#soberrebel

Wine cooler? Heck no. No room for a six pack in the counter-depth fridge either. Why? Because alcohol proved an ineffective coping strategy for life’s complexities. It simply delayed the work of doing the work.?

I used to be that person who watched the time looking forward to Wine O’clock. The glass of red that befriended me while I cooked dinner. But the glasses added up over time. Alcohol is addictive. And not so suddenly it was the main thing I looked forward to over everything else.?

Meanwhile I just didn’t deal with stuff, all the processing of grief, resentment, chronic anxiety didn’t happen. I just accepted and doused it in the numbing agent that every screen told me was “normal” and would make me have a good time. But I wasn’t having a good time.?

So, Four Years Ago today, in the middle of the pandemic summer of uncertainty, while there were bigger things to fear, I decided to become a #soberrebel. This decision enabled every other major improvement that came thereafter. Four Years Ago I began the work of solving the deep insecurity, so I could quit performing the expectations.?

I guess you could say Four Years Ago, I took the first step off the paved road toward my unconventional and aligned life.?

If you too feel unhappy in your conventional life and wonder what something else might look like, take my Unconventional Values Quiz . AND maybe Google “Sober October”.

What a great time of year to shed old coping strategies. Cheers to doing it differently!