The Silent Protector !!

The silent protector!

We might have convinced ourselves that we are the ones parenting our kids and are trying to navigate, drive and nudge them in a noble, safe, and thought-through direction. You might have been made to believe that we need to protect our kids and we are supposed to safeguard them from all wrong choices, decisions, actions, risks, and threats.

?The reality however is a bit different. Kids protect themselves by protecting the very parent who is supposed to protect him or them in the first place. It’s a weird confusing cycle of nature.

?You are not the hero of their life, they are of yours! You are not the protector, savior, or the messiah, they are for you!

?While you look after them, feed them, and see them grow, we do not realize how they change us, mold us, transform us and protect us.

?Kids are like time. Both make us wiser without even letting us know.

How their pure consciousness, their eyes, their touch, their laughter, and their reactions become our moral compass. In the turbulent ocean of life, kids become your navigator.

?We all need a reason to change, a cause big enough to challenge our conditioning, and children undoubtedly become that reason. H/she becomes the reason we decide to be calmer and saner because we know they will be watching. He/she is the reason why we decide to work on that temperament because we know they will be watching. He/she is the reason why we want to be more honest, and careful in speech and action because we know they will be watching.

?They are always watching and that’s how they are always protecting us.

?In their silent, sometimes noisy, naughty, mysterious ways, they keep an eye on us, they force us to behave, and they give us the reason to transmute and evolve.

?Their touch offers an unspoken promise, the twinkle in their eyes offers assurance and those giggles offer you a commitment “ whatever it is, we will be there, whatever it takes, we won’t let you fall”

?And yet we believe we are the ones taking care of them.

?Man proposes, child disposes but since man is stupid, he proposes again, and then the child throws a fit, puts a tantrum, crosses his/her arms, makes a cute puppy face, and then…. Yes disposes of again!

Who are we to protect them, we are too small, too serious, too intellectual, and too egoistic to protect a self-sustainable mechanism of nature.

?You might carry a title for the world, you might have a huge bank balance, you might be an author ( like in my case.. lol), or you might be a man/woman of honor, when the little one says “ I want to play, I want to poop, I want to puke” – you better drop the world and listen.

?They bring us back to the ground. They make us humble. They remind us of ourselves by stripping our achievements, accomplishments, and materialistic manifestation. They keep the “ I” in us under check.

?Isn’t this the biggest insurance policy?

?Remember Gordon in the movie Dark Knight? I feel he was right when he said

?“Because he is the hero Gotham deserves, but not the one it needs right now. Because he can take it. Because he is not our hero. He is a silent guardian, a watchful protector. A dark knight. “

?All kids are batman. The silent protector. The watchful guardian. The hero our life deserves but the one it needs.

?Because the fool asked the wise man again ” How do I make sure my child turns out to be good?”

The wise man replied “you can’t! just make sure you turn out fine!”

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