Social Media Couple

Social media couples. We've all seen them. They post all those amazing things that they do online for all the world to see. And while there is nothing wrong with that, often times it is not real. I started thinking about this when a coworker asked me if my marriage was as good as it looked on FaceBook. The truth is it's not. It's actually much better. I just post the things that I want to celebrate. But there are lots of intimate moments that are reserved for just the wife and I. The point I am making is, we only get to see what the poster wants us to see.

I have literally worked with dozens of couples over the years. And on social media, it would appear as though they discovered love. In my office...getting them to be civil towards each other was a rarity. And that's life. People only let you see what they want you to see. Some people {myself included} are pretty transparent about what is going on in their lives. But many are not. They wear mask. Why? Could be they're hiding pain, disease or trauma. Or maybe, they just want attention. They want to be "Insta" famous. It doesn't matter why they do it, but know they do. Our job is not to judge it. And we should never compare our lives to theirs.?

This is not about calling people out. This is about you writing a story that makes sense to you, for you. So many people are trying to go viral, that they lose themselves in the illusion. It's an addiction. Reminds me of a great line from the movie The Social Network. They were talking about the growth of FaceBook before it really took off. They were discussing their initial evaluation. The line was, "A million dollars isn't cool. You know what's cool? A billion dollars". Get it? 100 Likes is great. You know what is better? 10,000 Likes. Many have become so obsessed?with attention or needing validation, that they go through great lengths to get it. And that is dangerous.?

The quality of your life will greatly improve when you take off your mask. And part of taking off that mask, is doing things just for you. I like to share on social media. And while I share a lot to help others, the goal is not to go viral. The goal is to create a safe place. Paul McCartney once was asked how does he want to be remembered. He said that I made people smile. What I like about that, was he didn't say that my music changed the world, which it most certainly has. He just wants people to feel good.?

We all post for different reasons. I too, post to help elevate. But I will not dissolve myself to get more likes. There are things that I keep private. And I will never lose myself in chasing the "Like". As for me and my wife... we will dance though eternity and allow intimacy to lead. And for the other social media couples out there...may you chase each other as much as you chase the "Like". No need to compare. Dance as though no one is watching. 10 "Likes" or 10,000 "Likes". It matters not. Focus on your relationship. Chase that.?