The Silent Killer Among Us: Intergenerational Trauma

Intergenerational trauma is the transmission of the effects of trauma from one generation to the next. It occurs when trauma experiences are not adequately addressed, and subsequent generations continue to experience the repercussions of the original trauma. The effects can be long-lasting and may include feelings of fear, grief, loss, anxiety, depression, anger, helplessness, and hopelessness. Individuals may also experience physical symptoms such as headaches, fatigue, and sleep disturbances.

In the words of Bessel Van der Kolk (who wrote “The Body Keeps the Score”), the ability to feel safe is “probably the most important aspect of mental health”. When we grow up with family dynamics that make us feel unsafe and unvalidated in our feelings and experiences, we can struggle to move past our personal and familial trauma.

One of our jobs in therapy is to help our clients experience what is known as felt safety, which is an empathetic relationship based on the therapist’s unconditional acceptance of the individual’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

When dealing with generational trauma, it's essential to help individuals understand that the problem is not necessarily something they have created but rather something they have inherited.

Some ways to break intergenerational trauma may include:

1. Seek therapy: Therapy can help individuals and families process and heal from trauma. It can also help individuals develop coping skills and improve communication within the family. Recognition of the trauma and its impact can create a safe and supportive space for those affected and reduce any stigma and shame associated with the event.
2. Seek out cultural and community resources: Seek support from trusted friends, family, and mental health professionals, and utilize resources such as group therapy, community-based interventions, and support groups. Connecting to these resources can provide a sense of belonging and connection that can be helpful in breaking the cycle of intergenerational trauma.
3. Engage in healing practices: Taking care of your physical and emotional health is important to stimulate healing. Practicing meditation, mindfulness, exercising, or engaging in any activity that brings you joy and relaxation can be helpful in managing symptoms of trauma, reducing stress, and promoting overall well-being.
4. Create connections: Connect with others by building social support networks with those who have similar experiences. This can help to create a sense of belonging and promote healing.
5. Educate yourself: Understanding trauma's historical and cultural context can help individuals and communities better understand and process their experiences. This may involve reading books, attending lectures, and engaging in dialogue with others who have experienced similar traumas. Addressing these issues can be empowering and help prevent future traumatic events.
6. It takes immense strength and resilience to confront the painful legacy of past generations, but the rewards of doing so are immeasurable. Through this healing process, we transform ourselves and create a better future for those who come after us.

If you are experiencing trauma or need support, I am here to support you every step of the way. I am always a phone call or email away.

Your mental health ally,

Nicolle