A Sneak Peek Into The Mating-Dating Market

4 weeks ago, one of my colleagues at work read out aloud;

"more unemployed ladies are getting married than the employed ones" Haha! My people... IS IT TRUE? Nawa o! WHY?

She read those words with a curious glee in her eyes. I could not help myself but to shift my attention from what I was busy with and give a thoughtful look at the sentiments surrounding the whole statement.

Then I noticed that it was a random Facebook or WhatsApp update from her phone, that she had just read to our hearing.

Her question evoked mild responses and contributions from a few other colleagues around, except myself (the curious listener).

I got myself engrossed with one of the responders, Mike. I was listening to him, wondering about the trueness of his observations and evidence.

Mike asked me, "Are you not aware of the news that circulated on the internet, at a time that many female soldiers were passionately searching for responsible lovers?

He asked me another question. He said "Haven't you heard of corps members dating and asking out young and beautiful female soldiers during their 3-week orientation camp before?

I instantly disagreed with him and told him that it is impossible. I didn't believe him at all.

My strong point of view was "how can grand and gallant female soldiers bring themselves so low to the level of male corp members?"

How impossible!

I did not believe such a kind of possibility and compatibility exists until yesterday when I saw the viral video https://youtu.be/nW50oGoYLoc of a handsome male corp member who proposed to a beautiful female soldier with a ring and series of controversial kisses.

After replaying the video many many times. I scoured the internet for a counter proof but I found none. I realized the video was neither fake nor fictional.

What am I driving at?

There is something about

knowledge acquired,

Accomplishments won,

Reputations bagged,

Experiential-exposure gained,

and that feeling of "Do you know who I am?" that we get from these wonderful things.

It's about the way we allow them "enter our head", puff up our subconscious mind, and inflate our bubbles.

Knowledgeability truly makes us look more attractive to other people, so does great accomplishments, reputations and all of those exposures.

But there is a BUT!

Which is, these same admirable attributes that are capable of making us more attractive to other people can also make us become very irritating, repulsive and unreachable to those whom we claim to be precious and dear to us.

The moment we develop a sense of superiority complex, like "I cannot even sit with him", or "her level is just too low for me... See how she's talking". We begin to miss the essence of all forms of relationship, comparing ourselves with ourselves which is unwise.

Like the kingdom of God, friendship is not for those who cannot "unload" and humble themselves, genuinely.

It is not for those who feel that they are too wealthy to woo or too classy be wooed.

It is not for those who think they are unquestionable.

Just as it is hard for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, It is difficult for a "knowledgeable, highly accomplished, reputable and exposed" woman/man to make a good, enviable and not-easily broken pair.?

But WITH GOD (by His grace), all things are possible, and effortlessly easy.

In all your becoming!

Remember that, if you do not value genuine humility. You have no business with sustaining, maintaining and building relationships of any form and to any levels.

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