Silver or Grey Divorce

Orson Willis once said , We are born alone , live alone and die alone , Only through love and friendship do we create for a moment the illusion that we are not alone. Why live in illusions.

70's and 80's Bollywood Romances and songs like Jo wada kiya wo nibhana padega , have led us or rather our Generation to have unlimited expectations from love and Life.And when these bloated expectations are not met with , reality hits us real hard. This happens both with men and women. Often a period comes , when you find your personal life in shambles

Late life divorce also known as silver divorce are becoming more common and more acceptable on date. Why does this happen. What happens to the couple that promised one another till death do us part to end up in a divorce court.

Now let's say you are 50 or 60 , you could go on 30 more years. A lot of marriages are not horrible but they are no longer loving or satisfying . They may not be ugly , but you say , do I really want 30 more years of this.

Two things happen , one you realize that adequate no longer suffices , two it is no longer a stigma. But perhaps , the biggest reason for this is the changing status of women who initiate 60% of the divorces post 40. They are more empowered , liberated and know what they want.Women tend to have higher emotional expectations from their lives.

It is not that men are not disenchanted with their lives , it is just that they do not like to rock the boat.

Basically the marriage has run out of juice. When cracks in the relationship deepan into crevices and emotional distance becomes more apparent , I think it is time to move on.

By the time most couples enter their Mid to Late 50's , children usually have their own lives and it becomes painfully clear that their parents dont need to stay together for their kids. Children , despite becoming adults , try and ensure that the family does not break up , the parents realise that the children no longer get to dictate the terms of their relationship.

I personally think , it is up to us to show the children whether to live for love or for fear. Will you stay in a relationship because you love what you have or because you fear the unknown. I hope my children in end choose love over fear.

Beyond the emotional toll , the economics start to factor in . Both in keeping couples in unhappy union and in inspiring them to check out.

It is scary to take the leap into unknown. It is a giant leap of faith , but yes if it gives you the freedom of choice why not. It is a tough path , but the hell ,you only live once. Give yourself the break you deserve.