So Busy that You Have no Time to Love?

Hi there, fellow growth seeker and love-being!

Welcome back. I trust my previous newsletter topic, The Steps that Lead to Great Emotional, Mental, and Physical Health, was valuable for you and your family, relationship, entrepreneurial, career, business, and financial success. As they say, your health is your most incredible wealth.

I decided the topic of this week's newsletter to be love. Yes, you heard me right; let's talk about why so many of you deny yourself the most beautiful gift one can give – to love and be loved.

Are you someone feeling you are too busy to find love? Do you say I am so busy with work that I have no time for love? Do you often say to yourself I am better off on my own? That there is no one out there good enough for me?

But have you ever wondered what your single life says about you, your beliefs, values, and love? Wouldn't you want to know what keeps your love away? What can you do to find a meaningful relationship?

The first thing is to make being in love a priority. The truth is, you are stronger and more fulfilled with being in love. The reason is, no matter whom I coach, being people identifying themselves as entrepreneurs, high achievers, leaders, business owners, celebrities, or CEOs of fortune 500 organisations, one thing they all have in common is they too want to fulfil their ever-evolving relationship voids and attract a co-loving relationship to enjoy the fruits of their success. Many of them used the five steps of The Unfakeable Code? to unmask those coping mechanisms that prevented them from finding love.

Before I share more, let me thank you for choosing to be part of the tribe that loves to Unfakeably Influence The World.

But not all people know how to achieve the kind of relationship breakthroughs and mindset shifts needed to overcome challenges and grow their existing relationship or attract a new one. And that's why so many people remain stuck in repeated relationship patterns and live a single life from the fear of not being hurt one more time. I wrote The Unfakeable Code? multi-award winning book to show you how to transform the disempowered and disowned parts of yourself that makes you give in to the transient "relationship-biased persona" and let doubts, fears, uncertainty, and judgments control your relationship choices in life.

Are you so busy that you have no time to find love? Or are you avoiding addressing those parts of you that push love away?

Busyness is not a good excuse for not finding love. It's not an excuse at all. If you want to be in a relationship, then it asks of you to make time for it. Many clients say: "If it is meant to be, then it will happen!" The truth is far from it. Do you say the same about your meals? Or do you take action daily, go to the grocery store, pick up your food, and come home and cook it?

So you may consider stopping making excuses as to why you couldn't find the right person because chances are that they were there all along but somehow ended up being overlooked by your busy schedule (and maybe even yourself). The bottom line is this: time passes, so don't let being too busy prevent you from having what you want in life—especially when it comes to being in a co-loving and nurturing relationship!

Busyness is a state of mind. Busyness can be a way of avoiding feelings and emotions. Busyness can be a way of avoiding yourself and your life. Busyness is not the same as productivity or hard work, which are good things, but an indicator that you are ignoring something important in your life. You might also say: I am so tired I cannot think straight!

Do you say to yourself I am better off on my own? There is no one out there for me?

You are not alone. Having had relationships with both women and men, I learned much about what doesn't work, what works, and what I needed to change to be the person I want to be. I learned to be open to new experiences and meet new people on this journey. To identify exactly what I did and did not want. I observe it in many clients who reach out to me to help them address relationship conflicts, avoiding behaviours, blame, divorce, repeated patterns, ?betrayal, loneliness, etc.

I ask all of my clients what does your single life say about you, their beliefs, values, and your idea of what love is and is not? I would spend hours coaching them on this question until we get to the root of their relationship issue. As their perceptions of past hurtful and painful events change, the answer to this question shifts and changes. In most of my client's cases, on this journey, they end up attracting the ideal partner they deep down knew they deserved. ?

It is time to stop blaming yourself and forgive yourself for all you have done or have not done. Because, in doing so, you release the energy you can use to attract love.

You may have no idea your problem or what you are doing wrong. Suppose you have tried many things, read many books, attended many courses, and still find yourself single and looking for love. In that case, you may want to invest in integrated and holistic relationship coaching and healing. As your coaching partner, the first step towards finding a solution to your relationship problem is identifying the real problem, and that's exactly what we're going to do from day one. We will answer, "What does your single life say about your values and what you can do to change that."

To understand why you may be blocking love in your life, the first step you may want to take is to identify where you are in the process of dating and relationships—and whether or not it's working out for you!

So what comes for you if you ponder the question: What keeps your love away?

There are many reasons why you can miss being in love. But the most common is that many of you tell yourselves you don't have time for it. There's always something to do, someone to meet, and something going on in your life. You barely have time to breathe, let alone take a moment and think about who you are and what you want out of life.

However, no matter how much you like being busy and having your hands full with things that need doing—or even if you're just too lazy to try anything new—the fact remains any area you don't empower, someone else will overpower you. If there are days when all you do is sleep late into the afternoon because nothing interests you anymore (and there are nights when even sleep doesn't bring any peace), then something isn't right with your life. And maybe it's time for some significant changes!

Here are five relationship-building principles I use with my clients that you can use to help you on your journey to finding love:

1. To unleash the power of being in love, you ought to prioritise being in love.
2. Work daily on loving unconditionally and accepting yourself for all you are and are not.
3. Be your best self by getting in great shape, staying healthy and having a work-life balance so that you have plenty of energy and time for the right relationship.
4. Become a great listener more than anyone else because people who listen well attract others easily.
5. Develop charismatic qualities such as charm, wit and charisma so that people like being around you when they meet you.

Use the above five principles to help you find someone who is already attracted to you because they want what's already inside them, something I share more in the multi-award-winning book ?The Unfakeable Code?. You may also want to read the Love chapter in A Path to Wisdom to learn more about the science of unconditional love and how to heal yourself from past wounds and quickly transform your vibration to attract love. Many of you know about the Law of Attraction, but very few know how to make it work for you and attract the relationship you want to stay in. The Law of Attraction, as described in A Path to Excellence, can help you fall in love.

Conclusion

Being in love is not just about the companionship you will receive along the life journey; it is also the best opportunity you will have that helps you be more of the authentic individual you were born to be. Relationships that are trustworthy and co-loving grow stronger with time. They teach you about the significant difference you will make in each other's life, the wounds you will heal, the masks you will unveil and the experiences you will create. It's something that many of my clients say to others when they recommend my relationship breakthrough coaching services: "He is the Jason Born of helping you get the love you want."

Remember, the key to finding love is transforming what's in your mind and heart that stops you from letting love touch your body, mind, heart, and soul. May what I have shared support you in finding love and creating a more harmonious and meaningful relationship. Love yourself first; then, others will follow suit.

I trust you got much inspiration and value from this week's article. For those of you who want to create a personal, relationship, career, business, leadership, team and financial breakthroughs, as your coaching partner, my focus is to work together on finding out exactly the root cause of your blocks and effectively and efficiently create the mindset, the vision, and the plan on accelerating your journey to abundance, excellence, influence, love, success, fulfilment and inspiration.

Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi - Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Life and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year Award, the EXPY, Quilly?, Silver Winner of Literary Book Award, Maincreast Media Book Award, NYC Big Book Award, Reader's Favourite and Book Excellence Award for A Path to Wisdom, Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code?, and A Path to Excellence.

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Love and Wisdom

Tony J. Selimi – I am an Award-Winning Author, Speaker, and Transformational Life and Business Coach Specialising in Human Behaviour, Leadership Excellence, and Maximising Human Potential. Winner of the London SME Most Visionary Entrepreneur, Corporate Coaching and Recruitment Business Coach of the Year Award. Silver Winner of Literary Book Award, USA Book, Book Excellence, Top Shelf Magazine, Maincreast Media Book Award, NYC Big Book Award, Reader's Favourite, the EXPY, and Quilly? Award for A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness, The Unfakeable Code?, and A Path to Excellence in the following categories: Personal Growth and Development, Self Improvement, Self Help, Inspirational, Motivational, Entrepreneurship, and Business and Leadership.

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