Social truth of adults: 99% of your charm is useful

To employees: it is better to encourage them than to preach truth

Life is like gambling. Good cards and bad cards depend on the fate of the gods. What you play depends on yourself.

As the daughter of Longmen Escort Agency, Tong Xiangyu has always lived a life of luxury since childhood. Later, he followed his parents' orders to marry Mo Xiaobao, the leader of Hengshan Sect.

In the sect infighting, Mo Xiaobao died on the cliff, leading to Tong Xiangyu becoming a widow before she arrived at Hengshan.

Destiny's trick made her say something:

I should not have married from the beginning. If I did not marry, my husband would not die. If my husband did not die, I would not fall into such a sad place

She chose to stay in Guanzhong and bought an inn. They are welcome and send away, living a small life of self-sufficiency.

One night, the moon was dark and the wind was high, the wild cats were howling, and the Seven Heroes Town was shrouded in a quiet night.

Two masked men flew over the eaves and walked across the wall, breaking into the inn. These two are the legendary double evils, both male and female, who make people afraid.

In fact, they are two girls who are determined to wander the Jianghu with a heroic dream. One of them is Guo Furong, the daughter of the head constable of the Six Fans Sect.

She thinks that she has been helping the weak and the righteous and acting on behalf of the heaven all the way, but she doesn't know how to outsmart herself and does evil things with good intentions.

Passing Tongfu Inn in Qixia Town, she assumed that this was an illegal inn and decided to catch all the criminals in the inn.

The female Xia Furong (her self orientation) has been overwhelmed by the waves, but she didn't want to be called a "pirate" in the tavern, Bai Zhantang. She used a sunflower acupoint puncher to fix her down.

When the misunderstanding was lifted, Miss Guo also woke up from her dream of martial arts.

The next night, when the moon was bright and the stars were rare, she sat on the roof and thought about life. Tong Xiangyu brought a bowl of food and sat down.

What is a Xia?

Tong Xiangyu asked.

Guo Furong thinks that the Great Xia is just like her father, wandering the Jianghu and helping the weak.

What does the word "Xia" mean when you open it, one person, one clip?

Tong Xiangyu asked again.

Guo Furong's interpretation is very direct: a man with his tail between his legs.

Tong Xiangyu has a much deeper understanding:

"If there is only fighting and killing in the Jianghu, it is not the Jianghu, but the Blood Lake. The so-called Xia refers to" as long as one is kind and considerate of others, one will naturally be welcomed in the streets. "

(This sentence can be used as a footnote to her life)

At this moment, she is not the innkeeper who cares about every detail, but a bosom sister who always persuades others.

More importantly, she hoped that the younger sister would find the answer by herself.

When the spoiled Miss Guo learns a little life skills, she will praise and encourage her friends generously even if she makes small progress, so that they can work more happily.

She knew that it was better to guide things silently than to preach the great truth.

Tong Xiangyu "subdued" the rebellious Guo Furong with guidance and encouragement, making her willing to stay and work as a handyman in the inn.

He also conquered other employees of the inn with different personalities by means of unity and clear rules on rewards and punishments.

Through years of running in, he has won the love of all people in Qixia Town.

As Mrs. Qian said, "Why do everyone in the Seven Heroes Town only think of you, Tong Xiangyu?"

To the enemy:

Empathy can resolve the crisis at a critical momentThat day, Xiaobei heard that the price of vegetables had risen. In order to subsidize his family, he went to Cuiwei Mountain to pick mushrooms with a basket on his back.

The little girl, who grew wild, went to the Xiliang River with her classmates to catch fish before and came back in the middle of the night. She was scolded.

This time she caused another disaster. The mushrooms she collected were used by Mrs Qian, who had been trying to get hold of Tongfu Inn.

Madam Qian feigned death by pretending to eat poisonous mushrooms, and then came to Tongfu Inn, waving a silk scarf, proudly announced.

She is blessed with great fortune and has not been poisoned by poisonous mushrooms. As compensation, she wants this inn.

If not, she would accuse them of collaborating to poison and murder.

At that time, everyone will have to go to court, and Xiaobei will have to go to hell.

Tong Xiangyu, who was most distressed by Xiaobei, quickly decided: This shop belongs to her. As long as Xiaobei is fine, nothing else matters.

The cock crows three times. What should be cleaned up has been cleaned up, and what should be packed has also been packed. The adults and children are ready to roam the world.

Before leaving, Tong Xiangyu sat down in front of the shopkeeper Qian and said, "Lao Qian, please come to this shop in the future.".

Tong Xiangyu's charming voice and flattery made Lao Qian laugh happily. This music was heard by his wife, who was playing with the abacus, and came up to scratch her ears.

Tong Xiangyu advised: Be nice to him. Anyway, it's your husband.

Madame Qian was unconvinced, and Tong Xiangyu counted the severity of Madame Qian towards her husband.

To be exact, Tong Xiangyu stood at the angle of shopkeeper Qian and touched his pain point:

The multiplication formula could not be recited, but he was forced to recite the drinking order with a slap and was left to eat the chaff and swallow the vegetables alone

Finally, add the finishing touch:

"I only know that since I have decided to stay together all my life, the least respect is still needed."

If you think that Tong Xiangyu is sympathizing with Manager Qian, you are right.

In fact, her real goal is to stimulate the internal contradictions of the Qian family, because the shopkeeper Qian is a typical "hen pecked wife".

When a dog jumps over a wall, a rabbit bites, and a hen-pecked man is forced to fight.

Under Tong Xiangyu's "instigation", the innkeeper Qian turned over and sang. He was the master of the family in the future, and said: "The shop is over!"!

Mrs Qian's plan to occupy the nest of a magpie has failed!

Tongfu Inn, keep it!

Madam Qian, who can crush iron walnuts with her bare hands, was defeated by Tong Xiangyu, who overcame hardness with softness. Before going out, she gritted her teeth and left a sentence: Shopkeeper Tong, how beautiful you are!

This move can make the thief catch the king first. The key is empathy.

Empathy is also called empathy, as the psychological consultant Wu Zhihong said:

I deeply touched your feelings, entered your world, felt what you felt and thought of you.

She is as smart as Tong Xiangyu and can push herself to others. At the critical moment, she inspires shopkeeper Qian's emotional need for respect with empathy.

It's Mrs Qian, but it's the shopkeeper Qian who hurts.

Marshall Luxemburg, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, pointed out that empathy has three powers: healing pain, resolving crisis and avoiding boredom.

Tong Xiangyu made full use of this inherent strength.

Relationship: Know how to show weakness, and you will gain more

One day, Tong Xiangyu said to Bai Zhantang, who had been through ups and downs with him, "Break up!"!

It starts from Tong Xiangyu who ate millennium ginseng by mistake——

A man who was not ill had eaten ginseng, became energetic, his nostrils bled, and he forgot to eat and sleep when he heard the chicken dance.

He also ordered the staff to go out for literacy, anti-pickpocketing, street sweeping, and leaflet distribution, which made everyone angry.

Bai Zhantang's kind advice, an unintentional "Say what you want to say", was replaced by her "If so, break up".

As soon as he said this, Tong Xiangyu regretted it and repeatedly said, "God, God, God.".

As series of "I was dumped, I was dumped, I was dumped" appeared in Bai Zhantang's heart.

Tong Xiangyu at this end of the table, Bai Zhantang at the other end of the table, and everyone at one side of the table were stunned.

At this time, silence is better than voice, and everyone is performing an inner drama.

Guo Furong secretly scolded the landlady for her thoughtlessness. How can we easily say such things as breaking up?

Lu Xiucai respects Bai as a man and regards him as a super idol.

Big mouth silently expressed envy, and others even broke up in such a big scene.

Xiaobei is thinking about who he should help if they fight.

The matchless girl looked on coldly and thought that if this was love, she would rather not have it than have a dog

In and out of the play, people eating melons watch the changes——Obviously, the two of them care so much that they say "I'm sorry" in their hearts, but they just don't move.

In this way, the deadlock lasted for 10000 years.

Finally, they left the table at the same time, took two steps forward, and bowed to each other to apologize.

The two heads collided, but I still couldn't say anything!

A few days later, due to his face, Lao Bai was ready to leave with his luggage on his back.

Hearing that Lao Bai was leaving, Tong Xiangyu, who was still in his boudoir a minute ago, rushed downstairs and asked, "Where are you going?"?

Tong Xiangyu wanted to stay, but he felt that as a shopkeeper, if he took the soft attitude, he would not be able to raise his head in his life.

The bandit saint who once wandered the Jianghu is also a coward in love.She was affectionate and cried in her heart: If you leave, what can I do?

He was affectionate and prayed to himself: Don't let me go, please.Obviously, they all care too much, but they wait for the other party to take the initiative.

In the end, Tong Xiangyu showed his weakness and said: "Lao Bai, stay here!"!

An emotional crisis was resolved.

Don't underestimate Tong Xiangyu's attempt to show weakness. In love relationships, the timing of showing weakness is particularly important.

If you can, like Tong Xiangyu, put down unnecessary self-esteem when necessary, and know how to show weakness, you can avoid people going cold.

Not only in love, but also in life and the workplace, we need to learn to grasp the opportunity to show weakness.

Everyone knows the truth of taking a step back, but they may not know when it is accurate to show weakness. Learn to show weakness in a timely manner in the game of relationships, which is more intelligent.

Caigen Tan Youyan:

"One step is high in dealing with the world, and a step backward is Zhang Ben."

The people in the Jianghu who are dangerous, evil hearted, willing to show weakness, and accurate in showing weakness are really strong.

Where is the Jianghu?

A casual finger is the Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon Jianghu.

To wander in the Jianghu, we need a brave heart and a sound personality, rather than fighting openly and secretly and making every effort.