Situations change people for good

Two men visit a Zen master. The first man says: “I’m thinking of moving to this town. What’s it like?” The Zen master asks: “What was your old town like?” The first man responds: “It was dreadful. Everyone was hateful. I hated it.” The Zen master says: “This town is very much the same. I don’t think you should move here.” The first man leaves and the second man comes in. The second man says: “I’m thinking of moving to this town. What’s it like?” The Zen master asks: “What was your old town like?” The second man responds: “It was wonderful. Everyone was friendly and I was happy.

Just interested in a change now.” The Zen master says: “This town is very much the same. I think you will like it here.” When I read that story, I always like to imagine that the two men came from the same town. The easiest way to improve your life is to change your perspective. Does that always make it the best way? I don’t know. But it sure should be the first thing you try.

Remember we are not at age 60 the same persons we were at age 16. We meet people who have good examples to share, good words of wisdom, and accumulate knowledge, which we draw on to make better moral and ethical decisions from, or most of us do. It is almost like we are new persons, every few years, and our bodies just hold the memories of what we did in the past based on our knowledge base of what we have accumulated as life experience and awareness. We can direct our thinking to determine what kind of person we will be in the future, as well.

In a random way, we are all improving, as stupidity causes suffering, and if nothing else, the avoidance of pain and suffering, encourages us to consider how to improve our lives, and our environment around us. Time changes and people too. The most important parameters that change the people are; Experiences, Money and Times. Here experiences teaches you that nobody around you gives a damn if you have no money and then onward with time you starts working hard and earn lots of money which changes you a lot.

The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself. Self-care isn’t just for you, it’s for the people around too so that they get the best version of you, Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, & start getting excited about what could go right. Everyone has purpose.

You become unstoppable when you finally figure out your purpose. A sign of emotional maturity is the ability to start tough conversations , even when you know that you’re not going to like the outcome. Remember that whatever makes you happy & harms none is exactly what you’re supposed to be doing. Saying sorry is not enough to make people stay.

Personality psychologist Carl Jung didn’t type people for the fun of it. He did it for a very specific purpose: To help people change. “It is not the purpose of a psychological typology to classify human beings into categories – this in itself would be pretty pointless.” – Carl Jung, “Psychological Typology” Jung believed every person’s personality modified and adapted to its current state. Your experiences ultimately created, and continue to create, your reality. In fact, it is your thoughts about your experiences that create your reality.

What happens when a person ‘chooses’ a personality, but later experiences an event that goes against that reality? For example, an extroverted child loves to make as many friends as possible - a complete social butterfly. But, one day, the child witnesses the dark side of humanity. She opens Pandora’s Box. Her reality cracks. Everything she thought was true is a lie. A new neural pathway sparks in the brain. Again, and again, the child experiences events that continue strengthening this new neural pathway; until, one day, she becomes a true introvert. The old pathway, or thought process, dies, and another is born. I was that child. Cheers!