be on your messenger asking to offer help, all of a sudden a stranger is going to act as if god made them for you and all what they talk maps to your life miraculously then there go..go down in the wrong direction, if you are not wise neither careful.

So, what can you do to save yourself? These are the few TOP things you shall do, right now.

(1) Learn to appreciate and value life's good, positives and happiness (make more time thinking these)

(2) Immediately STOP thinking about bad, negatives and small issues (This is the cause which worsens overtime)

(3) Don't show your emotions on social (neither in office - but we professionally don't, but does in social) your emotions must be dealt with your loving partner, not with outside world

(4) When talking to strangers or when you are meeting new friends (daemons) know your limits. You shall never ever discuss private things with new strangers for any reason

(5) Remember you have a lovely family life, may be kids - Live It!

(6) Spend LESS time in social - if you can limit it for updates to know and go read books

(7) Live it REAL, social is all FAKE

Go SAVE your life, and your family! Thank me later, and SHARE this, so many others will also be wiser. Special thanks go out to my counselor friend for sharing these unbelievable but true stories and allowing me to share the lessons out of it to help others.