Slicing through the bulls*t

If only the bullshitters in this world were just like Pinocchio and every time they spoke bullshit, their noses would grow and you knew they were bullshitting you. Just think, how handy would this be in not wasting your precious time?

But unfortunately, this isn’t the case and some will learn, whilst others won’t, all because this stems down to them not understanding the lessons and not allowing self-growth.

The beauty of the journey of self-growth, you actually embrace ‘ME time and don’t feel alone, with it you stay true to yourself, people and your surrounding, as well as getting acquainted with yourself and needs.

You discover parts of you that you never knew before, what you once thought you enjoyed doing, you actually don’t no more.?

Back in the day, I loved to party, get wasted, so much so, I couldn’t get enough, as a result I couldn't see clearly that I was allowing bullshit situations and people with their bullshit into my life.

This wasn’t just a weekend affair, but also on school nights, as they call them. I would have if I was lucky 2 hours’ sleep, sometimes none at all, and straight into work.

Now is a different story, I love my alone time to chill and have my threesome with Netflix and Amazon prime, occasionally Apple TV would join us or followed by a good book to read before I go to sleep.

Above all, I can see more clearly and am more focus with my surroundings including, my genuine needs accompanied with a voice that lets others know if you attempt to waste my time with your bullshit to simply fuck off.

Don’t get me wrong, I socialise still to this day, the only difference now as I have got older, I know how to use my time more constructively than I did back then, this includes what, whom I allow into my surroundings.

Self-growth is not just about you as an individual growing stronger mentally, you develop skills along the journey.

You see situations and people for what they really are and knowing you have a choice to entertain it or not.??

I will give you an example just so we are on the same wavelength; let’s say you go for a particular person whom you know will never change as a potential partner and straight away you see the same characteristics as you did, say with John or Lucy.

Honeymoon season is over just over a month, they are not texting you as they often did, no plans are being arranged like before, excuses after excuses are being made, and basically, it’s a tug-of-war scenario between being benched and ghosted at the same time. You end up making excuses for John or Lucy's behaviour.?

Months pass by to the point you don’t hear from them, this ends up making you feel like shit and you have done something wrong.?

You make excuses for their actions and have simply wasted your time that’s precious and could have been used on someone that appreciates the value of your presence and you for what you are.

Saying that, we as humans needs to experience some level of bullshit from situations and other people who come into our lives in order to learn the lessons. Sadly, not everyone realises this and continues to allow bullshit to enter their lives.

I always encourage my friends and clients in investing in themselves, and do the job I do because I know how rewarding it is if an individual is willing and consistent.

Self-working isn't just about being a good person, doing the right things, turning your weaknesses into strengths.

You learn your value and are aware bullshit is around the corner, with it you have a choice to entertain or slice through bullshit. Regardless, if attachment is steering you right in the face, you're like;

‘I have been here before ‘Bitch’ and actually could do without this again, furthermore I am now in control goodbye’.

Time is so precious and we are not on this earth for long,?I was reminded of this as I was nursing my late father 3 years ago.

I remember pausing and going back into time and realising?my insecurities and low esteem stemmed from myself once weighing 15 stones, and taking criticism from a lot of fuckers.?

Luckily, through the self-work I did not just on mind also my body, I realised these fuckers were no better than me and it came down to them being powerless to sort themselves out therefore, would pray on others to fuck up to feel good in themselves.?

Yes, I was a target of opening my door to bullshit, but I also learn't I was living an illusion filled with crap that was waiting on my behalf to be dispose of for good.

I decided I would no longer waste my time with waste men, nor people who would waste my time, It was that simple.

Through self-working on myself, to cut the long story short my instinct radar for bullshit was right on point. I would go on dates and knew within 20min max if the man was full of shit, wanting just a shag from me, to being an absolute prick.?

I could distinguish the seasonal friends to the all-round season friends who were truly there for me.?

I stopped wasting my time on pursuing unrealistic work ventures and worked on my goals to grow my business and at the same time new skills and mastering the existing ones.

I actually didn’t feel I was alone no more instead, I felt a long-awaited peace within me like I have never experienced before.

Some people don’t like the truth, me personally it frees me from wasting anymore of my precious time and letting others know this to.?

Warning:?

When slicing through the bullshit, some people can view this as you being arrogant, and some people not all, will place their backs up to you and try to portray you as not being approachable, right down to imposing their faults on you.

But the positive aspect of slicing through the bullshit, you actually attract people that are on your wave lengh, so either way it’s a win-win situation.?

Honesty is the best policy:

Firstly, your being honest and people who can’t handle the truth are the ones that like to live in the illusion zone and only want to hear what they want.

When you're being blunt and direct and have your own views, some people feel intimidated by this, that is their problem, not yours.?

If that individual took a step back and appreciated a person is being direct, they will understand this; that person is being honest and can be trusted for their honesty and no filter responses.

Ask yourself this: would you rather have a person who is honest and has honest opinions, so when you ask a question, you can get an honest answer??

Or?

would you rather have an individual who constantly spits bullshit that you believe, only to stab you in the back when you least expect it??

It also applies the same way when a person is constantly bitching about others. Just what are they saying behind your back?

When slicing through the bullshit, you actually pave way for people that are best suited for you, and limit entertaining bullshit.

I call it being smart and placing yourself ahead of the game in attracting positivity in your life.

Above all, when slicing through the bullshit, you are being true to the one person and that is you, never forget that!

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