A Slogan without a Precise Message adds to Confrontation in the Gender Harmonious Relationship (P-4/6)

As already narrated, it is human nature that no one comes with a choice, name, identity or personality in this world and environmental factors shape an individual’s personality and society paints his appearances with faith, attitudes, moral and ethical standards, habits and thinking pattern that he applies in meeting life challenges. “Certainly, Allah knows what they conceal and what they reveal. Truly, He likes not the proud”(V-16:23).

 Therefore whenever there is an ambiguous statement made, each one perceives it from one’s own prospective and draw the conclusion without deeply understanding WHO<WHAT< WHY<WHEN< HOW< WHERE <WHOM making a statement. People are impressed without judging the motive and personality apparently like his playing role (Persona, facial beauty sex, dress, facial expressions, tone etc.) of the actor. So, by ignoring this natural law of human development, they are tricking each other with the persona and role playing to meet their personal targets. Sometimes the speaker makes extremist, confusing and dual-meaning statements to get sympathy or apply negative attention-seeking behavior like a spoiled child within the family affairs. Debating for the sake of debating is foolishness by a normal human without observing own body about prevailing law of nature on this earth. It is reminded that He Created pairs in V-51; 48-49,”And We have spread out the earth, how Excellent Spreader (thereof) are We! And of everything We have created pairs, that you may remember (the Grace of Allah).”                                                                              

People in the flow of debate forget to search the underlying complexes of the narrators and blindly get into emotional discussions. While deciding such sensitive issues, the judges who are human beings, are emotionally weak with lack of deep variant human psyche (RUH), and naturally get biased in their decisions. No doubt one should respect the female but have equivalent justification in legal affairs. History is full of biased and favorable judgments in corrupt, politically-tuned cases. So, in the implementing, judges have to be psychologically fit and be equipped about human complexes, and their mental level, maturity, divine knowledge, morality, self-control and self-awareness, faith, personality impoverishment, instinctive weakness etc., may hinder the process of thinking, data collection and mental health during the proceeding of such cases. Therefore, instead of polarizing or penalizing any sex or looking at the western models, it is the moral duty of the court and social media to develop harmony, the comprehension of rights-duties with understanding of Islamic heritage toward a moderate (middle) path leading toward peaceful life.                   

In the stated news program related to guest comments appears as cultural shock to the masses of sensitive divine followers. One needs to understand the underlying psychological causes of such frustration, depression, aggression, helplessness, confusion etc., in a certain group’s leader of Muslim parents and Islamic heritage. It also indicates the present social maturity level, education, basic morality, ethnicity, human needs, motive of bargaining, and modeling impact of western feminist concept. The Divine naib status of human being has regressed to an undisciplined state like animal to just eat, drink and have sex to pass life. Therefore, for the comprehension of the message by a layman, its solution may be achieved by applying the formula W< W< W< H< W> W. It means as (WHO< WHAT< WHERE< WHEN< HOW<WHY>WHOM).                                                                                              

So, the human being has been created for a purpose and life is not just to have fun, play and achieve pleasures. In order to keep the world on a moderate, logical, productive natural system, the Originator provides His people to pass a meaningful and peaceful life with the right direction through His messengers and prophets in various nations. So, it is revealed in V-57:20,” Know that the life of this world is only play and amusement, pomp and mutual boasting among you, and rivalry in respect of wealth and children, as the likeness of vegetation after rain, thereof the growth is pleasing to the tiller; afterwards it dries up and you see it turning yellow; then it becomes straw. But in the Hereafter (there is) a severe torment (for the disbelievers, evil-doers), and (there is) Forgiveness from Allah and (His) Good Pleasure (for the believers, good-doers), whereas the life of this world is only a deceiving enjoyment.”                                                                 

On the other hand, as a part of a male-dominant Muslim society, they preach about morality and feminine rights but with contradictory deeds, which is against these verdicts in V-61:2-3,” O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allah that you say that which you do not do.” So, simple directions are provided to human beings to pass a disciplined and meaningful life through self-control on the evil dominating wishes in life, such as stated in Surah Bani Israel:- V-17:25,”Your Lord knows best what is in your inner-selves. If you are righteous, then, verily, He is Ever Most Forgiving to those who turn unto Him again and again in obedience, and in repentance.”                                                                         V-17:31-32,” And kill not your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Surely, the killing of them is a great sin. And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him).”

As far as natural gender relationship is concerned, it is quoted in V-2:223,” Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) before you for your own selves. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers”.

In fact due to contradictory practices, the social media boom of romantic scenes has triggered in the teenagers and unmarried poor population a number of sexual assaults, harassment, prostitution, child abuse, suicidal and homicidal crimes, etc. People like to pass a fantasy life by watching media shows, films, dramas etc., intentionally to have such life that may not be possible but in this attempt at romances, they ruin their own and others’ life. In the present western capitalist society, their movies, social media, TV programs are glamorous in nature, but free of old traditions and morality. It has brought a negative impact on a repressed culture. So, the new generation is keenly pursuing the fantasy models. In such society of moral values, the exciting romantic dialogue, sexually provocative dresses, dialogues, action to make high drama and TV ratings, lead to a contradictory cultural system with negative results.

As already pointed out, the ignorance and restriction on healthy growth of the teenagers of this vital humanistic instinct, I observed that a high number of sexual and marital issues have merged in the developing country. So, I selected this subject in my doctoral research for the clinical diagnosis and treatment of couples/marital affective sexual interaction. I also found that Master and Johnson research based on resolution of marital sexual issues is a prominent research related to this subject. So, after getting insight about these aspects, I completed my doctoral thesis, “Gestalt therapy for Sexual Awareness in the Marital Unit” and applied it in the internship.

Presently, it is up to a person to get benefit of the revealed human knowledge by applying the given scientific tools to correct his self and pass life on this earth. Since the origin of Adam, the healthy and wealthy have become arrogant by making exaggerating statements to impress or dominate fellow human beings. Historically, no one is born with a choice of gender, color, caste, physical and psychological traits; neither has anyone control on health, physical appearances, sickness, death or luck like marriage, profession, wealth or power etc. It is quoted in V-76:1-3,” Has there not been over man a period of time, when he was nothing to be mentioned? Verily, We have created man from Nutfah drops of mixed semen (discharge of man and woman), in order to try him, so We made him hearer, seer. Verily, We showed him the way, whether he be grateful or ungrateful.”      

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