That Sneaky "Son-of-a-Bitch!"

Money, Money, Money!!!

Those words are like nails scratching on a chalkboard!

Most people do not like to hear or for that matter talk about Money! In fact, most rather “numb-down” that topic because it evokes too much emotion.

So they say things like this…

“I’m doing okay!”

“Money comes, money goes!”

“I didn’t need that after all!”

“I’m happy where I am!”

What are the chances that those people will increase their wealth? Slim to none!

But will positive affirmations or money chants lead them to prosperity, cash flowing like a river?

Hell no!!

I’m going to get very serious with you here! I’m going to share the number one cause of what’s blocking your Money Flow!

It’s Your Money Shame!

Did I just see your head crouch down? Did your heart just sink a touch?

Listen, I’m not here to create more Shame in your life. No, my goal here is to shine some light on this Shadow side of your money.

I will be completely honest with you, writing this triggered me too. I had to take a moment because I felt this rush of anxiety that became a little overwhelming and made my stomach nauseous. (Luckily for me, I use EFT -emotional freedom technique to ease some of that anxiety.)

Yep, my money shame was rising up like lava rises up in a volcano.

Brené Brown says that “Shame grows exponentially with these 3 ingredients – secrecy, silence, and judgment.”

Shame thrives when it is nicely hidden way down in your body and the moment you begin to shine some light on it, it becomes this scary monster so that you do not have to deal with it and it goes back to it’s “safe cave” way back down in your body.

You know how it gets you? It tells you, ” get over it and just keep working harder!’

It is a sneaky “son-of-a-bitch”! It’s that part of you that does not want to let you go! It likes to see you in depression, hidden from the world, and addictive to outside elements. And yes, overworking is an addiction!

What does Money Shame look like?

First of all, it is an inner voice that just loves to whisper in your ear. It sounds like this – “Who do you think you are teaching this?” or ” You are not smart enough!” “You are not ready for this!” “You’re not enough!” Now that inner voice can be even meaner and say things like – “You’re not skinny enough!” “You don’t have enough education!” “You aren’t pretty enough!”

Those words are scarcity of your self-worth!

Let me lay down something for you –

YOUR MONEY DOES NOT EQUAL YOUR SELF-WORTH!

Shame is about the Self! It becomes very personal and it literally breaks the heart of oneself.

I truly believe that when Shame is dominant, personal power is weakened.

This is why it is so important to open up the conversation and shine light on Shame specifically – Money Shame!

Because as long as you keep your money relationship hidden, silent and judgmental, you just keep giving more power to that Money Shame! And this leads to a downward spiral that keeps you under-earning; stuck in the cycle of feast or famine, and in constant survival mode.

Money Shame does not discriminate. Even the most successful entrepreneurs and high performers have their moments when they have ridden that train of the “downward spiral” causing disrupt in their business and in their personal life.

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Until next time...remember - Giving Up Is Not An Option!

Angelica Marie