So here's me, Giving in to the FOMO of writing the top 5 takes from a Book

Yes indeed,

A single book can change our life.

Here's me a short copywriter trying my hand at long-form because some books do change us.

The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga is a book full of surprising lessons.

I read it recently during my first no-work-completely-jobless week in a long time.

It is like a modern take on Shunryu Suzuki's Zen Mind that incorporates what Fumitake Koga describes as "the shock value of Adlerian psychology."

The book unfolds through exchanges between a philosopher and student. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each human being exists to determine our own life, free from the limits of past experiences, doubts, and the expectations of others. It is set up to invite readers to see through self-created limitations other people seem to place on us.

So here's me giving in to the FOMO of writing the top 5 takes from the book "The Courage To Be Disliked"

1. Accept you cannot please everyone.

To be true to yourself means accepting how you feel, expressing your truth and accepting everyone is not going to agree with you or see the world in the same way you do.

Agree to disagree and life is then much simpler.

2. Discover all relationship problems mirror inner conflict.

The view offered is that we create relationships as a means to get to know ourselves. This problem we think we have with others point to our unconscious resistance to accepting parts of our shadow.

3. Seeking recognition is an ego trap.

Instead of seeking recognition, pinpoint why you do not recognise yourself as you are.

4. Discard other people's tasks.

You are taught to live according to other people's views, desires, direction and perceptions of life's purpose and experiences.

Recognising who and what you truly live for is a thought-provoking and potentially life-transforming journey.

5. Trusting yourself and being confident are not the same.

You only begin to see through and dismantle smokescreens when the ego becomes a friend and teacher.